Team Green but ultrasound tech ruined it by saying pronoun :(

Knottie2f33cbc3415f1312

Hi everyone. I am on my third pregnancy and have two boys already so husband and I decided to find out the gender at birth. It was important to me to not find out and to find out when baby was born because it would have been special to me due to personal and spiritual reasons. Today at my anatomy scan, I told the ultrasound tech we didn’t want to find out the gender. Then, when it came to showing us the baby, the baby was sucking its thumb and she said “awwww look he’s sucking his thumb” and proceeded to use “he’s” once more throughout the visit. My husband and I left there so disappointed because we feel now the surprise has been ruined for us. I don’t mind if it’s a boy, but I would have rather found that out at birth. I also noticed she didn’t try to hide the bottom parts of baby during the ultrasound.

pregnantinthepnw

I’m sorry that is a bummer! It’s hard to keep it a secret these days when we are seeing multiple nurses and techs in addition to our doctor. They’re all so busy and it seems like keeping gender secrets is less and less easy for them.

congratulations though!!!!

allfacestheoaks

That sure is disappointing.

I wanted my third to be a surprise as well since my husband and I already had a boy and a girl and all their birthdays are within 1 month, I wouldn't need anything but diapers and wipes. But someone let it slip before we left the ultrasound after promising not to say anything. I confided in my husband about how I felt and he became upset because he would have rather I kept it to myself. He was in the room though so I thought he heard the slip-up too. We continued to tell everyone the baby's gender was a surprise. We really didn't want more clothes at the baby shower anyway (which didn't happen because I was violently throwing up the night before our shower and had to cancel the morning-of). 🙃

Life sure throws us surprises we didn't ask for! But it's all going to work out in the end. You mentioned spirituality. Perhaps it was fate or God or whatever it is that is meaningful to you. If it's at all possible, try to focus on positive aspects rather than dwelling on the negative because what happened cannot be changed, but how you choose to reflect on what happened can make your memory negative, neutral, or positive as you move forward with life. In the end, you've got the things that matter most, like 4 precious people whom you love and who love you also. ❤️

*A lurk from March 2025*

_beckywhite_

The anticipation of finding out your baby’s gender at birth is such a special moment, and it’s understandable to want to keep it a surprise. It's frustrating when expectations aren't met, especially during such an important time. It might be worth discussing your experience with the clinic or provider; they should be aware of how crucial it is to respect parents' wishes regarding gender disclosure. Remember, regardless of what you were hoping for, the joy of welcoming your little one into the world will be incredibly special. If you need support or just want to talk about it more, feel free to reach out!