Shower hostess gift ?

luckygirl07

2 questions really..

My friend that is hosting my shower has done most of the work thus far herself and it will be held at her house.  I have a few other friends who have offered to "help" her, but I don't know how much they've really done.  Should I ask my hostess who helped her, or just get them all a little something, with a bigger gift for the "main" hostess?

Secondly, do I take the hostess gift(s) to the shower with me or give them to them another time?  I don't want to hurt feelings by getting more for my one friend who is the main hostess, or leaving anyone out that I didn't know helped with the hosting duties.  WWYD?

M&M614

I would get the same thing for all of the "official" hostesses.  If you want to get something for your friend who has done most of the work, I'd do it separately as a "thanks for being a great friend" gift.

 Yes, I've seen people bring them to the shower, and hand them out afterwards.  Were the hostesses listed on the invitations (happens sometimes... sometimes not...)?  If so, then just go with those people.

If you can't tell who really is a hostess, I'd ask your friend who is doing all the work after the shower and say that you just want to write a thank-you note.  Then get them all something small and deliver later.

CareBear01

I would just ask your main hostess who helped out - sometimes people who aren't listed on the invite chip in, too.  I usually seen the gift given at the end - (and if you want to give the main hostess something bigger, maybe take her aside even later, or send her something, so the other hostesses won't see - and specifically say "i know you did most of the work, and wanted to let you know how much I appreciate it")