Weekly Check-in, w/o June 24th

kamays54

EDD / Weeks + Days:

FTM/STM/TTM+:

Baby is the size of a (an):

Team blue/pink/green: 

Upcoming Appointments: 

How are you feeling?: 

Rants/Raves: 

Questions: 

GTKY: Since a few of us have mentioned how loooong this first trimester has been feeling, what is your favorite way to treat yourself or your favorite thing to do to decompress?

kamays54

EDD / Weeks + Days: Jan 3rd / 12w 3d

FTM/STM/TTM+: STM

Baby is the size of a (an): Plum

Team blue/pink/green: Green for now

Upcoming Appointments: Friday the 28th for blood tests (hopefully).  I should also be getting the NIPT kit so we will find out the sex soon.

How are you feeling?: Still struggling with nausea and exhaustion.  Had a little bit of constipation recently which seems to make the nausea worse. 

Rants/Raves: We have officially told everyone that we are pregnant.  It feels good but also a little scary.

Questions: NATM

GTKY: Since a few of us have mentioned how loooong this first trimester has been feeling, what is your favorite way to treat yourself or your favorite thing to do to decompress? Honestly, I usually just play a mindless game on my phone to decompress.  As for a favorite way to treat yourself, I enjoy giving gifts.  So every once in a while I buy something for my daughter or my husband.  I enjoy shopping but there isn't anything that I really want/need right now so I still get my shopping fix while making someone else happy which in turn makes me even happier.

bcml

Hi everyone, just found this community and excited to join. ❤️

EDD / Weeks + Days: 12 weeks today

FTM/STM/TTM+: FTM

Baby is the size of a (an): plum

Team blue/pink/green: green

Upcoming Appointments: first midwife appointment on Friday June 28th. Feel like I've been waiting for.e.ver for this appointment! I'm hoping things will start to feel more real and my anxiety will decrease after this appointment. 

How are you feeling?: physically I'm feeling pretty good! I've been lucky and haven't been too nauseous or had many aversions. The extreme fatigue comes and goes but I'm mostly feeling good! However, my mental health has been trash. It's getting better, I started therapy two weeks ago which was good. The first appointment with my new therapist was mostly me crying. I've talked to my husband who has been wonderful and supportive. But goodness gracious, I did not expect this mental health slump to hit so hard!

Rants/Raves: I'm struggling with how people's perspective of me shifts so dramatically when they find out I'm pregnant. I also HATE being called Mama by other people and have to set some boundaries around that. 

Questions: NATM

GTKY: my husband and I are trying to make sure we get outside as much as possible to hike and kayak!

kendyb77

EDD / Weeks + Days: 10w

FTM/STM/TTM+: FTM

Baby is the size of a (an): Strawberry

Team blue/pink/green: Blue + Green (SneakPeek says at least 1 twin is a boy!)

Upcoming Appointments: July 1 US

How are you feeling?: Blah, I've had a cold this past week, and went camping/hiking this weekend and am just feeling exhausted. Food aversions are for real.

Rants/Raves: Deciding when to tell people is hard haha, our immediate families and core friends know, but currently no one else and it's hard! We're so excited, but want to be wise about when/how, especially as we're still considered high risk. @kamays54 - congrats on sharing your exciting news!

Questions: NATM

GTKY: I have really been trying to stay active and stretch every day. I've been enjoying going outside for a run or walk with an audiobook or a podcast.

boba07

EDD / Weeks + Days: 9w 3d

FTM/STM/TTM+: FTM

Baby is the size of a (an): Cherry

Team blue/pink/green: Green

Upcoming Appointments: none till July

How are you feeling?: Hungry, all the time. But also sad that after eating I never feel satisfied I try not to think about it too long or I start to gag at the thought of having ate something I didn’t like. 

Rants/Raves: Going into the office is such a struggle for me lately because I feel so tired and people eating at their desk is the worst. 😭 

Questions: NATM

GTKY: Since a few of us have mentioned how loooong this first trimester has been feeling, what is your favorite way to treat yourself or your favorite thing to do to decompress? 

Getting into bed and reading my kindle has been my afternoon routine lately. Helps me unwind before bed. 

jojosesame

EDD / Weeks + Days: Jan 7 / 12 weeks

FTM/STM/TTM+: FTM

Baby is the size of a (an): plum

Team blue/pink/green: blue

Upcoming Appointments: July 2nd - first trimester scan with MFM

How are you feeling?: I seem to finally be feeling better. It isn’t consistent so the nausea will suddenly creep up but I have more good hours in the day. I am exhausted and extremely limited in my activities, even the smallest errand makes me need to lay down. 

Rants/Raves: the exhaustion is well…exhausting. I know building a human is hard but cmon! I have really had to curtail my daily activities for a couple of months now and I am itchy to get back to a little bit more normalcy and energy even if just for a couple of months! 

