Also I saw May 2025 babies are migrating to discord, I've never seen that before, usually people go to FB. Do we think a third trimester migration is worth it for us when we have so few regular members? There's plenty of time to discuss and no rush to leave when this group suits us but I personally don't share my kiddos on here so at some point I won't have much to contribute if we do stay. What's everyone's thoughts?Β
Kalesix To a different app? I will say, I don't have any social media. I have been off FB for over 6 years. And can't recommend it enough. Lol But, I wouldn't be completely against changing apps depending on where we go lol I refuse to go FB though. LolΒ
@shieldmaiden95 unfortunately I can't quit fb because I admin too many groups to up and leave π« usually due date groups migrate somewhere private because the bump is full of lurking creeps but there's only a few of us I'm not sure where we'd go. I know discord has a format almost exactly like this with group chat functions for randoms if we want and it can be private, there's also simply group texts, I think there are some good options for an app migration that aren't Facebook, I just know I'm outta here once I have the baby because I've encountered too many awful weirdos on the other bmb in the pastΒ
Kalesix aaahhhhh...... Stranger danger!!!!! Well that's creepy... And makes me feel good. ππ I'd love to see the chat survive, and keep in contact with everyone!! π Β I know one things for sure, depending on what happens to the group if we don't all move to another chat place, I would love to stay in contact with you. π We have been twinsies for so much lolΒ I wasn't in the chat side for my first kid, but I did use the bump. But I remember quickly leaving after giving birth. So I'm sure the same will happen again, especially if the group is slow. (No offense everyone, I get we live busy lives. LolΒ π)Β
I can see why people would migrate for sure. Iβm really not into any social media though. Never have been. π life has enough drama without the added extra! lol Iβd maybe try a different app just not Facebook.Β
Well if it's just us three regulars I'm find just sending you my number in a private message and we can have a group text going and not have the structure of a full board when there's only a few of us? I also don't mind setting up a discord but I wouldn't want anyone to feel stifled by specific threads when there's only three of us π Β
Kalesix I'm fine with that. I hate to say the chats dying... But π€·ββοΈΒ It's crazy what the intro thread started with, and who actually stayed around, and has been a regular.Β
Thank youuu!!! I was in and out in twenty minutes π I love when that happens.Β I'm totally fine staying here for the time being and chatting with you all on the board, May leaving just got me thinking about where we would even go to safely share baby announcements and labor stories π
I know, it's always wild how a hundred people introduce themselves but very few stick around, I think the bump gets less popular each year unfortunately with big fb groups being the usual go to for due date groups. I hate the big groups though so I need something smaller and more intentionally structured, the same thousand people posting the same thread over and over again gets on my nerves and there's so much fightingΒ
OooOooo jealous!! I hope today's appointment is that quick.Β
Did you meet the missing midwife yet?Β
Definitely something to think about. I was going through other threads and who else has been constant and involved, is knittingmama4. (If I'm missing someone, I apologize, that's just who have seen constantly in the check ins for the last month +) So we'll see if anyone else wants to chime in and keep in contact. Lol I definitely see this chat dying completely come May / June. I guess we'll see! ππΒ
I love how small our group is. I feel like it's more meaningful. You can remember what's going on with everyone. Idk how active I'd be if this place was bumpin'.....Ha. Get it. I really should sleep more. LolΒ
Haha I got it! And yes I'd definitely like to stay in contact with you too, twinning has been so nice! Thank you, that was really heartwarming!Β Yeah I'm okay with knittingmama since she's participated regularly too, I can't think of anyone else who has been consistent enough to be comfortable with but I have mom brain π« on some of the more strict bump groups on here they count the number of times you've posted to see if you qualify and it's kind of a lot π« π« π« as long as it's a regular who we've gotten to know each other I'm comfortable with joining! No post counting necessary lol πΒ
I still have not met the other midwife but I did my appointment with a student midwife in tow, and she was really sweet! I think they said I'll meet the other midwife in April lol IDK if she's on her own maternity leave or not. I'll keep my fingers crossed you have a straightforward quick appointment too!Β @kmbeit I totally get it! I wouldn't want anyone to feel less comfortable and I'm fine with either the group text group or a discord or anything really!Β
