I definitely had this more with my first pregnancy. Early on every little thing set me off and I got so irritated whenever someone would ask me how I was feeling or if they would seem overly excited. I think it came down to me being nervous as a FTM and I was feeling sick and tired all the time. When my second trimester hit I got my energy back and seemed to be able to enjoy the pregnancy alongside my loved ones.
Now with my second my emotions are different, but still there. Hoping the hormones even out for you soon 🙏🏽💕✨
Yep, all of this. I am having my first baby at 44 and I am all over the place. I'm afraid to say anything about how I feel because people look at me like I'm crazy. No safe space!!
Hi ladies, this is #4 for me and I relate with all of this on so many ends. With my first, I cried if anything surprised me or caused any change in emotions. Like full on inconsolable sobbing, even a good surprise. With my 2nd, I was an irritable angry b!tc#. Someone would breathe too loudly and I’d be like WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM!!!! And feel like they threatened to burn my house down. This is how I am for #4, unfortunately.
I highly highly hiiighly recommend finding a therapist if you don’t already have one, as it can be so helpful and validating that what you’re going through is normal, albeit frustrating as heck.
ALSO! For my 3rd I finally was seeing a therapist during pregnancy and she actually set up 3 sessions with my husband pre-birth and post-birth, along with giving him her cell number so he could be aware what my personal signs were for PPD/PPA, especially since I was having such high emotional fluctuations already, and know for a fact I had major PPA after #1 and just powered through assuming it was ‘normal’. It was so validating to have her talk about what signs and symptoms might look like in me for PPA (like, hyper-independence and acting like I’m a single mother doing this all on my own/refusing help and then having massive emotional crashes) and her directing him on how to help. She made a sleep plan and basically told him he CANNOT screw up ensuring that I get the necessary amount of sleep for mental reset, or it will negatively affect my mental health and things shall spiral. She talked mildly about nutrition and sunshine needs, taking a vitamin D, etc. She also supported him and his needs too, but let’s be real, we go through SO much more. It was just so so so supportive, and I truly wish I had known something like that could have been possible for my first two, as maybe I wouldn’t have struggled so much postpartum.
The other aspect was, her telling him this from a psych perspective helped me feel like I didn’t have to be responsible for explaining and communicating yet even MORE of my needs, feeling like I was being needy/weak, etc. Idk. It was just great to have him understand from another source. Sorry I’m long-winded, I’m just such an advocate for maternal mental health and want to everyone to get help if needed because this all can be so hard!
If ya need a chat, reach out—pregnancy hormones can be brutal. I felt like a mess too, cryin’ over nothing. Total rollercoaster. Lean on support, even online. Also, weird tip—my Pharmacy B2B Partner suggested magnesium, and it helped tons. Hang in there, mama!
Re: Is anyone else having a tough time emotionally?
Literally, everything can set me off right now. I'm mostly just sad and crying and insecure. For no particular reason whatsoever. Its wild.
I highly highly hiiighly recommend finding a therapist if you don’t already have one, as it can be so helpful and validating that what you’re going through is normal, albeit frustrating as heck.
ALSO! For my 3rd I finally was seeing a therapist during pregnancy and she actually set up 3 sessions with my husband pre-birth and post-birth, along with giving him her cell number so he could be aware what my personal signs were for PPD/PPA, especially since I was having such high emotional fluctuations already, and know for a fact I had major PPA after #1 and just powered through assuming it was ‘normal’. It was so validating to have her talk about what signs and symptoms might look like in me for PPA (like, hyper-independence and acting like I’m a single mother doing this all on my own/refusing help and then having massive emotional crashes) and her directing him on how to help. She made a sleep plan and basically told him he CANNOT screw up ensuring that I get the necessary amount of sleep for mental reset, or it will negatively affect my mental health and things shall spiral. She talked mildly about nutrition and sunshine needs, taking a vitamin D, etc. She also supported him and his needs too, but let’s be real, we go through SO much more. It was just so so so supportive, and I truly wish I had known something like that could have been possible for my first two, as maybe I wouldn’t have struggled so much postpartum.