Moms of more than one...

wellfleet04

I'm due in 10 wks with #2 and lately I have been finding myself just so sad that my time alone with Kate is coming to an end.  She is just so much fun these days, but still seems to need me and want my attention so much.  I know I'll love having two once I have them, but I can't help feeling totally mournful that it will never be just Kate and me ever again.   

So, I guess my question is, did any of you feel this way?  And did it go away immediately after you had your 2nd?   

Mrs.JDD

I haven't had my second yet (I'm due in April, too!) and I feel guilty about everything these days.  I feel guilty that my pg is interfering with my time with claire, I feel guilty that it's not going to be just us anymore, I feel guilty that she's going to have to share my time....Just wanted to tell you that you are definitely not alone in your feelings of guilt!

mrsterry

The feeling does not go away, BUT you CAN still have time with just the two of you.  I still have one on one time with each of my boys.  It may not be as often as it was in the past, but it still happens.  I think it actually makes that time more special for everyone involved because it's not something that can just happen...but rather something extra special that time is taken out and planned for.

DevonPow

Just want to say ((hugs)) - Kate is going to love her little brother, and I know that as soon as he arrives you won't be able to imagine life without him!

LanaM

Yes, I had all of those feelings and it only got worse when Ethan came to visit me in the hospital that same day I dropped him off at the daycare center and went to the hospital... and he wanted nothing to do with me. He was always such mama's little boy... and he totally ignored me and wanted to go home. It got better next day and was almost back to normal when we got home.?

He was getting lots of gifts from everyone, so that probably helped a lot too.

I tried spending a lot of time with him.... I played with him on the floor while I was nursing, or I read him a book.... ? it was tough, but he is being a great big brother.

Right now I hardly see my baby. I pick him up from the sitters at 6 pm and he's usually asleep before 7 pm already... but this gives me some time to spend time with Ethan, he goes to sleep at 8:30-9pm.

Best of luck, it'll be fine! ? I love watching them starting to play together and how the little one looks at the big one with a smile. ?It's really the best feeling!?

K-I-S-S-I-N-G

I love my siblings, they are one of my life's greatest gifts. She will appreciate it, I promise!

CubbyMama

I'm right there with ya.  DD woke up crying in the middle of the night a couple of nights ago, and I was so happy for the chance to just sit with her in the rocker and snuggle her for a while--I've always tried to soak up those times, but lately I feel like I need to appreciate them even more because it will be harder to do when #2 is here.  I'm hoping we can establish some type of routine that allows me and DH to still have alone time with each of the kids...maybe if they don't nap at the same times (which will be harder for ME to get some rest!) or if DH bathes one while I spend time with the other, etc.  I'm sure all moms of more than one have these worries!

jjr

my second is 8 weeks old.  I didn't really have those feelings but it was strange to think that the family would be growing.  I didn't really understand how it worked.  then, you have the 2nd and you realize that life just continues, you will love them both soooo much and it's just wonderful!