Potty Training special needs kids

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I apologize this is long post but the drtails ae important to the question. Any tips from mom's or dads of kids with special needs for potty training? My kid has PTSD, Anxiety and a speech disorder. He has symptoms similar to autisim but ptsd, anxiety, also have very important differences and things you can and cant do with them you could with autisim and visa versa. I relate to autisim as more parents have knowledge about this in kids and there is some overlap, where the other conditions aforementioned people don't know much about unless they have it or their loved one has it. He was potty training well and now refuses after a bad traumatic incident involving using the potty and using underwear at home like he did before. Having trauma caused when tbey have ptsd is a major setback in any situation. I will never have the total details of what occured since he cant verbally tell me all.of it. He has told me when discussing the potty and when he came home that, bad happen, scared now, they mean to me, or saying yes or no when asked if someone scared him or was mean to him. Which that much he has told me. As to exact details to counteract it better have no idea and never will as it occured outside the home in the other pare t and families care. They will never say (they have been asked and ci fronted about the incident and issur) He returned terrified which he had no fear or reluctance prior. How do I get him to use the potty and make him feel safe other then making sure its me and telling him he is safe and no one is gonna hurt him. With that he will often calm down and sit on the potty but he resists at first and tou cant safley force it. He most times will then leave the room and pee in his pullups after being on the toilet. He does it on purpose and then asks for a change of clothes saying i pottied. He knows when he has to go and can hold it, say when he has gone. He knows provacy is important and asks for it but will go elsewhere then the bathroom. He sees us go to provide a real life example and tbat diesnt bither him and he unferstands the proccess. It isnt a lack of understanding. For example he will not.go in a swimsuit is in a seimsuit or in water. He will gwt out and insist on a pull up and then go potty. So he understands thats not the hurdle like most kids. He flat out refuses and refuses to go without a pull up he has bad panick attacks sometimes if you wont use one. The typical tips and medical advice to motivate them with a toy or activity for efforts or success doesn't work with him if he doesn't want to do something no bribe or special offer or explanation is gonna convince him otherwise. Due to trama if you force it or anything it has negative impacts on his mental and e.otjonal health and wrllneing. Flashcards visual aids dont motivate him. His PTSD has similar symptoms to autisim without any sensory issues if that is belpful in understanding . He isn't scared of the noise or feel or anything sensory wise for anything including bathroom and toilet use. Long stoey simmed up how do i moti ate him to go back to suing the potty. I felt the details important for people to see what the situation ism. Any ideas aside from the typical visual aids and reward them with stickers or a desired item or activity is appreciated. .