Time Out!

bashfordlane

We try to use the time out (TO) method of discipline but are finding that DD really doens't mind being put in TO.  When she's in TO, she typically sits quietyly - sometimes we'll have to tell her "no singing", "look at your shoes" etc, but for the most part, it's not a big deal to her anymore.  And, as a result, the naughty behavior (giving rise to the TO) doesn't stop. 

 In particular, she's been throwing things lately despite our telling her not too.  Last night she looked at me while holding something in her hand and said "mommy pick it up" and THEN after she spoke, she threw the item on the floor.  So clearly, she knows what she's doing.  My questions are...do you think we should even bother with TO for throwing since it is relatively not  all that bad (just a PITA for mommy/daddy)?  Or should we continue with TO's and hope that eventually she'll stop.  Or should we move onto some other type of discipline - and if so, what!  TIA!

DaiLyght

Is she throwing her toys? If DS doesn't take care of his toys nicely, they either become my toys, or they go in the trash (and yes, I have thrown away some of the cheaper toys - others just get put away indefinitely).

mrscolleton2b

usually when something is thrown around here, they lose the toy or whatever it was for about 20 mins, and they get a time out. 1 min. per year of age. That seems to work.

butterbeansmama

We have a rule in our house that there is no throwing and no hitting. Sometimes Preston doesn't mind sitting in time out and other times he does. He almost always stops what he was doing naughty after his time out session. If he were to continue doing what it was that was naughty, I would put him right back into time out (no matter how many times). I also tell him what he did bad and ask for an apology & hugs when time out has ended.

lizlemon77

I would say that everything she throws gets put away.  She'll realize soon enough that she is left without any toys!

Zenya

I don't use time outs much.  I only do it if I feel like we are losing our temper with each other and we both need to cool down. 

I use natural/logical consquences.  Throw toy = toy goes away.

katie277s

I would keep up with the TO.  We do not allowing throwing in our house at all.  Where are you sending her for timeout?  Maybe try a differnt location where there isn't anything fun to distract her.