Baby Names

thescarletmom

I know it's early, but if you're like us, me and my husband will probably need the full nine months to name this baby! What names are you loving, names you love but won't use, need advice or polls? Let's go!

fifilala516

We pretty much have settled on a girls' name - but we cannot agree on a boy's name. This happened with my daughter too, so she was lucky she's a girl because otherwise we'd still be trying to name a boy.

lizdiane456

For boys we have Cody and Kacey 
For girls I really love Audrey but DH doesn't like it 

thescarletmom

We have two sons and a daughter, and we have a lot of naming "rules" for ourselves (though we broke several naming our daughter lol) and it makes it haaaard chosing a 4th baby's name when we feel like we've run through a lot of our material lol. The rules are basically, we won't repeat the first name initial for the kids (we already have a J, E, and V), DH doesn't love long names because our last name is long, and we generally speaking won't pick a top 100 name because DH hated having 3 kids with his name in his class at school (so sorry daughter, who's name is like 17th for last year). We also have two kids who's names are sort of the same nature-y vibe but in different ways - so we can't do another naturey name. We want the names to flow together but not too matchy... I know, we make things hard for ourselves. Names I love but we won't use because of ✨️rules✨️ are Juniper, Laurel, Ivy, Olivia, Henry, Beau, Will, Riley. I love Ambrose for a boy, but when we were choosing names for baby #3, DH only liked it as a middle name. I'm crossing my fingers he changes his mind if this baby is DS3! I also love Adeline for a girl but apparently DH says the very-popular-on-tiktok dark romance book has ruined the name for him.

lizdiane456

@thescarletmom as someone who works with babies, can confirm Adeline (and all variations Adaline, Adelynn, Adalaide, etc) is very, very popular right now. Has been for the last 3-4 years. I also love it as a girl name though

thescarletmom

@lizdiane456 ugh I know it! And we already gave our daughter the 16th most popular name the year she was born. We just both couldn't get over loving it, and since we had never met anyone with the name personally we went for it. But DH will not let another extremely popular name happen in this household 😂 for reference our other two children have the 209th and 158th most popular in their respective years. Hopefully Ambrose being the 741st most popular last year will be enough to convince DH. He lives and dies by the SSA baby name popularity lists when we're naming babies. 

fifilala516

@thescarletmom I love the name Beau but my husband…does not.

thescarletmom

@fifilala516 sigh. Same. My husband and I have mostly very different taste in names and it can be very frustrating. 

emeraldcity603

My husband won’t discuss names until we are weeks from the birth. One of our kids didn’t have a middle name until after he was born. I have a hard time naming a boy but I have several girl names I love. 

knottie6f55c2cdcd00affa

Can’t use it, but I’ve always loved the name Elio. It just sounds so warm and bright to me.

beachmama14

We already know this baby is a boy. Boys in our family all have J names. My husband and son have J names, as well as his 2 brothers and dad. With that many, all the ones I like are already used up! l I want to give the baby a J middle name and use a different letter first name. Husband isn't on board yet but Im hoping he will come around lol 

emeraldcity603

@beachmama14 that’s very limiting. Boy names are already so hard, I couldn’t imagine being tied down to names with a specific letter. Hopefully you can get hubby on board. I think your idea is a great compromise. 

thescarletmom

@beachmama14 We have a bunch of J names that we love, and can't use because our oldest's name starts with J and we don't want to reuse first initials. Hopefully he comes around! I agree that it's a good compromise, and I personally don't like to be held to naming regulations created by other people (your ILs in this case).

knottie210c943f9d078bc9

I love talking baby names! Some I love but won’t use: Hazel, Jude, and Arlo. Either taken by friends or don’t flow with our last name.

fifilala516

I knew I wanted an M name for my first child after my grandfather. This time we’re looking at B and R for our grandmothers, but will probably do that as a middle name this time so we don’t limit ourselves.

thescarletmom

I don't know if any of the nerdy moms will know what I'm talking about, but my husband keeps trying to convince me to name the baby after a Magic the Gathering character if it's a girl 🙄 he's been weirdly non-commital about any name I suggest so far this time so I'm nervous what this means for our baby naming adventure.

