Pregnant after loss

Stacey236

Hello, please help with tips or tricks to help relax. 

I had a miscarriage at about 5 weeks in April. Have also had a few in the past(further along) Just found out we are pregnant again. My HCG levels have been good. 1735 at 4weeks 4 days. Waiting on my first ultrasound next week but the waiting is giving me anxiety.  Everytime I feel anything in my stomach or lower back I start to worry.  

Any suggestions would be appreciated. 

pharmdiva2020

Hi! I’ve been checking this post hoping someone would give advice. I’m in a similar boat having had a missed miscarriage in July. I’m 13 weeks today but still have unwavering anxiety over the whole pregnancy and any unusual feeling in my body. 

I don’t have much to offer apart from unity but I did want to share what a friend who had a similar experience shared with me. She said “I do understand this. Just don’t let it rob you of the joy. I did that sometimes and I really wish I didn’t. It’s not fair and every baby should be celebrated. Today you are pregnant and that’s worth celebrating”. It brought me some peace & I hope it will help you some too. ❤️

dpjennifer

I'm sorry to both of you for your losses.  The only thing you can do is to remember that you are PG today.  Love that baby every moment you have it, whether that is for 5 weeks, 8 weeks, 12 weeks, or to being a living child.  You have no control over whether or not that baby will survive, but you can love it as long as you have it.  

Also, take comfort in statistics.  Most women have an early MC like you do, but then go on to have a healthy, living baby.  Those of us who have multiple losses in a row and major issues are not the norm.  But, I survived, and others like me survive, and if you would happen to be in that very narrow percentage to lose PG after PG, we exist and will help you through it. 

Finally, I recommend a good therapist if you feel you need that.  Find a really good fit though, and realize you don't need to keep going to the first one you try if you don't feel comfortable with that person.

Stacey236

Thank you so much for that.  We have been doing our best to celebrate this pregnacy. Our first ultrasound is soon so I'm hoping that helps a bit as well.  

_beckywhite_

@Stacey236 I'm truly sorry to hear about your losses, and I commend you for reaching out during this challenging time. It's completely natural to feel anxious as you await your ultrasound, especially given your past experiences. Here are a few tips that may help you find some relaxation:

1. Mindfulness and Meditation: Practicing mindfulness can help ground you in the present moment. Consider guided meditation apps or videos that focus on relaxation and anxiety relief.

2. Gentle Exercise: Engaging in light activities like walking or prenatal yoga can help release endorphins and reduce stress while being gentle on your body.

3. Breathing Exercises: Deep breathing techniques can be very effective in calming anxiety. Try inhaling deeply through your nose, holding for a few seconds, and exhaling slowly through your mouth.

4. Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can provide an outlet for processing emotions and may ease some of the worry you're experiencing.

5. Connect with Supportive People: Sharing your feelings with close friends or family members who understand what you're going through can offer comfort.

6. Limit Information Overload: While it’s important to be informed, sometimes too much information or excessive searching online can heighten anxiety—try to set boundaries around how much time you spend reading about pregnancy-related topics.

7. Focus on Self-Care: Prioritize activities that bring you joy or peace, whether it's reading a book, taking a warm bath, or enjoying a favorite hobby.

Remember that it’s okay to seek professional support if the anxiety feels overwhelming; talking to a therapist who specializes in reproductive health could provide additional coping strategies tailored specifically for you during this journey. You're not alone in this; take care of yourself as best as you can right now!

Stacey236

Update, had an ultrasound today and baby looks good. Saw a heart beat ❤️
Starting on progesterone and baby asprin and going for another ultrasound next week. 

Thank you all for your helpful words