Would it be selfish to have another child

samantha2k15

I am not currently trying for a baby but was not sure where else to post this So here it goes.. sorry if I am rambling or get muddled up ( im dyslexic)

Recently  I have been feeling  baby fever i guess would call it.

I am 37 years old  married with 2 sons my eldest who has  just turned 18 year old   (had with my ex)and 9 year old (with my husband who is 41).

After having my 9 year old (adam)i felt as if my family was done as didn't have the  best of labour with  my sons.  My husband  was not ready to settle as yet but was willing to for me.  

Over the years I have had  friends and family who  were pregnant/had their kid(s) and felt  fine , did not want another child.
I had also been  going through  issues with  my womb that required biopsy every 6months(endometrial hyperplasia without atypia)  .  I finally  got the all clear apart from cysts and fibriods then last year I  i fell pregnant  without trying to conceive.
me and my husband  came round to the idea of having another child, but I miscarried at 8weeks.
Since then I feel we are not complete and it gets worse when anyone who i know especially  within my family  gets pregnant I start getting the "baby fever feeling" which has hit again.

Now I am wondering if we should  have another child  before it does become to "late" and regretting it. My husband  would be okay but feels we are bit old and doesn't want to experience what we went through with the miscarriage.

I have been with my husband for 17 years  we got married 2 year ago. We struggled to have adam it took about 7 years to concieve him after seeing different  dr about being able to concieve.

We look at pro n cons
 Pro : we are finically fine ,house has enough room,child would be loved by all including my boys(we had asked when I got pregnant last time)

Cons:  childcare is grandparents who are getting older,  every pregnancy  my epilepsy plays up and then after for about a year which I believe is due to the hormones  and wither it 

My work is flexible and part time  my husband  is a truck driver but is usually home every weekend. 

Sorry for the long post  but trying enough info on this post to help with the decision.