Postpartum Depression

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Would anyone else like to discuss their experience with postpartum depression? I had a really hard time adjusting and connecting with my son when he was born. It got pretty bad. Fortunately, I was able to get help and was prescribed antidepressants. Now I feel much better. But I am still having a hard time having those feelings that my son is the most important person in the world. I don't having those overwhelming feelings of love like I feel like I should. It makes me feel so guilty and like a horrible mother. Has anyone else felt this way?

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FTM here. My son was born on March 2nd and I’ve struggled so much to connect with him. I’ve been in so much physical pain from a very complicated, failed vaginal delivery and unplanned c-section, I haven’t had a chance to feel like I can do anything other than get myself through the day. I’ve been told it gets better with time and the right support. I’m also on medication and seeing my therapist twice a week. It helps knowing you’re not alone. 

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Having a baby is such a huge change mentally. For me there wasn't this overwhelming feeling of love either for my first baby in the beginning. I had a complicated delivery, I was exhausted and put a lot of pressure on myself as a first time mom that I should be feeling a certain way and doing certain things with my baby like I read about. I also took antidepressants and I didn't feel like myself until maybe 5-6 months (not saying this is will be the same for you). But man, once I hit that mark things got better. I had a little bit of confidence that I knew what I was doing and started to have a better routine. 

Know you are doing a good job, you are not broken and your feelings are what thousands of women can relate to. Give yourself time to adjust and don't set unrealistic expectations and pressure on yourself to feel a certain way. It WILL get better. My experience with my 2nd baby has been so much better this time around.  Things get better and easier!! 

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yeah, I totally get where you're coming from... I felt super disconnected too at first, and it can be really tough not feeling that instant bond, but you're definitely not alone in this:
Just looked it up on the 'Heal Baby Care App' and here's what it says:
I'm really sorry to hear that you've been struggling with these feelings. It's important to know that many mothers experience similar challenges, especially after going through postpartum depression. The bond with your child can take time to develop, and it's okay to not feel that overwhelming love right away. Guilt is a common feeling among parents, but it doesn't define your ability to be a good mother. Have you considered talking to a therapist or support group about these feelings? They can provide a safe space to explore your emotions and help you navigate this journey.