And you all just let me know what you want to do with migration timing, it can be third trimester or right now or last month of pregnancy or when babies are born or really anything. Whatever people want! π«Άπ»
My appointment went well, they sent me home with the glucose drink, I have taken next time. And I have to go back in for a rescan because we're missing some of the ultrasound because baby girl is sassy, so they want to try again. So yay... Hahah joining the rescan group with the others. ππΒ
I have never done anything on discord. I am on Facebook but not wanting to increase my presence there. Honestly mostly taking a social media break this week while we're on vacation which is why I haven't been around!Β
@shieldmaiden95 oh my gosh glucose already? I don't do mine till end of March but they're making me buy my own drink because the office likes to use fresh test and they don't provide that for you π π Here's hoping these babies behave for the next round of growth scans π€π»Β Knittingmama my phone never lets me tag you but have a good vacation, I don't think anybody wants to go to Fb and that's fineΒ
@kalesix3 I knnnnoooowwww!!!!!! It's nice tho, I just have to take it while going there, and they'll draw my blood at the appointment. So no waiting around. π My kind of way of doing things. Lol This appointment was short like yours, she said glucose next time. Then we start talk about labor plans and things like that, after......Β Where the heck has the time gone???? π³ Hubs started freaking out in the car. It was hitting him that it's coming up so fast!Β
That's so stupid they don't provide it for you. I have never heard of that. π€―π
Baby girl is so sassy, when the midwife was listening to her, she started kicking and squirmy around soooo much she started cracking up. π Theres a good reason the ultrasound took 1hour + and still didn't get finished, good enough. πΒ
Β Iβm fine with whenever or whatever you want to do! Honestly with my last baby I didnβt even know there was a chat as part of the app. And after having my baby I didnβt use the app much anymore.Β
Itβs funny we all have wild babies for scans πΒ
@kalesix3 thatβs cool they use a more natural glucose drink for your test but a bummer they make you buy your own.
@shieldmaiden95 thatβs so cool they let you take it home and not have to wait around! Iβm dreading my glucose test cause last time I got so sick. I already have low blood sugar issues when Iβm not pregnant. Thankfully they let me stay in a room til I was ready to have blood drawn and could lay down last time. π€ͺ
@shieldmaiden95 I do that too and it's so nice!! Honestly better to have it over with instead of stressing and dreading it. I dread it because the three hour made me so unwell I was sure I wouldn't pass and I only failed the one hour because the midwife stressed me out so badly and spiked my glucose. I'm hoping it just goes super smoothly for us both!Β How are you enjoying your practice, you've been there a few months if I'm remembering right, do you feel pretty good about your care?Β Man these squirmy fiesty babies crack me up all the time, it's like they all made a pact for peace and quiet and they're sticking to it lol. Yeah the glucose thing is very pnw flavored to me, it wasn't like this where I've lived before lol πΒ Oh man that freakout, I've been there too!Β
@kmbeit same, I dread it too. I hope they just let you lie down again this time. I didn't remember them letting me drink water years ago but they ask that you drink water during the test at the practice I was at last pregnancy so that hopefully you don't get as sick which is nice. It is a bummer, it's $25 for a single drink which seems kind of lame too π«
Okay I have set up a discord for us to try, and if we don't like it or it's not working we can just text in a group text instead.Β I've had discord for a few years but never set up a server before and it's been a learning curve but I think I managed everything. If all the regulars want to download the app and make a profile for yourself at your own convenience then just let me know when you're set up and I'll private message you a link to the private server. There's absolutely no rush though! I saw that May is doing verification to make sure everyone is actually a pregnant person, is that something you all want to do as well to feel more safe? I'm okay either way I just want to make sure it's a good fit for everyone, we had a catfish in our last birth month group and it was so stressful and miserableΒ
Also just because the bump makes the inbox so hard to find haha. Here is how to find it in case anyone wasn't sure! It took me years to figure outΒ they had this feature hahaΒ