Questions: none 

GTKY: great question, I get a regular facial which has really be lovely, something to look forward to. Basically, if I feel like something I do it. In the past I would have maybe been more hesitant to indulge in a nap or a purchase or making time for myself but since being pregnant, I have become incredibly protective of myself and my time. It’s really taught me a lot and I’ve given myself loads of permission to just do whatever feels right and good in the moment. It’s been totally indulgent and lovely. 

kmtz89

EDD / Weeks + Days: 12 w 5 days (jan 2)

FTM/STM/TTM+: STM

Baby is the size of a (an): ripe apricot

Team blue/pink/green: green 

Upcoming Appointments: 4th apt 19 July

How are you feeling?: Some days I have to remind myself I'm pregnant. Not that I don't have symptoms. But it has been so long since I was pregnant. Still having some major food aversions and hating everything food wise.

Rants/Raves: I'm waiting to tell my kids till after my next apt, and I know they will be so excited, but I'm also kind of nervous because it's going to change everything. 

GTKY: Since a few of us have mentioned how loooong this first trimester has been feeling, what is your favorite way to treat yourself or your favorite thing to do to decompress? I zone out on instagram reels for sure. The other day I took my youngest to an ice cream shop in town and that was a real treat. 

bass04

EDD / Weeks + Days: 12w2d

FTM/STM/TTM+: FTM

Baby is the size of a (an): plum

Team blue/pink/green: pink

Upcoming Appointments: none until mid July

How are you feeling?:  There was a day and a half there where I was feeling great but oh boy did the nausea come back full force last night.  

Rants/Raves: 

Questions: If this isn’t your first, when did you tell work last time?  Or when do you plan on telling work this time?  I started a new job recently and am not particularly close with anyone at work or my boss.  I feel like it’s early but I have been considering telling my boss only because I’m still feeling pretty rough some days and would love some grace to flex my schedule as needed if I’m having periods where I just feel awful. 

GTKY: Since a few of us have mentioned how loooong this first trimester has been feeling, what is your favorite way to treat yourself or your favorite thing to do to decompress? Online browsing at all the cute baby things.  

babywiik

EDD / Weeks + Days: 12weeks +6 /duedate jan1 (well technically jan 4th but norway sets the due-date at 40+3 so im still 40 weeks on the 1st)

FTM/STM/TTM+:ttm

Baby is the size of a (an): lemon

Team blue/pink/green: green so far

Upcoming Appointments: a hospital midwife will call me about an ultrasound and then i need to get labs at the same time. Apparently the midwife who did ultrasounds moved so now they have a travelling midwife come every 2 weeks.

How are you feeling?: im feeling alright. Stilk queasy in the morning but as long as i keep eating i do ok. So tired all the time and all of a sudden i have to pee all the time. I didnt have to until the very end with both my girls. I very much carried them on the outside but I wonder if this baby will right more inside and is already sitting on my bladder 🤷🏻‍♀️

Rants/Raves: got to hear baby’s heartbeat today! It was on the high side at 160bpm so wonder if i’ll have another girl 

Questions: natm

GTKY: Since a few of us have mentioned how loooong this first trimester has been feeling, what is your favorite way to treat yourself or your favorite thing to do to decompress?
Lately ive been scrolling instagram a lot but i never feel better or rested after. I like reading and being outside. Or napping😂

Mamazon2014

EDD / Weeks + Days: 01/22/25

FTM/STM/TTM+: STM

Baby is the size of a (an): strawberry 

Team blue/pink/green: pink (nipt test next Monday will hopefullyconfirm Sneak Peak results)

Upcoming Appointments:
quick appointment next week for NIPT, then just a regular check up at the end of July. 

How are you feeling?:

tired, nauseous, bloaty, but also really happy despite it all. We announced our pregnancy today and it’s nice to not have to hide it from everyone when I’m gagging from smells, turning down drinks with friends, or falling asleep while sitting up. 

Rants/Raves:
 rant: this morning sickness and fatigue stuff is getting me behind in my goals for accelerating through my college courses. I try to study and end up asleep with the laptop on my lap. 

Rave: I absolutely love my current OB/GYN group! I picked them based on hospital affiliation, reviews, and the fact that they’re all female practitioners; they’ve been awesome! They’re super proactive with my care and working with me to create a cohesive and stress free maternity and birth plan. 

Questions: 

GTKY: 

I love getting a frozen drink from Biggby and curling up with my kindle and reading some proper filth. I also love thrifting and have found some great maternity clothing items for myself and cute outfits for the baby for under $3. 

fk18

EDD / Weeks + Days: 1/20/25 (10w1d)

FTM/STM/TTM+: FTM

Baby is the size of a (an): strawberry 

Team blue/pink/green: green 

Upcoming Appointments: 6/28 (just a blood draw for NIPT)

How are you feeling?:  bleh. Today I was so stressed at work that I forgot to eat, which was a big mistake. And then I binged dinner and now I feel sick. Im really struggling to get 60+ ounces/day of water too lol. But I’m still very excited and grateful for our little nugget and the gift of pregnancy; it’s truly amazing. 

Rants/Raves: can I rave about this group? I’ve come to appreciate you all and your vulnerabilities and wisdoms. 

