Bummed out.

angluvsammon

I am so annoyed.  I found out today that an ex-friend might be pregnant with #2 (our DC are two weeks apart.) She and her husband have a lot of problems- I actually posted about it here a few months ago. Long story short: He is VERY controlling and he didn't like me, so our friendship ended. She has had a lot of trouble adjusting to being a mom. Mostly because he NEVER helps her and limits her contact with the "outside." I really worry about thier DD, mostly becuase I know that she has been spanked from a young age. (I don't want to debate the spanking topic- but I think that most people will agree that 7-8 months old is too young!)  I know that things are really unstable for them and it just makes me sad that they think it is a good idea to bring another baby into the mix. Just before we ended the friendship I had been talking a lot about having #2, and she was like "Yeah, DH wants a boy so he is making be get my IUD out. Wouldn't it be fun if we were pregnant together?"

Hopefully that doesn't come off as too judgemental. I think I am also upset because DH and I have been trying since July for #2 and no luck yet. It is such a weird feeling. I am really sad each month I get a BFN, but then feel bad because I should just be grateful for DS. Ughh. Thanks for listening.

jen_and_tom

I remember your original post.   Yuck, sounds like a pretty rotten situation.  I find it really hard to not judge other parenting decisions.   It's one thing to watch people make choices that adversely affect themselves but really difficult to see poor judgment that affects their kids.  Thank goodness children are resilient.

JRS72206

I remember your orig post too. Situations like this are always sticky. We have a couple ex-friends in a similar situation and it sucks to watch from the sidelines. GL on TTC. You will get your BFP soon, I'm sure!

spacystasi

Ah sweetie, here's some hugs!  I know how frustrating it is when you've been ttc for awhile and then you here about someone who's parenting skills may be lacking getting preggers.  It's really hard not to get down.

If it makes you feel better, you're totally not alone!

babyaustin725

I can understand how you feel.  I want another baby, but James doesn't.  I often hear about people getting pregnant and get SO JEALOUS!  I, honestly, find it difficult for people who I don't even dislike.  If it's someone that doesn't seem to have their act together, it makes me even more upset.  I get it.  Don't feel like you are being ungrateful for your DS.  I have the greatest little boy ever (no offense to anyone) and I still crave another.