I'm so worried about getting sick taking it. π I have such bad anxiety now, even just simple appointments stress me out. So I'm a little nervous. Won't lie. Lol I have to fast 3 hours before taking it, and can drink water thankfully. But I already blood sugar issues, so this will be interesting.Β
So squirmy. I'm glad I'm not alone on getting a rescan. π My first one moved a lot, but they managed to get everything the first time. I should have known when the ultrasound tech said when were leaving "so they are getting more picky, and you may have to come back in and get another scan, if it's not to there liking. "Β
$25!?!? And I thought Starbucks was spendy. πΒ
I love the practice so far. I have had every midwife, even the OG who opened the practice and doesn't deliver anymore. I have a favorite midwife, but they are both cool.Β
Yeah, we should probably verify who are going into discord. Probably for that peace of mind. Especially since you had a catfish.Β What the heck are people getting out of this if you're creeping? I will never understand some people. πΒ Off to attempt Discord.Β
@shieldmaiden95 it's usually men and they usually do it for fetish reasons, one group had a man stealing pictures and posing as a pregnant person and asking people for labor audios π€’π€’π€’ thankfully our catfish last time didn't do that but she was grade A terrible and told us all she was doing a project for college using the information she gleaned on how stupid and awful internet groups are. Like wtf?!?Β
Anyways I set up a thread for introductions and verification, I was thinking a picture of everyone would probably suffice? I know people do photos with a specific object or a photo with their name on a piece of paper, I didn't want to decide for everyone so I was hoping for some feedback ππ»Β
I'm so glad you found your way around discord, it's a small learning curve but it's much quieter than other social media, especially for a small community! Once we agree on a verification I can start sending links! I'm so glad we're doing this!Β
Ok I made a discord account. Iβm not sure totally how the app works but Iβm learning π thanks for sharing where the inbox was cause I had no idea and was going to ask! π
@shieldmaiden95 I know it's just ridiculous!Β Yeah maybe just a picture of ourselves or our family in the introductions would suffice, I trust our regulars too, you all are so sweet!Β
@kmbeit that's amazing, welcome to the club! There are so many things about discord I'm not well versed in either π we'll all learn together! I'm still figuring out how to format threads to be really intuitive and less confusingΒ
I accepted the invite via link. The intro page pops up but doesn't load for me. I can't see anything. I'll try to mess around and see if I can get it to load. Swear I'm not trying to avoid verification. πΒ
@shieldmaiden95 same!! I keep trying but it just keeps acting like itβs loading and never does anything else?! π€·πΌββοΈ this is what I keep getting??Β
Okay see if that helps! I don't have to accept anyone as members but I do have to tell discord that you're actually members and not visitors so I did that and hopefully it works now?! I swear new platforms are so tough!Β
@knittingmama4 we've moved over to discord to chat there instead, whenever you're home from vacation if you want to join us just let me know and I'll pm you a link! π«Άπ»Β
@kalesix3 I am home! Just to verify we're moving everything like the weekly check ins there? I can probably figure out a new message board but definitely can't do 2!
Re: February Randoms! π
Β I know one things for sure, depending on what happens to the group if we don't all move to another chat place, I would love to stay in contact with you. π We have been twinsies for so much lolΒ
I wasn't in the chat side for my first kid, but I did use the bump. But I remember quickly leaving after giving birth. So I'm sure the same will happen again, especially if the group is slow. (No offense everyone, I get we live busy lives. LolΒ π)Β
Kalesix I'm fine with that. I hate to say the chats dying... But π€·ββοΈΒ
It's crazy what the intro thread started with, and who actually stayed around, and has been a regular.Β
Also good luck at your appointment today! πΒ
I'm totally fine staying here for the time being and chatting with you all on the board, May leaving just got me thinking about where we would even go to safely share baby announcements and labor stories π
Did you meet the missing midwife yet?Β
Definitely something to think about. I was going through other threads and who else has been constant and involved, is knittingmama4. (If I'm missing someone, I apologize, that's just who have seen constantly in the check ins for the last month +) So we'll see if anyone else wants to chime in and keep in contact. Lol I definitely see this chat dying completely come May / June. I guess we'll see! ππΒ
