Monday Bitchfest

thescarletmom

Bringing back a good old weekly thread from the bump's golden days: bitchfest. Get things off your chest! Life's annoyances, work problems, family disputes, whatever.

thescarletmom

My bitchfest is that one of the attorneys I work with is the most stubborn mfer I have ever met, while simultaneously seeming to know literally nothing but being willing to die on the hill anyway. One of my cases with her goes to trial next week and it quite literally at some points seems like she's trying to run it in to the ground on purpose. But she's trial lead so me and the other attorneys just have to grin and bear it. It's extra frustrating because this is a practice area she has no real experience in and I have a ton of it. 

midnightatsunset

@thescarletmom that sounds absolutely awful. I used to work for a law firm (in an administrative capacity) and I met some nighmtare attorneys that made me sooooo glad I didn't have to work with them on a legal team.

midnightatsunset

My bitchfest topic is about an ongoing family thing that I know will never change and I just have to live with.

Context: I have a complicated relationship with my dad. He's better than he was in my childhood, but I still need to have some hefty boundaries in place (like - he can have a relationship with my kids but he is NEVER to watch my kids alone/with my mom. I can only talk about surface-y things with him and I never answer the phone if he calls, I text first or call him back later). I accept that I am responsible for maintaining the boundaries and he frequently forgets so I need to be the one to steer conversations or just outright re-state the boundaries. 

I am just getting SO DAMN TIRED of him making unhelpful suggestions, asking if I want to take a nap and he and my mom will watch my son, and every two-five minutes asking if he can do anything to help (and the answer is almost always no). If I need something from him I will ask!!! I have in the past!! and NO I will not nap and have you watch my kid!

I schedule grandparent days once a week or two and while my mom shows up every time, my dad only comes about twice a month. So I really am only dealing with this a couple times of month but WOW it is so annoying when I am already hormonal and tired.