I haven't been on this board for awhile-been SWAMPED with life in general-but I finally feel like my life is slowing down just a bit. CONGRATS to any recent matches!!
I do have a question for anyone who has been in a position like this....
DH and I are meeting with a birth mother in a few weeks. She would like a private adoption-and similar to 517butterfly's post below-would like it as simple as possible-with no agency preferably-but rather just a lawyer. She has asked to meet us. Here's where I'm nervous! I have no idea what to even say to her! That sounds so crazy-and I'm not trying to sound selfish, or unappreciative- for what she will potentially be doing for us-and the amazing beautiful gift that she is carrying, but I honestly don't know how to even start a conversation-because I know (or hope) that she is going to be just as nervous as we are. I'm afraid I'll just burst into tears!
Anyone met face to face with a birthmom? What did you talk about? I don't want to make it all about the baby....I want to know about her, the birth father and about her life in general. But I don't want to be to laid back either-if that makes sense.
Any help would be appreciative!