bdl4349

My first sons name is Beau! Its a great name ❤️

robinj716

I’ve always like the name Sophia for a girl. This time I chose Lexi or Alexis for a girl. Lo and behold it’s another boy 😆 which is always hard names for me. I have a Jacob and an Isaac. My spouse likes Eli. I like Eli also, but my friends son is Eli and my cousin has an Eli too. My spouse doesn’t care, he says we like the name and it doesn’t matter who else has an Eli. I liked the name Mateo, but he quickly said no. So now he’s saying it’s probably Eli and I just don’t know how I feel since others close to me have an Eli! I don’t want them to be offended. 

thescarletmom

@robinj716 he can't just veto your names because he's stuck on his pick! If you are pretty close with your friend and cousin, I personally wouldn't re-use the name, not because it would be offensive but because I've never met anyone who *likes* sharing a name with someone else, especially if they see them often. It can also be confusing yelling at two different Elis in the same room lol. I definitely agree that boys names can be so hard. But this time around I'm pretty confident on a boy name and have nothing for a girl! So it's definitely going to be a girl now 😂

robinj716

Luckily my cousin is in Germany and my best friend I see maybe 7 times a year. I told him “you’re going to have to come up with something else to get stuck on” but I know I’ll be back here announcing the birth of “Eli” because he will get his way. I’m going to keep making a list of names though. 

fifilala516

@robinj716 I love the names Jacob, Isaac, and Eli!

thescarletmom

Help 🫠 we have a name conundrum to sort out. DH *really* wants the name Luna. I don't dislike it, but I have two issues with it. 1. I feel like the name has the strongest vibes of possibly any name ever. Like when I hear the name, it practically comes pre-ordained with a whole personality in my mind and it just feels so specific and I'm afraid of her being born and not looking like a Luna? And 2. I feel like it does not go AT ALL with our other kids names. I had a friend agree with me (without knowing which was my opinion) but also has very different taste in names than I do. I might just post my older kids names to get some opinions and delete it later, because I'm very torn. DH also agreed to let me choose any middle name I want if I agreed to Luna lol but the name I really love is Ruby, and I feel like Luna Ruby is off with the double U sounds. 

lizdiane456

@thescarletmom I agree Luna has strong "vibes", definitely a you-have-to-meet-them name maybe to have in your back pocket for the hospital but not to be set on just in case. We had to switch my son's name in the hospital from what we had planned because it just didn't suit him at all. My personal opinion on the sibling names going together -and this might be a hot take, I don't know- is that it really doesn't matter. They are their own people and have a whole lifetime as individuals vs a handful of years being introduced together. I do agree that Luna Ruby doesn't really go together but it's not bad by any means. 

thescarletmom

@lizdiane456 I definitely agree as far as the kids individually! It's not something that they're likely to care about. And I do think if we only wanted 2 kids, "going together" is something I wouldn't care about as much. But with our bigger bunch, it feels more noticeable when only one stands out. And I personally am going to be talking about my children as a group, to friends, coworkers, chatting generally, for the rest of my life! I just would like them to mesh well when I will be talking about it. 

I do think I'm going to tell DH we can have Luna as an initial name, but need a back up in case it doesn't fit. His worry is that if we leave it up to the day she's born, neither will fit? And I get that, I would probably overthink it too in the pressure of the moment. How did it feel for you guys to switch gears at the hospital?? Did it seem there was a "right" answer?

lizdiane456

@thescarletmom it wasn't too much pressure I wouldn't say, he just came out and we both were like...oh nope that doesn't feel right at all. We had a few backup names and one of them just felt right for him 

RoseShadow873

@thescarletmom I agree with others that sibling names don't have to go together really. I named all my kids whatever we liked and I don't think they necessarily match or anything in any way. I don't think Luna Ruby sounds bad really either. And how often do you even use a middle name? I have never fully decided a name until after the birth so I think it totally makes sense to meet them first.

crizz13

It may sound silly, but ChatGPT has been my best friend for naming this baby. I gave it my other kids’ names and the middle name we are going to use (it’s a family name) and it gave me such good options!! I also asked it to compare some names that I was debating and it gave solid advice.