When to tell the fam?

acetylene6

Im 5 weeks today. My husband and I first discussed that we’d wait til 10-12 weeks to tell our families but with Christmas just a couple weeks away, I feel like that would be the perfect time too but I’ll just be 7 weeks by then…is that too soon? When’s everyone sharing their news?? 

amber_06

I think it’s a personal choice for everyone and you shouldn’t feel pressured to do anything specific. My first pregnancy we actually told my parents who live very close to us at 4 weeks. It was a rough pregnancy and I was already having a lot of sickness and it wouldn’t have been possible to hide. We told the rest of our family around 8 weeks and did the “social media announcement” at 12.This time we, like you are considering a Christmas announcement to family and will be around 7 weeks as well.

acetylene6

Thanks! 7 weeks just feels so soon to tell people. But I know they’ll be suspicious if I’m not drinking at our family Christmas parties…and my mom just got married a week ago (courthouse marriage to her longtime partner) and I don’t want to steal her thunder as people might celebrate her big news on Christmas too…Ayyy! Don’t know what to do! 

knottied6196cb679917af5

Having the exact same conundrum! And we did IVF so people who knew about our IVF journey already know about pregnancy. But wondering when to tell others? Christmas makes that very challenging. And as a drinker, people will notice that I'm not drinking (and eating certain foods!). We have been slowly telling others. First scan is next week and based on how that goes we'll likely tell a few others. But social media announcement will definitely but after first trimester.

knottie1a57cc4bdb8d991d

Oh my goodness, I’ve been on the same pendulum this week as a first time expectant mother! 

We head over to my in-laws (different state) to celebrate the holidays, and it would be the perfect time to be able to share the news. The only thing I’m worried about is that our first OB appointment isn’t until we’re back in the first week of January!
A part of me wants the professional to sign off and give us an okay before we share the news, but in the flip-side we won’t have another opportunity to get the close family together soon after! 

sydcrawf

With my first pregnancy, we told my entire family at thanksgiving before we had even gone to the OB. I was only 7 weeks and ended up miscarrying. Looking back, I wish I had only told close friends and family. You know, the people you want to be with you in the trenches of a miscarriage. Just my personal preference. I’m 5 weeks now and have only told my mom and my close friends who I see/talk to on a regular basis. 

amber_06

Sorry for your loss and congratulations on your new little one!

acetylene6

Yeah, I’m worried about something happening since it’s still early…however, we did IVF and opted for the genetic testing, so my doc said chances of MC are very nil, but still…lmk what everyone decides tho! Christmas news or late January news?! 

knottie1d79ade07ad9b93b

So happy to see this thread! First appt is second week of January and I’ll just have turned 10 weeks. We were thinking about going to an elective sonogram place before for peace of mind before the holidays. Have any of you done that before your OB appt? Pros/cons?

knottiee28535b446624624

I’m telling our parents at christmas because it’s a perfect opportunity. I’ll be 6+2 on christmas day so it feels ok to tell our parents. 

We our telling our two best friends this weekend tho it is so early, we want to have some support and they’d be the first people we’d call if anything would happen so it feels right. Other than that we’re thinking of waiting as long as we can to tell everyone! My husband wants to scream it to the world now haha but ain’t no way

acetylene6

Ya, I think we’re gonna go for it on Christmas and share with our families! We have another holiday party a week later with aunts/uncles and cousins. I don’t think my mom will be able to contain herself with the news so we’ll probably tell everyone else then too. Way more fun than an email 4 weeks later. We’re not big on social media so won’t be doing any posts. 

yanidp13

I had to do the exact same thing - too much nausea and fatigue to hide, plus the drinking at celebrations...