When to tell your boss?

yogi-mama-sierra

I’m currently 8 weeks pregnant. I work for a privately owned dental office. The only Dr is an amazing woman. She’s 35 with twin 4 years olds. The whole office is just 8 women. I’m not sure when to tell her. Last year, I had a silent miscarriage at 6 weeks and carried for another 7 weeks before actually miscarrying at 13 weeks. In my area we don’t get a pre-natal appt until the 12 week scan. I miscarried naturally at home a week after finding out that the pregnancy wasn’t viable. So I didn’t know then and I still feel in the unknown now. Knowing that- I both want to wait in case I miscarry but I also want to tell her right away, so if I do miscarry, I can be honest about any needed time away. Just looking for advice. When did you/are you going to tell your boss? 

knottie21d2a8f947a0480d

I think it depends on your relationship with your boss. If you trust her and feel like she is a person you can confide in, maybe it’s worth telling her. That way you can have her support if something were to happen. 

I was originally planning on telling my boss when I announce in the 2nd trimester, however my morning sickness seems to be getting worse every day to the point that it’s hard to get through daily activities. If I feel like it’s beginning to noticeably affect my work, then I will tell her. I have a good relationship with her and trust that she’d keep it a secret and also give me the support I need. 

littlebird515_

I think it’s solely a personal choice, and if you feel like you can confide in your boss, I think it’s okay to tell her whenever you feel comfortable.

I haven’t told anyone at work yet, but I’m sure they’re noticing that something’s up. Initially I wanted to wait until second trimester, but I’m miserably sick, peeing all the time, and my snacking habits have definitely changed. I think I’m going to tell them after the first ultrasound. I’m in a really male-dominated field and I halfway just want to hang up ultrasound pictures at my desk and wait for them to notice. 

chickennoodlesoup

So sorry for your loss. I think there is no right or wrong answer to this topic. My boss and I have a close relationship and she knew about both of my chemical pregnancies. She was very supportive both times. Now I’m on my third pregnancy and this is the furthest I’ve made it at 6 weeks and 1 day. She knows about this one as well but a lot of people obviously might not be comfortable having their boss know this info. 

babyharg25

I am going to tell my boss after my anatomy scan. This is just a personal preference. I just need her to know before the end of the school year, so I can get a long term sub lined up.

knottie877b957db6c94e82

It's understandable to feel uncertain about when to share your news, especially given your past experience. Many people choose to wait until after the first trimester, around 12 weeks, when the risk of miscarriage decreases. However, since you trust your boss and work in a supportive environment, you might consider sharing earlier, especially if it allows you to take necessary time off if needed. Trust your instincts and do what feels right for you, balancing your comfort with the practicalities of your job. Whatever you decide, it sounds like your workplace will support you.

knottie210c943f9d078bc9

I’m so sorry for your loss last year. That’s a lot to carry. I told my boss around 9 weeks after I had my first ultrasound, mostly because I wanted flexibility if I wasn’t feeling well. If your boss is supportive, it might bring you some peace to let her in early.