Adopting children over 10

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Hi everyone, I once researched adoption long ago when I was trying to write a book and one of my characters was adopted as a baby. In that research I had read a lot of adults who were adopted as babies felt robbed of their true identities and access to their heritage. I’m 31, about to be 32 and my husband is 31. Ive been having a really hard time conceiving and I’m starting to look at adoption as a real option for my family.

However as a teacher I’ve made deep connections with children of all ages and I’m really curious about how children 10 and over feel about adoption. What I mean is, was it difficult for you to adapt to your new family? Did you ever feel like you loved your adoptive parents? I’m sure I’ll get a wide variety of responses but I’m just nervous that if I do adopt a child (regardless of age) they won’t be happy with me. Or I’ll end up causing them emotional harm somehow? But maybe there’s something your adoptive parents could have done to make things better?

Maybe this all sounds silly but my dream is to be a mother and I want to go about adoption the right way that best serves the child.