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My sisters have been planning a small shower for me, which will be held at one of my sister's homes. Now, this particular sister's husband and my mother have been in some dispute (don't care to know so I haven't asked) so my mother told my sister that if it was at her house, she was not coming. Instead, she decided to call a restuarant in town and get details about having it there--totally stepping in on my sister's plans.
Bottom line: I told my sister that I would rather have it at her house (restuarant in question is a dump) and if my mother decides not to come, that's her problem. Am I being a biotch here?
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Re: Mother drama
Nope. When the "If you __________, then I won't be there" card gets played in my family my response is ALWAYS to do what was in dispute.
Call her bluff.
She's being childish and selfish.
People will control other people as long as they're allowed to.
If I were your sister I wouldn't allow her to control me like that.
Bottom line is that it sounds like it's your sister's call, not yours. I'd try to stay out of it as much as possible and leave the ball in her court simply telling your sister that you're honored to have a shower at her home and Mom's issues are not a concern of yours so please continue with the original plan.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
No, not at all. You're completely justified in your feelings.
First, your sisters are throwing the shower, not your mom. They should get to decide where it is held.
Second, it's really immature to throw a tantrum about something like that. I highly doubt your BIL will be at the shower anyway, whether it's held at their home or not.
Your mom is going to end up being the one who looks bad if she refuses to show, not you.
Good luck and keep us updated.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10