Rude to ask for a baby shower.

happybump22

I know this post has been a hot topic before multiple times and worded with different circumstances but I still would like an opinion!

I am pregnant with my second child. My mom threw me a shower for my first and so did my bestfriend. Well my mom passed away shortly after my first baby was born and she really spearheaded everything for her first grand baby. I’ve had a few relatives and friends ask if I was going to have a baby shower for this baby but that’s about it. I would like to have one just to celebrate this new life but I feel kinda tacky asking someone else to throw it. 

My dad and MIL are also living parents but not in the best financial position.. any advice? Or past experiences?

MrsCaliRN

I’m sorry for the loss of your mom 💛

Hosting your own baby shower is completely fine. If you’re worried about convention, having a baby shower for your 2nd+ kid isn’t 100% conventional anyways! 

Curious to know: what are your motivations for having a baby shower? Just to celebrate the baby’s life, to get gifts and items, to see friends and family and just be happy together? If it’s to celebrate the life or just to gather, then you can do a sip and see after baby’s born. I think it’s also reasonable to have a potluck or something at your home, park, or church (free options) and somewhat reasonable to ask people to bring food if there’s no expectations around gifts.
If you want a shower just to get gifts and items, then you can always just make a registry and send it to people along with an “official” announcement that you’re expecting. No gathering needed. 

Final options (though I don’t really recommend but maybe it’ll work!) is to drop hints to your friend group, like “I would love to have a shower for this baby but don’t have anyone to host it” or straight-up ask someone you know moderately well with a decent house if you could host your shower there.  

cornichonmam

It's your baby you can have a shower if you want. I would say your not expecting gifts but if people want to get you something give a short list of things eg. books, baby grows. But this baby deserves celebrating and I'm sure after the passing of your mother your family would like a positive excuse to get together. 

knottie4eee47ba20ca0a5b

I don't know what your decision has been or if you've had the shower yet, but this is my second baby and doing a sprinkle instead of shower. We aren't spending much on decorations, food, etc. Baby showers/sprinkles don't have to be these over the top parties like we see these days. I knew I wanted to have a sprinkle to celebrate are next baby even if it was a girl (first child is girl). Thankfully my MIL'S church has a hoard of decorations for all sorts of events so we are using some of them, using the church event space, and inviting the same people but no guys this time so less food needed. Ask your friend if they can host a sprinkle/shower or at least help you with it. Get with friends and relatives on what decorations or supplies you could borrow, have a few different sandwiches and desserts, maybe they can make and bring food and drinks. The main thing is don't put pressure on yourself or anyone else to make it an extravagant event because let's face it not many can afford that these days. Have a small, meaningful celebration.