Same set of Godparents or 2 sets for twins?

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we are having a hard time picking even one set of Godparents b/c we really want soemone who is family and who is religious (we are) and will take the vows seriously..... and most of our family is not the church-going type.

I know we CAN have one set for both babies- but what did you all do/are going to do?

ChiBride2007

I'm struggling with the same issue. Ours is made harder because I'm Catholic and the kids will be, but my husband and his family are not. I would prefer to go with family, but it seems our 'candidate' pool is pretty small. On the one hand, I'd like them to have their own godparents, but on the other, I'm really close to my only sister and I feel like it wouldn't be fair for her to have one boy and another more distant relative or friend have the other boy. Ugh, this is hard!

coffee bean

We have different godparents for each child and I think that's what I've heard most others do.  However, you should do what you feel most comfortable with of course.

beefsbride

My children will be one in less than a month and STILL aren't baptized because this is the major debate in our house (and it has been going on since before they were born!).  They will probably end up with the same set of godparents only because we can't even find 2 people who fit the criteria, let alone 4 (we're Catholic and our parish is very traditional).  DH is an only child and my brother hasn't been to church in over 15 years.  Most of our close friends aren't Catholic.    We're hoping to get this over with in the spring.

Good luck with your decision!

quickstepstar

I wondered the same thing. The problem resolved itself, because I can't really find 2 sets of godparents. Good luck with your decision!

mommyof4boys

Each child has their own set of Godparents.  The requirements for our diocese is that one Godparent needs to be Catholic.  Jonathan's Godparents are my sister (who is Catholic) and my brother (who is Catholic) and Matthew's are BIL (who is not Catholic) and my cousin (who is Catholic).  We also wanted to keep to family as much as we could.  My cousin fit the requirement of the Catholic person otherwise we would have asked SIL. 

courtneyaok

I'm so glad you asked this question! It's SO hard to figure out!  DH and I were discussing it over the holidays, and we want someone who will take the responsibilities seriously, but we want to keep it to immediate family.  We'd like my sister for both, but we're having a hard time with the godfather -- DH's brother lives out of state, and we'd really prefer to have SIL's husband, but then it doesn't seem right to ask her husband to be a godparent and not her!!! Aaaaa!

cands

I always knew that my sisters would be the two godparents, but I debated for awhile if I should have them both have the same godfather or two different godfathers.  I ended up going with two different godfathers.   It's not traditional to have a grandparent for a godparent, but my father is Madeline's godfather (BIL is Sarah's).

My twin sister and I also have seperate godparents, but my twin sister's godfather is the same as my older sister's godfather.  And that's probably better than my godfather who was a lapsed Catholic even when I was born, and completely left the church a few years later, so for all purposes never acted as a godfather to me. But that was more than made up for by my aunt who is my godmother and very supportive to me in the Catholic faith.

ncsubride

We are going through the process right now and we are going with 1 set for both of them to make it easier.

Kerri

sweater

We have 2 godfathers and 2 godmothers...but they are all godparents for BOTH of them. We couldn't pick who would be who and it ALWAYS ended up that one child would get one less present at xmas/bday unless we made them all for all.

I know that "sounds" bad, but we wanted to avoid any hurt feelings of either child in the future. one child would get aunt/uncle the other non-family...so the child who got the aunt/uncle wouldn't get anything from the non-family members, since the aunt/uncle would give to both children regardless.

so we all decided to make both sets for both sets, and everyone was fine and actually excited about it.?