Oops - breaking the rules

CaptainD

Hi girls!  And happy football Sunday!!  Yes, I am excited about the NFL playoff games today!  Go Steelers!!

Anyway, the nurse at my doc's office told me that DH and I had to use protection until my second cycle or whatnot so that we weren't actively TTC.  Of course, this means condoms.  We have been doing that but we both don't enjoy things as much when we use them.  Especially DH. 

Well, last night we had an "at home" date night with a nice dinner, adult bevs and some great conversation that we haven't had in a while since the m/c.  The night progressed and...to spare you all the details....we ended up having sex without using a condom...on purpose...

Is this really bad??  Should I be worried?  I honestly believe that my body is not ovulating and I don't feel that there was/is any risk of conceiving last night.  I just was wondering if you girls have disobeyed the same way?

Enjoy your day and TIA for your feedback!

shaysmom05

GO STEELERS!!! I wouldn't worry too much about it. The reason they say to wait a cycle or two is to date the pregnancy if you do get pregnant. DH and I haven't been using condoms. We're just waiting on AF to show up so I can get on BC. (He's deploying in a couple months so we want to wait til he comes back to try again.)

Rachel2315

We're TTC right now. ?I miscarried at 5w3d/5w4d on Dec 31st so obviously I haven't had an AF yet. ?My doctor said unless there were complications the real reason they advise waiting is that it makes it easier to date the pregnancy. ?He said if we got KU this cycle he'd gladly make sure we were followed closely enough to date and follow the pregnancy to make sure everything was growing healthy.

?I wouldn't stress too much. ?I know that my boss (who has six kids and two m/c) didn't wait those two times, got pg right away and she said both of those pregnancy went to 41 weeks. ??

luckyangel

I'm going to disagree with both of the above posts. ?Most docs recommend waiting until after AF because it takes your body having one natural cycle for the interior wall of your uterus to regenerate fully and become strong and thick enough to hold a sac tightly. ?If you get pg before having your 1st AF you increase your chances of another m/c significantly. ?You also haven't given your body time to build back all the vitamins etc that were stripped out of your system that your body needs to support a healthy pregnancy. ?I would STOP taking chances and if you doubt or are questioning the reasons they say to wait then call your doc and ask.

I wasn't going to wait but a few girls on here encouraged me to talk to my doc about why she said 2 cycles. ?When I did she told me all the stuff I just said, and explained that my uterus NEEDED that time to heal if it was going to hold the sac without as much risk. ?I trust my doc with my life, and she has been through this which alot of docs haven't - she had 6 m/c and 2 healthy pg. ?Be really careful.?? Call your doc and ask. ?The last thing you want to do is get pg thinking its not biggie, have a m/c and then find out that there was a medical reason they told you to wait. ?

Imanurse03

I agree with the last poster.  It's not so much as to be able to date the pg, it's more so your body has time to recover from your last pg.  Your hormones and uterus need time to return to a non-pg state.  And like previousu poster said, I was told by my dr. that if you get pg before you body has a chance to recover and for your hormones to return to normal, you're at a higher risk of m/c.  The 2 cycles I waited to resume my IF treatments were the LONGEST months of my life.  It was actually kind of nice to have a break from all the IF stuff.   It took me back to before our lives were so focused on getting pg and all the IF stuff.  Good luck!

lil_rhody

First of all, that sounds like a great evening for the two of you! I'd say you should relax; what's done is done and you can't do anything about that. However, I would try not to take any more chances as you go on. I was told the same as luckyangel. My doctor wanted me to wait a cycle so that my body had time to recover. For me, I just wouldn't want to have that worry hanging over my head for when I do get pregnant; I want to do know that I did whatever I could.?

That being said, I have a friend that has had 2 healthy babies after not waiting a cycle after her miscarriages. Your body is very fertile during this period, and good things can happen!?

hells115

Simply.....you will get pregnant when your body can handle it!  God decides when you are ready, so don't worry too much! 

ibis

Clearly this is a somewhat controversial question, but the literature I've read says that the main reason for waiting until AF is so that you can properly date your pregnancy if you do get KU (a m/c is not a LMP of course).

My m/c was two weeks ago now and I STILL have just the faintest spotting. Not being able to have sex is beginning to take a toll on us and I'm just beyond tired of waiting to reconnect with DH that way... thinking about breaking that particular rule tonight (but using protection in case I'm still vulnerable to infection).?

char-char

I had my m/c and d&c on 1/8 and my OB has asked us to wait to have intercourse until after my follow up / pelvic exam this Friday and also recommended waiting until after 1 cycle to TTC again. I trust her judgement and although I think it is a personal decision as to whether or not you heed by your doctor's recommendations, we plan to fully do so just to err on the side of caution. This is our personal choice to do so though, we miss that physical connection, but figure we can wait another week. We may just need a date night awat from the little one next weekend though, ha!