Gender

knottie34bc2e7d56891b36

So I am so excited to be a mom and bring a new life into this world. However we got our genetic test and found we are having a boy. Which I am excited but can’t help but be disappointed that it’s not girl. Has anyone else felt like this? How do you get over it? 

lizzzy217

I feel like gender disappointment is way more common than anyone makes it out to be, so when it ends up happening to you it feels so much more shocking to have had that kind of reaction.

I have always wanted a girl, but when I first found out I was pregnant for some reason I was so absolutely certain that I was having a boy. I don't know why I thought that, but I just felt so certain. So when we got the genetic test results and found out that I was actually having a girl, I literally cried. Pregnancy hormones, amiright?

Even though I was "disappointed" in the gender, I honestly felt more disappointed in myself for having that kind of negative reaction, because I guess I thought I was better than that? And because you know you already love your baby no matter what, somehow it feels so wrong to feel any kind of disappointment about them before they're even born.

So just know you're not alone! Gender disappointment is not uncommon at all, and it often ends up resolving on its own, it might just take some time. Gender is kind of the first thing you get to know about the "identity" of your baby, so it makes sense that there's so much expectation tied up with it. But "Gender disappointment is often lost in the wind when the realities of parenthood hit." All of those milestones that you'll experience - holding them for the first time, seeing their first smile, watching them roll over, crawl, walk - will still feel magical to you no matter what gender your baby is.

harpseal135

Congrats on having a boy. From a person who had a miracle child (i was never supposed to have kids) the sex of  your child should be a celebration and not a disappointment.  
If you have your heart set on a specific sex (sex and gender are not the same) specialists are able to separate boy and girl sperm.  Though nothing is 100% guarenteed, you have greater chances of getting the sex you desire. 
Just don't ever let your kid know that you were disappointed because you found out he has a penis and not a vagina, that you were disappointed that he physically looks male. But you never know he may still want to take dance, play with dolls, help cook, want to try sewing, be a nurse, etc.  

leban_cheban

Your concept of having a boy and the reality are so different. Your feelings will change after the birth, I'm sure. I advise posting later on when things change. : ). Keep your spirits high, my dear and don't worry so much about traditional "gender roles" and just focus on who your baby becomes as a person. Good Luck 👍