Yeah I'm okay with knittingmama since she's participated regularly too, I can't think of anyone else who has been consistent enough to be comfortable with but I have mom brain π« on some of the more strict bump groups on here they count the number of times you've posted to see if you qualify and it's kind of a lot π« π« π« as long as it's a regular who we've gotten to know each other I'm comfortable with joining! No post counting necessary lol πΒ
@kmbeit I totally get it! I wouldn't want anyone to feel less comfortable and I'm fine with either the group text group or a discord or anything really!Β
And you all just let me know what you want to do with migration timing, it can be third trimester or right now or last month of pregnancy or when babies are born or really anything. Whatever people want! π«Άπ»
I'm down with whenever to move.Β
My appointment went well, they sent me home with the glucose drink, I have taken next time. And I have to go back in for a rescan because we're missing some of the ultrasound because baby girl is sassy, so they want to try again. So yay... Hahah joining the rescan group with the others. ππΒ
Here's hoping these babies behave for the next round of growth scans π€π»Β
Knittingmama my phone never lets me tag you but have a good vacation, I don't think anybody wants to go to Fb and that's fineΒ
Where the heck has the time gone???? π³ Hubs started freaking out in the car. It was hitting him that it's coming up so fast!Β
That's so stupid they don't provide it for you. I have never heard of that. π€―π
Baby girl is so sassy, when the midwife was listening to her, she started kicking and squirmy around soooo much she started cracking up. π Theres a good reason the ultrasound took 1hour + and still didn't get finished, good enough. πΒ
@shieldmaiden95 thatβs so cool they let you take it home and not have to wait around! Iβm dreading my glucose test cause last time I got so sick. I already have low blood sugar issues when Iβm not pregnant. Thankfully they let me stay in a room til I was ready to have blood drawn and could lay down last time. π€ͺ
@knittingmama4 enjoy your vacation!!Β
How are you enjoying your practice, you've been there a few months if I'm remembering right, do you feel pretty good about your care?Β
Man these squirmy fiesty babies crack me up all the time, it's like they all made a pact for peace and quiet and they're sticking to it lol.
Yeah the glucose thing is very pnw flavored to me, it wasn't like this where I've lived before lol πΒ
Oh man that freakout, I've been there too!Β
I've had discord for a few years but never set up a server before and it's been a learning curve but I think I managed everything. If all the regulars want to download the app and make a profile for yourself at your own convenience then just let me know when you're set up and I'll private message you a link to the private server. There's absolutely no rush though! I saw that May is doing verification to make sure everyone is actually a pregnant person, is that something you all want to do as well to feel more safe? I'm okay either way I just want to make sure it's a good fit for everyone, we had a catfish in our last birth month group and it was so stressful and miserableΒ
So squirmy. I'm glad I'm not alone on getting a rescan. π My first one moved a lot, but they managed to get everything the first time. I should have known when the ultrasound tech said when were leaving "so they are getting more picky, and you may have to come back in and get another scan, if it's not to there liking. "Β
$25!?!? And I thought Starbucks was spendy. πΒ
I love the practice so far. I have had every midwife, even the OG who opened the practice and doesn't deliver anymore. I have a favorite midwife, but they are both cool.Β
Yeah, we should probably verify who are going into discord. Probably for that peace of mind. Especially since you had a catfish.Β
What the heck are people getting out of this if you're creeping? I will never understand some people. πΒ
Off to attempt Discord.Β
Anyways I set up a thread for introductions and verification, I was thinking a picture of everyone would probably suffice? I know people do photos with a specific object or a photo with their name on a piece of paper, I didn't want to decide for everyone so I was hoping for some feedback ππ»Β
I'm so glad you found your way around discord, it's a small learning curve but it's much quieter than other social media, especially for a small community! Once we agree on a verification I can start sending links! I'm so glad we're doing this!Β
I trust y'all. Especially our regulars. But now I'm a little paranoid.Β ππI can't believe people.Β
Yeah maybe just a picture of ourselves or our family in the introductions would suffice, I trust our regulars too, you all are so sweet!Β
@kmbeit that's amazing, welcome to the club! There are so many things about discord I'm not well versed in either π we'll all learn together! I'm still figuring out how to format threads to be really intuitive and less confusingΒ
Edit: no idea how to get it to load. πΒ