Two random nanny questions

PAGAS

Do we provide her food for lunch?  Should I ask her to add anything she wants to the grocery list or what?  I will be home for lunch most every day for about an hour, so she will have a break to go out if she wants.

Is it OCD of me to leave out F's outfit in the morning?  There is no way F is going to wake up before I leave (sad and good at the same time) for me to get her dressed for the day.  Should I just let it go and let the nanny make the outfit call?

houstonkdw

Hmmm.....good question about the lunch thing.  I would think she would just help herself.  If she is a picky eater, she can go to the store herself and leave it at your house. 

You can leave the outfit out if you want but I personally wouldn't.  Let's just hope your nanny has good style

savannah11

I have no idea how the food thing works but I would leave out an outfit for F. ?Even if it's just DH who is going to be getting Orion dressed I will pick out his outfit for the day. ?

TexasHarmony

Good questions.

1) I have no idea.  I nannied for a while in college and it seems like I ate their food, ok, I know I ate their food.  If I were to do it now, I'd probably bring my lunch or go out while you are home. 

2) Is F a spitter-upper?  A went through about 5-6 outfits daily, so laying out something in the morning would have been futile. 

Karey08

Good question... Your nanny is not a live-in, correct?  I would think that it would be like any other job where she would be expected to take care of her own lunch, especially if she gets a lunch hour. Just an opinion though, I have no idea if there is a protocol.  Maybe you could call an agency and ask what is the norm?

As for the outfits - you could start off laying them out if you want, but honestly after a while you will be fine with letting the nanny take care of it.  Once F hits a few more weeks old the spit-up and drool usually start and she will likely not have the same outfit on all day long for many days of the week.  

PAGAS

She is not live in.

JamicanBride

You could have food availbe for her.  But if you have certain food items resereved for a special dinner etc. for fear of her eatting that, maybe leave a portion of a shelf in the pantry for foods she can have?  How petty does that sound...lol?

I would pick out the outfits I for F to wear.  Even now when Dh is watching G I am a bit annoyed when he is a bit  more ragamuffin than I would like.  I have on occassion asked him before, "you took him out in that"?....lol.    

rayskit10

1) i would offer her lunch- specific things, not a free for all. "there are cold cuts and bread or canned soups if you'd like." then she knows if that is not what she wants, to bring her own. i think that your idea to ask if there is anythign specific she likes is really nice but i would wait until you have a more established relationship with her. also, i would tell her something like "i will be coming for lunch to eat with and nurse F, so if you'd like to go out for a while that will work fine for us as well."

2) sure. at least until you all get to know eachother a little better. i always did at first with my nanny. now she does it, but if we are going somewhere right after T's nap or for any other reason, i leave his outfits out...

BettyJoe

rayskit10:

1) i would offer her lunch- specific things, not a free for all. "there are cold cuts and bread or canned soups if you'd like." then she knows if that is not what she wants, to bring her own. i think that your idea to ask if there is anythign specific she likes is really nice but i would wait until you have a more established relationship with her. also, i would tell her something like "i will be coming for lunch to eat with and nurse F, so if you'd like to go out for a while that will work fine for us as well."

2) sure. at least until you all get to know eachother a little better. i always did at first with my nanny. now she does it, but if we are going somewhere right after T's nap or for any other reason, i leave his outfits out...

Ditto this. The mom I worked for was VERY ocd and picked out clothes for the baby till she was old enough to choose herself. With the food thing, I would make it as comfortable as possible. I would ask if there is anything she would like to have on a regular basis as a courtesy. My charges family took fantastic care of me for 3 years. Yes a nanny is just like any other employee, but I would make it extra comfortable for her since you need to build a strong relationship to have 100% trust.

PSU_Texan

I know I don't post alot but I have a nanny so I thought I'd respond. 

1. Our nanny is welcome to anything at our house.  I make sure to ask her if there is anything she wants me to get from the store.  Ours is not a very big eater and her request was hot pockets or microwave meals so she could eat quickly.  I think it's part of the perk to have food there for her.  My nanny growing up ate at our house so I thought that was the norm.
2. I don't leave the outfit out unless we're going somewhere after I get home from work and I want her dressed a certain way. 

Good luck with the transition.  I was lucky to have 6 months off with my daughter and my nanny is a godsend.  I wouldn't feel as comfortable working without her!

CallMeKel

BettyJoe:

rayskit10:

1) i would offer her lunch- specific things, not a free for all. "there are cold cuts and bread or canned soups if you'd like." then she knows if that is not what she wants, to bring her own. i think that your idea to ask if there is anythign specific she likes is really nice but i would wait until you have a more established relationship with her. also, i would tell her something like "i will be coming for lunch to eat with and nurse F, so if you'd like to go out for a while that will work fine for us as well."

2) sure. at least until you all get to know eachother a little better. i always did at first with my nanny. now she does it, but if we are going somewhere right after T's nap or for any other reason, i leave his outfits out...

Ditto this. The mom I worked for was VERY ocd and picked out clothes for the baby till she was old enough to choose herself. With the food thing, I would make it as comfortable as possible. I would ask if there is anything she would like to have on a regular basis as a courtesy. My charges family took fantastic care of me for 3 years. Yes a nanny is just like any other employee, but I would make it extra comfortable for her since you need to build a strong relationship to have 100% trust.

 

I agree...I knew BettyJoe would have great advice seeing as she used to be a professional nanny!