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Losing it

Blackrose1918Blackrose1918
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This is bad. I've cried at least once a day for the last three days. I feel like I'm not being a good mom, like I shoud be doing more for DS. DH tells me I'm doing great, I'm a SAHM and that I'm so devoted to our boy that he couldn't ask for anything better. I still feel like I'm not doing something that I should be. And today while I was trying my hand at making some fudge after being out of practice for 10 years I really messed it up (over-cooked one batch, under-cooked another). I got really upset about that and it made me feel totally inadequate as a mom, too. I was raised in a family where moms could bake and cook from scratch like it was nothing, and I've just not been that good about it until recently. I'm also having anxiety attacks. I've always had them periodically, but I've had several over the last two weeks, one was really bad and actually made me cry. I'm rally afraid of PPD. I don't want to think that's what's going on. I EBF and don't want to take any meds. I know I'm not sleep deprived. DS is an awesome sleeper at night. I'm really scared. I hate feeling like this.
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  • kegallaghkegallagh member
    I'm so sorry that you're feeling this way. Please call your OB or MW about this tomorrow. And EBF doesn't mean you can't take meds so don't let that worry you.
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  • jkrose10jkrose10 member
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    I'm so sorry that you're feeling this way. Please call your OB or MW about this tomorrow. And EBF doesn't mean you can't take meds so don't let that worry you.


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  • xoexpatxoexpat member
    I feel for you! Make sure you get an apptmt if you are concerned about ppd. I relate to your anxiety, though, I literally could not cook a thing without it burning until very recently. I always feel like I need to give more individual time to each baby, and I feel guilty whenever I do something not baby related. But I'm sure you are doing a great job and EBFing is a big accomplishment. Good luck!
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  • Holly_1007Holly_1007 member
    im sorry you are feeling this way. being a sahm is really hard work. it takes months to get into a routine. i have btoh boys home with me all day. it wasnt until my older son was closer to 2 that i really felt i had a good handle on the domestic aspects of being a sahm,now that there is a newborn in the mix im lucky if my bed gets made every day. dont set crazy expectations for yourself, and if your anxiety is getting worse then you should definitely speak to soimeone, there are things you can do and medicines you can take while ebf
                           
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  • linzeek44linzeek44 member
    You shouldn't have to feel scared of your emotions. I hope you get some help so you can enjoy things.
    And your selfworth as a mother cannot be measured by what you get done or what you bake. Your love for your baby is intangible and unmeasurable; the fact that you are discussing how you feel and talking about getting help makes you a great mom.

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  • Blackrose1918Blackrose1918
    Thank you ladies. It's good to know I'm not alone. If this doesn't get better in a couple of weeks, or gets worse, I'll call my mw. Does anyone have any nondrug ideas for treatment?
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  • MrsAB1316MrsAB1316 member
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    imageBlackrose1918:
    Thank you ladies. It's good to know I'm not alone. If this doesn't get better in a couple of weeks, or gets worse, I'll call my mw. Does anyone have any nondrug ideas for treatment?

    It's a chemical and hormonal imbalance, so nondrug treatments aren't typically effective. Please don't wait to call, it won't suddently resolve itself.



    This. Exercise can release endorphins and can help but that's a short term solution. The meds are a long term solution. There are a lot of ADs on the market that are safe for pregnancy and BFing. Call your MW. Good luck and remember...it's a hormonal/chemical thing...not an inability to be a good parent.
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  • Blackrose1918Blackrose1918
    I'm considering waiting to call my mw bc I've had stuff like this happen on and off since I was 8 months pregnant. I'll be really off for a couple of weeks, and then be ok. It's most definitely hormonal. I'm just not sure if it's PPD or the fact that I just had an emotionally difficult pregnancy and my body is trying to balance itself.
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