Sudden panic about son not being only child anymore?

amber_06

Okay, am I losing my mind? 

I have been fine my whole pregnancy and super excited for my son to have a sibling. He is 20 months so doesn’t fully understand but has also been excited about participating in gender reveal, ect. and he knows baby sister lives in moms belly and is excited to meet her. 

Due to some complications I am having the doctor scheduled me for a 38 week c-section and as soon as that was scheduled I started panicking about my son no longer being an only child and not having as much attention and time to focus on him. Which has led down all kinds of crazy roads including me trying to figure out today how I can fit in a spontaneous Disney World trip in 3 weeks when I’m 33 weeks pregnant so that he can have one more trip as the only child. I’m pretty sure I’m having some sort of pre-2nd baby life crisis. 😂 Is this happening to anyone else?!

courtmiller73

This is totally normal!! I’m due today with my fourth and I’ve felt this with each new addition! However one of my favoriteeee parts of welcoming a new baby is watching the siblings meet them for the first time! Sibling love is indescribable! You’re feelings are so normal but I promise once baby’s here and you watch big brother love on her those feelings will quickly subside! 

routtymama

Yes! It has been the normal part of the process for me, too. I’m getting ready to have my fourth and I’ve mourned the transition each time (the only no longer being the only or the baby no longer being the baby). But to @courtneymiller73’s point, it’s even sweeter to see the sibling love. It can be bittersweet, but it is mostly sweet. We do try to build in “dates” or pockets of time that each kid can have solo time with a parent. My oldest (8) still really loves this solo time. 

amber_06

Thank you both! So helpful to know this is normal and I haven’t ruined our lives. 🤣 I know he is going to be so excited to meet baby sister. I definitely want to try to find some time to still prioritize one on one time with him (and baby sister as well as she grows). ☺️

knottie5ecade337b4b9152

You are absolutely not losing your mind. this is SO real and way more common than people admit! 😅 You're not alone.

That emotional wave when you realize your first baby won’t just be your only anymore? It hits HARD. You're still excited, but suddenly the guilt creeps in. like “Will he feel left out? Am I ruining our special bond?!” And honestly... the Disney trip idea? Not crazy at all 😂 It just shows how much you love him and want to soak up every bit of this chapter.

This sounds like a total “pre-2nd baby life crisis,” yes but also? It’s your heart stretching. And that’s beautiful. ❤️ Your son will adjust, and he’ll gain a best friend for life. And you’ll still find little moments to make him feel like your one and only, even with a baby sister in your arms.

You’ve got this, mama 💪💕

amber_06

Thank you so much for your response! It’s so helpful. 💕

knottie6f55c2cdcd00affa

You're not crazy at all. That shift from one to two is big emotionally. It hit me hard too right before delivery.