Need advice, would you tell the pedi the truth?

dragonflyinn

So, as many of you know from my million posts. I was not happy with our original pedi.  He was the one that blew off all of my concerns regarding S and his motor delay's and head tilt.  We are now in PT, and have recently qualified for EI so will be doing PT and some other services from them as well.  When the boys were 6 weeks old I went to the pedi with my concerns regarding S and his head tilt, see the pic's below. He told me that there was nothing to be concerned about.  I went back again and told him I wanted to do some stretches could he please show me.  He said he could, but "there was no use because his torticollis is mild and I will only anger him".  Well, I continued to push the issue and ended up being referred to a pedi opthamologist, who WAS concerned about the head tilt and he is the one that eventually helped us to get to PT.  After that I switched pedi's.  I have just now gotten around to transferring records, and the original pedi's office called and wants to know if there was something they could have done differnetly. Of course, I want to tell the, but then again, I just want to be done with this.  I am VERY angry and not sure it is worth getting myself all worked up over.  Every time I have to drive to PT or see him with his head tilted it pis*ses me off that the pedi wouldn't listen to me. Maybe he would not have these gross motor delays and other issues if we would have treated this from the beginning.  Instead he blew me off and treated me like I was a crazy mom--all along I was right.  I just know that I will get all worked up, but then again, he should know, right?

What would you do.  And please, does it really look all that mild to you?  Poor little guy.

 

 

sweater

NO that is not mild. That in my opinion is full blown toricollis. Our OT had told me repeatedly she wished she was able to work with Jax a month earlier "since the earlier you catch it, the less developmental delays the child will experience"!!!!

heathb21

I think I would tell them the truth.  If not, they will never learn. 

Although I completely understand you wanting to just be done with all of it and move on!

Bogustime

Honestly, I would tell them the truth. Make sure it's a moment when you can do it in very matter-of-fact way without getting too p*ssed off, but I would definitely let them know. They may speak to him about taking patient concerns more seriously. And they may not, but if nothing else, it might make you feel better to get it off your chest. I know I felt a lot better when the hospital called me after my delivery and I told them what a terrible job their nursing staff did. I'm sure they didn't do anything about it, but I felt better. :-)

TheNextWest

I would do your best to remain calm, but tell them. You telling him the truth could drastically effect the way that pedi deals with another patient the next time he is presented with a similar situation. For that child/parent's sake- tell them.

SCOOTER

I am so sorry you didn't get good care from your ped.  I wouldn't lie, tell them you are unhappy that your concerns were dismissed and it turns out he's receiving PT for something the practice didn't think needed treatment.  You want a ped who will listen and take action when action is needed. 

Jessarella

100% tell them. You might want to write down everything you want to say, before you call to make sure you are able to tell them everything on your mind. If you don't have the nerves to say it over the phone, then at the very least write a letter. They need to know!

 

copwife08

you def. need to tell them. If they new they knew about what happened with you they could potentially stop it from happening with another patient.

jd0614

Wow - I know you just want this over, but I would absolutlely tell them!  First of all, mothers intuition is incredible, and you were RIGHT to push the issue - and they need to know that your concerns were not met.  I am so sorry, and SO glad you are getting the help you need. 

PaisleyDuke

Yes, please tell them!  Coming from someone who doesn't have kids yet and is wondering about pedi's, you could help a child in the future (like mine) who might have this issue. 

MrsSweetpeaMagee

If you feel you might get too emotional and worked up about it, what about writing a letter explaining your displeasure with your pedi?  That way you can think about your words and process without having your audience waiting patiently for your response.   I would definitely tell them, your pedi was in the wrong and needs to know that.

lstaylor73

It's unanimous! Tell him the truth.  That is full blown torticulis and it really needs to be treated ASAP because the longer you wait the more difficult it is to treat.  Both my guys had a head tilt, still do in fact, but we've been working and working and working on it.  It's much better.  But I can't believe your pedi wouldn't see this too. 

CarissaA

I agree with pp I would tell the truth.  I think that writing it down before you talk to them is a great idea so you don't get off track.  Good luck!

MrsJLP