Am I Overreacting?

bryannap10

My husband thinks that because he doesn't smoke weed, drink, hit me or verbally assault me like how his dad did that it's okay for him to look at other girls and jerk off to them. But I know what I'm worth and I do everything around the house and take care of our one month old 99% of the time. So am I Overreacting?

mrnechuta

You’re not overreacting in the slightest bit. I was once in a relationship with a man who’d struggled with a porn addiction from age 8… I met him when he was 23. Porn wreaks havoc on the brain. I think it’s worth addressing. Get some outside help too. It can be pretty difficult to kick, if not downright impossible. Not to be a Debby Downer or anything, but good luck. 🤍 Seriously. I know how hard it is to try to stay with someone like that. It tends to be nothing but a vicious cycle of lies and pain. After all, you can’t save someone that doesn’t want to be saved.

knottie877b957db6c94e82

You're not overreacting. You deserve respect and consistency in your relationship.

knottie6f0cdf335a27399e

I would also add that the first 3 months after having a baby are some of the truly hardest months for anyone but also the hardest on your relationship.  You’re in the 4th trimester, still healing, sleep deprived and in survival mode.  So keep that in mind when you’re making any decisions! 

I will say, though, this sounds incredibly hard and a little like you’re being gaslit.  

knottie52d7b1c58c84cda7

Woow, I'm really sorry Sis that's not easy. I have a month old baby too and I can do it all on my own, from food to time to rest. Hope he comes around and help you before it's too late. And you're not overreacting, I hope there could be some serious talk for the better.

nken20

I would say that it's not normal and you're not overreacting. This kind of addiction should be addressed immediately. Talk to him heart to heart and if needed, seek out someone who can intervene.