How to tell the husband..

coleyt8

Hey Mama's,
Just found out I'm pregnant with baby #4. While I'm super excited and have been wanting another baby, I've also have been acutely aware that my husband desperately needs/wants more support at home with our other three kids (8,6,2). Since I work later in the day, I get the kids together for school drop off and he is home for pick up, hw, dinner & bed routines. My husband is an only child and is pretty overwhelmed throughout the week. (Idk if he'll ever get used to sibling chaos lol) I've been looking for a remote/hybrid position, so I can be home more, provide support, a tap out, help with hw and such but I haven't had much luck yet. With that in mind, I recently found out I'm pregnant. I have already been feeling guilty not being home more with our kids, and seeing the anxiety in my husband... I really am struggling with how to break the news to him.

bigworldlittleg

Here are my thoughts. It doesn’t sound as if he has come to you and explicitly said he doesn’t want any more kids. Plus, he was certainly involved in the baby making process. So he must know that this is a possibility (even if it’s slim). So I wouldn’t view this as a burden you’re placing on him. He played just as much of an active role in making it happen! So I would approach it as a team.

That being said, the stress he experiences caring for your current 3 kids is totally valid. So it’s important to show him you recognize that and that you’re wanting to make a change. Not just for his benefit, but for the benefit of the entire family. There’s a good solution - it’s just a matter of you two communicating in order to find it.

Good luck! And let us know how it goes.

coleyt8

Thank you. I can't even begin to tell you how comforting your words are to me, truly thank you.

routtymama

how did it go, @coleyt8 I’ve been thinking of you.