Sharing the news

knottieadc1bfa0ec72d540

Hi, I am stuck with when to share the news to my immediate family & also my work.

knottie1262e52e2d8fa964

We were thinking telling parents in about two weeks (week 7) after and the  friends and other family probably another 2 weeks after that. I’d wait on work for a while. get into the second trimester.

samalama1

I'm hoping I can convince my partner to wait to tell my parents until after our first ultrasound and others after 1st trimester. We had a blighted ovum MMC last year so to me some confirmation is needed before we tell people.

knottief347eab925d61ec6

My girl told everyone immediately. So, there’s that option as well.

10kperyear

My first appointment isn’t until the first week of September, but in anticipation some noticeable activity (possibly morning sickness) during a trip to visit friends we’ll be telling our friends before the first appointment. 

We have a plan to get our parents together for an event right on the 12 week mark and we’ll tell them together then. 

As for work, if I do need some accommodation I’ll be telling them after the first appointment minimum.

knottie38b53137464ebd47

I'm late to the party, but we're planning on waiting and telling everyone during the holidays in person. Our last pregnancy was a MMC, started bleeding right around 11w, since we never got the confirmation of a positive ultrasound we ended up keeping the pregnancy to ourselves. This time we definitely want to wait until after we've got confirmation, plus my inlaws think we're their only chance of grandkids so... No pressure 😂 I'm grateful that we'll get to tell our families in person though (we all live in different states) and maybe I'll get to use cute Christmas themed gifts or something! 

eviesmom321

Told my partner and my mom but will be waiting until around week 12 to tell others. Seems to be the custom because of higher risk during the 1st trimester. I can't wait to tell my kids but they are 9 and 5 so they can't keep secrets, I know they will be so excited.

knottie9a7596261f1044bf

I told super close friends for emotional support as I am a naturally anxious person. We aren’t telling parent and siblings until first image that shows proper implantation. I think general public (IE social media) will not be until second trimester. I think do what feels right for you!!! Work is tricky as I suspect a lot of time for appointments. I’ll likely make that move to my direct supervisor towards end of first trimester.

knottie6f55c2cdcd00affa

With my first I told family around 8 weeks and work at 14. There’s no perfect time, just what feels right for you.

knottie210c943f9d078bc9

You can always tell family first and hold off on work until you feel more comfortable.

elenabells

First baby! Very excited! Due April 20! I actually told my manager the day I found out only because I work as a licensed veterinary technician and my everyday job can be dangerous for a developing baby. (ie. taking X-rays multiple times a day, anesthetic gases, litter boxes, parasites, aerosolized bacteria) I really needed her to help guide me and also be able to secretly keep me from having to do hazardous things without my coworkers knowing yet. 

Very very hard because it feels like I’m making excuses to “not do my job” right now until everyone knows. 

Only my manager and best friend know right now and they have been awesome secret keepers. 

knottie3a2f87e783fa3220

My husband and I told our moms immediately. I just wanted and needed the support because as excited as it is…. I AM FREAKING OUT!!!!

TigerCakes

I told 3 friends immediately because I need the support after having multiple losses. We will tell our families after successful ultrasound, but I’m going to wait til 12 weeks to tell my kids. Once my daughter knows the whole world will know. I’m going to a bachelorette party next weekend so hoping I can hide it there! Luckily 2 of my friends that know are going too, so hoping they can help

pattothecatto

Husband and I decided not to tell anyone until after we get a good ultrasound. I miscarried around 6-7 weeks 2 years ago, after telling many people. I don't want to go through that again. We aren't even telling our two kiddos yet. 

I did tell just one friend - I had other news to share with her and she was like, oh baby news???? I said, well, no? Then later that same day, I got my positive test, and I had to tell her. LOL

knottied6aa31821935978d

I am due April 20, and it’s my first pregnancy. My husband knows, and I’m going to tell my parents after my first appt with the midwife the first week of September. I’m nervous about telling my coworkers. My boss is also pregnant and due in January.

knottiec4911bcb488c965a

Currently 7w3d. Within the past week I’ve told my boss and manager only because I work in a veterinary clinic and there are a lot of work related risks (ie x-rays, anesthesia etc).  I’ve had two miscarriages this past year and few knew about them.  I always planned on waiting until wk12-14 to tell close family and a week or two later to tell coworkers etc. But after multiple losses I have a strong desire to tell everyone sooner this time.  First ultrasound scheduled for next Tuesday. Depending on how that appointment goes will determine if I tell others next week or waiting a little longer. 

elenabells

I also work in a veterinary clinic and am very nervous about all of the scary risks that come with the job! You are not alone