Baby name drama

elise04-25

How do i avaid the family drama around chosing a name for my daughter, im 25 weeks pregnant and ive already been in multiple arguments over what im going to name my baby (or not going to name her), everyone in my family talks about my aunt Evelyn and how i just "have" to name my baby after her, she was a great woman, i never met her, i don't like that name, i already have a name in mind, and found out Evelyn was a racist trying to keep segregation in schools in our area, so no, not naming the baby after her, and my family thinks im so disrespectful for it, ive even had some family say theyd be no contact with me and my baby if i dont name her Evelyn? Is it normal for families to be like this?

mariannie_

I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through—it must be really stressful!

If your family is pushing for a name you don’t like, you could suggest an alternative that holds sentimental value to them or offer it as a middle name (if you're comfortable with that). Another option is to create a shortlist of names you both love, share it to them if you're open to suggestions, but keep it limited to avoid too many conflicting ideas.

Ultimately, the decision is yours and your partner's. Choose a name that feels right for both of you. Once you've already decided, be firm but respectful, set boundaries while still being mindful of their feelings.

On a side note, my eldest daughter was born in April, and I named her Avriel after her birth month, I didn't want to name her after anyone specific 

alexa_94

I’m one to people please but when it comes to my baby names, that’s between me and my husband. 

If your family members wanted the name so badly they should have given one of their babies that name. 

Set boundaries and if they really want to cut you off then they don’t get to see pictures or get updates.
it would be one thing if you were close with your aunt, but you didn’t even know her. You don’t owe them anything.