Stop telling me what I can and can't do!

JBSugar

I'm so frustrated with people.  Do they think that I'm stupid and that I don't realize twins will be difficult?  I have an arrangement with my company that I can do maternity leave and a trial work from home period for 8 weeks after maternity....essentially I'd like to work from home full time "forever".  People keep telling me how difficult life with twins is going to be and it's going to be so hard and I may decide that I can't handle it blah blah blah.  Yes, I realize all of this but it would be nice for once to have somebody tell me how it's great and I'll be able to handle it rather than everyone being so negative and telling me that I won't be able to.  IDK.....I guess I'm just venting but I feel like everyone is so negative about how I've chosen to move forward and work with twins.  And as usual I didn't ask for their opinion!  SIGH......

copwife08

people are so inconsiderate sometimes!! I had to take DS to his talent show rehersal last night and there were some moms there that I didn't know and I got a lot of looks when they heard me talking to the moms I did know who were asking about the babies.

The truth is, is that you can do it!! I just brush everything off that is negative and tell people that I can and will do it.

MelZull

All the negative comments I have heard while pregnant would get me so afraid about how hard it really would be. Of course I knew that it wasnt going to be a walk in the park. However, now it all seems so much easier then I feared it would be. Sure there are those stressful moments when I am home alone with them and they both start crying, but that really isnt too often for us and even then you figure it out. I feel bad if I have to let one cry for a bit while I tend to the other, but thats the best I can do.??

groovygrl

I hear you...I'm not there  yet (not out about pregnancy yet cuz I'm still early) but I know someone who I'm dreading telling that it is twins b/c she has them & is constantly saying stuff about how hard/crazy it was/is and I just know all I'll hear from her is negative things. Luckily 2 of my coworkers have had twins & I'm hoping they'll be better support for me!

crazy4u624

I know exactly how you feel. I live 3000 miles from my family and 6 hours away from my husband's family....so essentially I'm taking care of the babies all on my own. My aunt had twins last March, 6 months before I had my babies. She had tons of help from day one, with all of her sisters and my grandmother taking shifts while her husband was at work, so she never had to handle her babies on her own. Alls I heard from everyone in my family ALL THE TIME....was: you're gonna get help right?,  it's gonna be so hard and so much work, there's no way you can do it on your own....nothing but negativity......Well guess what?....I am doing it completely on my own. I take them out shopping by myself, have flown with them by myself, etc...And I am in no way a perfect mother, but I'm actually really proud of myself. I feel like I'm doing a really good job. And even now they still seem stunned that I take care of my babies all by myself and they still ask if I'm going to get help.

I know that was really long.....I think if working from home is something you really want/need to do, then you can do it...you just find a way to make it work. And don't be scared by what other people are telling you...especially if those people have never had twins themselves. It's true, it's a lot of work and they keep me busy, but it is by no means an impossible feat. And having twins is soooo awesome!! I love it so, sooo much....and you will too

Wishing you all the best and a healthy and enjoyable rest of your pregnancy

jsusann

I know how you feel. When I was pregnant with Lilly people would say "Ohhhhhhh, your first baby, how sweet!". Now people just look at me and say "God, I hope you have some help!". And the truth is, I won't have alot of help so you can imagine how it makes me feel. It depends on if I'm having a hormonal day or not..sometimes it makes me well up w/tears. But luckily I do have a couple of friends who have raised twins and they both are awesome about it. They both say "it is the best thing you will ever experience in your life!".

MisStang65

Most people have preconceived notions about twins, when they probably have no clue. It's not bad like people may say. My twins are 2 now and  they were my first pregnancy. When you're thrown into taking care of 2 without ever having had to care for just one, it's all you know, and that is normal  for you. That's all that matters is YOU. Because you're the one taking care of them. You have to just ignore people who have no clue. It'll all work out and you'll get in your own little groove before you know it. Good luck.