NBR: Facebook and the past

preston18

This weekend a few of my college friends became FB friends with the ex who needs to stay away.  Since everyone else seems to be friending (when did that become a word) the past few weeks, I'm just waiting for it. I don't want him knowing anything about my life now.  I wonder if i should change my display name back to my maiden? Yes, it was so bad that I don't even want him knowing my name.

On the other side, another ex I'm friendly with told me this weekend he thinks his marriage is over and I'm the one that got away. No dude, I'm not. You're lonely and you're sad and I'm glad we were together for the time we were, but we were a bad match.

Ugh. Stupid internet.

 

KNemo

I totally feel you!! Today I caught my 4th graders "googling" me. They found my facebook page that has a maternity shot of me, wearing nothing but my underwear (baby shoes on my belly) as my profile picture. I had to immediately intervene, get them off the computer, and change my profile picture. That sucks!! I want a private life, but how can it be private if I'm on the internet.....

cwhip77

Yeah, Facebook seems like it was set up to make it easy to spy on what everyone else is doing.  One thing you might want to do is make sure you have the things you post (pictures, status updates, etc) set so that only Friends can see it.  You might have it set so that everyone or friends of friends can see your stuff (so your ex could see it if he's a friend of one of your friends of FB). 

m&m823

I didn't put my maiden name up on FB since I have little interest in re-connecting.  Lame, huh?  Oh well.  Anyhow, I think you can change your privacy so that not even your picture or name will show up in a search....

stacylu

BLOCK THEM! Seriously!  I did it for an ExBF who kept trying to friend me and it's great!

From FB:

If you block someone, they will not be able to find you in a Facebook search, see your profile, or interact with you through Facebook channels (such as Wall posts, Poke, etc.). Any Facebook ties you currently have with a person you block will be broken (for example, friendship connections, Relationship Status, etc.).

 You can block someone by navigating to the Privacy page. At the bottom, please use the Block search field to find the person you want to block by name.

JDCSKF

You can block him, and you can change your setting to private. I really like facebook's privacy setting.

I have an ex that is on my friends list, but it was 13 years ago, and I am a completely different person. I did talk to DH before I did it, and he was totally cool with it.

MrsH_08

You pretty much just described the reasons I don't do FB/MS.  Except my issue isn't really with an ex-b/f, it's ex-friends from HS.  

m&m823:

...since I have little interest in re-connecting. 

Exactly :-)  I did join for a few months when my ex-b/f said he had pics of his new baby posted.  In the months I was on FB, I had a half-dozen people find me and request to be friends.  I only ever logged on twice, and then I deleted my account.  I just tell people I'm too old for social networking. haha