do i need a new dr?

neesernicole

that's more of a teaser question to get you all to read this....:) 

I had my well woman exam today.  Last month my period never showed.  Last month we did not have sex.  I didn't take a pg test but I can 99.9% say I'm not pg.  I tell this to my dr. - i'm concerned why my period didn't show.

dr:  you didn't test?

me:  no, unless i'm the next virgin mary - i am not pg

dr: oh, so you're not active? (said like it's the most horrible thing in the world)

Is this any of his concern?  Do I need to be sexually active to be healthy or something?

Then later he asked if we were planning to have more children.  I didn't feel it was any of his business to know the real reason we aren't ttc, so i gave a partial truth: We're still getting the details in order - financially, etc.  And the nurse was like - yeah, college isn't cheap  ha ha.

Dr:  Well, you shouldn't let finances be the ONLY thing that sways you.

Really, you're my financial advisor now?

Dr:  Because you know, from a Biblical standpoint it says that God will provide.

I love(d) my dr.  I was not in the mood for this bs.   I believe in God, I know what HE says = i'm also not an IDIOT.  Man, he's just lucky my husband wasn't in the room.

Oh and i had to have lab work to make sure i'm not pg.  thank you for that extra bill.

justus4

That was really oversteping his bounds. Regardless of how he personally feels, it isn't his place to push that on you.

Sounds like he needs business. 

katie277s

Seriously?  He was bringing up God during your visit?  Weirdo. 

Halo79RN

do you live in the South? 

lol

 I ask b/c I grew up down there and this is SO something my friend's ob would say (so would my friend)

DaiLyght

Oh neeser, that sucks I would be changing Drs fast if that were me. Those are not necessary comments.

hopefulmom

Wow.  I would haev told him neither of you were interested in having sex last month.

I went to an ob doctor once (and only once) when I was pg (and I KNEW I was pg...my second and all the symptoms).  Well, he asked why I was there and I told him I was pg and needed to get things started (new city, new doctor, etc).  He said (in reference to me saying I was pg) that HE would be the judge of that.  I instantly did not like him!  He proceeded to do a complete exam and it hurt.  I've never had an exam hurt.  Two days later I mc'd.  Not saying it had anything to do with the exam but deep down I think it did.   Personally, if I were you I'd get a new doctor.  I did.

neesernicole

i'm in the midwest and i'm used to comments like that but dude, he was just out of line. 

VivaAmore

Yeah that wouldn't fly with me - either the financial or religious advice. I probably would have walked out - cloth gown and all.

VivaAmore

Kidding - I wouldn't have walked out but I definitely would change doctors.

neesernicole

Viva - I can just see myself scurrying out with my paper wrap ensemble. lol!