My sister-in-law thinks its so much fun to poke me in the stomach. She says she is doing this to let the baby know she is there. Her daughter is 5 and is now doing it too. Honestly, it makes me so mad! I got poked so hard over the Chirstmas holiday I had a bruise on my stomach. I don't know what to do. I told my sil that she needs to stop and make her daughter stop too but they aren't. I'm at a loss about what to do...About a week ago I was cramping and feeling super super bloated and when she did it I had this wave of anger come over me and I wanted to punch her in the face. Do you all have this problem?? What should I do to stop this?
Re: Getting poked in the stomach
Matthew Kevin
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I've never had this problem...but if you've already told to her quit it I'm not sure what else you can do. Punch her back.
This reminds me of that episode of Friends when Joey was dating that little tiny girl who always punched him, hard. Then Rachel started punching her back
Isn't the girl the one who played Punky Bruester? Anyway, I like that episode of Friends.
Obviously this is not hurting your baby in anyway given how far along you are. Baby is still protected by your pelvis.
However, you clearly feel really uncomfortable with this behavior. I think you should just tell them that. As in, "Hey. Don't poke me again! I really don't like it and feel it's very inappropriate. Don't touch me unless I ask."
It may create a little awkwardness at first but if you feel violated you need to say so.
Sounds like you might have to release the pregnancy hormones on this b!tch. I hate to say it, but some people only respond to that. Next time she does it, I would probably yell at her, tell her that you are completely serious & that she needs to knock it off. Later you can tell her it was the hormones and you're sorry for yelling, but that she really needs to stop.
I wouldn't yell at the 5 yr old tho ... altho I feel really bad for the poor kid being raised by such a b!tch.
ooo i am torn between breaking her fingers and poking her in the butt, both great ideas.
LOL Ouch!, but good idea
I'm not being facetious when I say that I agree with slapping her/punching her back.
I literally would advise you to actually slap/punch her. Does she do this to you in front of your MIL or your husband or others? Having an audience when you punch her would be good, just to humiliate her and show her how it feels!
What an awful thing for her to do - worse that her daughter is doing it too.
Grab her finger, look her in the eye, & tell her to "KNOCK IT THE EFF OFF!"
If she doesn't get it, smack her! Personal space!
If you don't want to make waves and do it over anger...I would pull her aside, before she has an opportunity to poke, and politely ask her not to poke you anymore and to prevent her daughter from doing so either. Explain that you often do not feel well right now and don't want to be touched any more than necessary.
If, at that point, she does not take you seriously and continues to violate your personal space, then you have every right to embarrass her in front of everyone when you get angry, and openly tell her, "I asked you not to do that anymore, what is your problem?!" It lets everyone else know that you're not just "being pregnant" and that you had already asked her to stop, and it makes an @ss out of her, which should be enough to make her stop from there on out.
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