S/O: Selective reduction

BetchySprout

Would you do it? I know this is a sensitive topic. I have no idea what I would do in that situation. I have read on other boards about people who will SR from 3 or 2 down to 1, or others who will not reduce 7 and lost them all (and those who have reduced and then lost them all anyway!). It seems like such a horrible choice to have to make with no right answer.

 

Lucky_Dragonfly

If I had say 7 eggs that were ,ade into embryos I think I would put no more then 3 in at a time.The others I would have the docs hold in case none took for another try. If the first time was successful then I would donate the remaining to infertile couples.

Alexandria Campbell

I would never ever ever under any circumstance choose to reduce the number of babies I had.

moosemax

I don't even know what I would do. It would for sure be a tough desicion. But I would have to look out for my health and safety too. Having high sets of multiples is a risky thing to a mother...

ElizC

I couldn't do it.  DH and I were told that we would proabley need FT to get pg.  I was so scared that I might have multiples, so we decided to wait.  Thankfully my RE was wrong, I got pg on my own. 

TKx2

I have no idea what I would do.  I don't think I could do it, but I would be so scared of losing all the babies.  If it was 4 or less, it wouldn't even be a consideration.  If it was 8, like this woman, and the doctors thought it could be detrimental to my health I would have to think about it, with some serious counseling, especially since I already have a DD.  I think it would be extremely irresponsible to leave her without a mother.

That said, if I would undergoing FT, I would hope that my doctors would do everything possible to avoid a situation like this

weemodin

I would try very hard not to get myself in that situation.  With IUI, we wouldn't proceed with more than 2 follicles.  With IVF, we only put two back.

If an embryo had split, and we had ended up with triplets, I probably would have continued the pregnancy.  But if there had been 4, the risk of loss would have been too great, and I would have reduced.

Muffin0

I wouldn't, how would you even go about doing that?!

"I don't like the letters A,C, E and G, so lets just get rid of those"

PMJacobsen

AllyLeighAnn:

I would never ever ever under any circumstance choose to reduce the number of babies I had.

 

exactly. and if we did IVF, i would only have the number of embryos being implanted inseminated. 

Erin Mary Ackerman

I would selectively reduce. 

I did IUI but only triggered with one mature follicle and one that was 9mm.  People who trigger with many follicles that are close to 15mm are playing with fire, or they are NOT being monitored properly.

If my some magical chance I would up w/ 8 embryos, I would SR in a heartbeat.   There is too much risk to the mom above 3, really for someone who already has a child to carry on with that pregnancy.

 

CrazeyJaneyR

I would consider reduction if my life was at risk.?

LuckySunshineBaby

PMJacobsen:

AllyLeighAnn:

I would never ever ever under any circumstance choose to reduce the number of babies I had.

 

exactly. and if we did IVF, i would only have the number of embryos being implanted inseminated. 

 

We would not consider selective reduction (as previously stated).  We did have 3 embies implanted, because one was very low quality (F grade) and they would have discarded it if we didn't (it didn't make the criteria for freezing).  Our RE won't freeze just one, so the (B graded) one was going on it too.  We could have wound up with six (if they all split) or at least triplets.  Ultimately, only 1 stuck.  We were unwilling to discard so this was the risk we were willing to take.  Our RE wasn't thrilled (b/c we would not discuss SR), however, we had asked these questions in advance.  We had agreed to donate any embies that were frozen (clearly none made it) after we were all done.  I had this huge concern that if we had a ton left over another couple may choice to discard when they were finished with their family so our RE wrote into the contract (with their lawyers approval) that the embies would come back to DH and I in this situation.  We felt very strongly about discarding.  That said, you may be hard pressed to find a RE that is willing to only fertilize one egg at a time (into embies).  You could freeze all of the eggs and pull them out a few at a time, however, this would diminish your chances and the clinics success rate.  Of the 13 eggs that we had, only 5 fertilized, and only 3 continued to develop.  We were converted from an IUI due to over response, so we weren't on the right path to make a ton of eggs anyway, but just wanted to explain that it may be difficult to only have one fertilized at time.  We interviewed several RE's and none were willing (this was back when we thought we would not need IVF, just an IUI).  PMJ-Love your siggie

LaurenL1976

I know a girl who was preg with 4.  She had 6 miscarriages prior to the IVF treatments.  Her body was basically rejecting the babies.

Her doctor said carrying 4, would 100% result in a loss of all the babies.  She would have carried 2 or 3 happily, however she was made aware that carrying more than ONE would most likely end up in miscarriage.  She had to make the tough decision to reduce to one.  She didn't want to do it, but she was not going to be able to do IVF again - their money had run out for it. 

I don't know what I would do.  I would not want to reduce - but in her case - I can understand WHY she chose to.

 

 

EmilyOTR1

THis is one reason we wouldn't consider IVF.

Amy Schramm

I would definitely do it.  I did fertility treatments so DH and I talked about it and both agreed that we would reduce to twins if we had to. 

Geekchick921

Pattypoundcake:

Would you do it? I know this is a sensitive topic. I have no idea what I would do in that situation. I have read on other boards about people who will SR from 3 or 2 down to 1, or others who will not reduce 7 and lost them all (and those who have reduced and then lost them all anyway!). It seems like such a horrible choice to have to make with no right answer.

 

I'm with you, Patty.  I have no idea what I'd do.  I know it would be risky to carry them all and insanely difficult to care for them, but I can't imagine having to choose which of my children would live.

MrsGo4Hockeychick

BrahimBride:

I would selectively reduce. 

I did IUI but only triggered with one mature follicle and one that was 9mm.  People who trigger with many follicles that are close to 15mm are playing with fire, or they are NOT being monitored properly.

If my some magical chance I would up w/ 8 embryos, I would SR in a heartbeat.   There is too much risk to the mom above 3, really for someone who already has a child to carry on with that pregnancy.

 

this. exactly this, minus the personal experience part.