Questions: I posted about it in the general discussion board - I’m curious who all is getting carrier gene testing and how you made the decision to/not to. 

GTKY: Since a few of us have mentioned how loooong this first trimester has been feeling, what is your favorite way to treat yourself or your favorite thing to do to decompress?

Long phone talks with my big sis (mom of two) and take out/comedy special nights with my husband. 

ndthornburg

EDD / Weeks + Days: Jan 19th (10wk/3d)

FTM/STM/TTM+: FTM

Baby is the size of a (an): strawberry

Team blue/pink/green: Green for now. We do want to find out, but we’ve found the not knowing part pretty fun too. We eventually want both boys and girls so it doesn’t really matter which comes first

Upcoming Appointments: next Wednesday

How are you feeling?: fatigued, nauseous, constipated, bloated, and somewhat weepy. I wasn’t expecting first trimester symptoms to hit me this hard, but they definitely did

Rants: does anyone else feel like they are losing themselves to this pregnancy? I just don’t feel anywhere near like myself. Not at home, not at work, not with friends. My husband took me on a weekend get away to try to cheer me up and, while it was a good distraction, I was exhausted the entire time and barely did anything that I would normally do when traveling. I am really hoping the second trimester is as great as everyone says it is

Raves: my husband. He is the best. He has been so supportive and patient with me. He’s going to be such a great dad. I am really excited to go through this with him 

Questions: I guess I already asked my question in my rant…. Anyone else going crazy with not feeling like themselves?

GTKY: walking my dogs although I’m not doing that nearly as much as I used to with how exhausted I am once I get home from work. I really enjoy cooking. Stay in Netflix nights with husband

kamays54

@kendyb77 thanks!  It was kind of easy for me because most people knew we were trying and I had to use hormones to get pregnant both times so they were constantly asking.  The last people I told were my 3 best friends because they are out of state so I don't get to talk to them very often and my boss who was on vacation when I found out.  We are super close so that wasn't hard either.

@Mamazon2014 congratulations on your announcement.  Part of the reason we told my husbands sister and her family as early as we did was because we were going on vacation with them and I knew I wouldn't be able to hide the nausea.

@fk18 we got the carrier gene testing done with my first and we are going to again with this one.  We debated for a little bit with my first because we weren't sure if we wanted to know but we really wanted to know the sex early so we ultimately decided to do it.  The first time around was very stressful in the moment.  We got back an no result due to an atypical finding on one of the tests.  Our doctor referred us to an MFM to do amniocentesis.  At the time, she didn't seem to have any of the markers so we decided that the risk of doing the amniocentesis wasn't worth it.  She turned out perfectly healthy so we decided we are going to do it again.  I get the kit on Friday.

fk18

@kamays54, thanks for following up! Sounds like you did the NIPT testing, and I’m so glad baby came out perfect . I’m most curious if folks are electing to see if moms to be are testing to see if they are carriers of genes for cystic fibrosis or SMA. Did you do that also?

bcml

@ndthornburgYes me! The hormones are one thing. I feel like I am at the whim of my emotions which is really tough because I have always worked hard to be an emotionally resilient person (I used to work in trauma/mental health) I have also been really struggling with how people's perception of me s@ndthornburg diately shift when they find out I'm pregnant which has added to me not feeling like myself. Things that have helped me:
- boundary setting conversations with close friends
- journalling & therapy 
- continuing to do the things that bring me joy (even if it feels really hard to get the motivation to go)
- reminding myself that I am still me even though I am pregnant. 

I'm sorry you are feeling like this @ndthornburg I hope it gets better 

bcml

@fk18 my husband and I did pre-conception carrier screening. It was a hassle to get the right referral but it gave us a lot of good information about our own health/genes and gave us more confidence deciding to get pregnant. We found out that my husband is a carrier for a few minor conditions which was really helpful because he can do some minor adjustments (like wear compression socks on flights and get an annual blood test) to greatly decrease his risk. 

Not sure if that's helpful or not!

jojosesame

@ndthornburg I completely agree and sympathize with “not feeling myself.” I absolutely feel this way and at times it makes me feel very weepy and then guilty for not being more grateful! What a roller coaster! It’s been really hard to not feel myself going on 2.5 months and it is taking a bit of a toll. That said, I’m keeping positive and hoping that the 2nd trimester is all it’s cracked up to be! ❤️

kamays54

@fk18 yes, sorry we just did the NIPT testing.  It was never brought up and we were never offered any other testing.

strongishmom

EDD / Weeks + Days: Jan 15 / 11 weeks

FTM/STM/TTM+: FTM

Baby is the size of a (an): lime

Team blue/pink/green: green, but we submitted NIPT testing last week so hoping to find out soon!

Upcoming Appointments: July 13

How are you feeling?: exhausted, my back hurts, I’m either absolutely starving or stuffed (no in between), and I’m the past week my sense of smell has gone nuts. I’m just so grateful nausea hasn’t been much of a problem. So, decent, all things considered. 

Rants/Raves: none atm!

Questions: none

GTKY: this first trimester has felt so long!!! I’ve been playing volleyball in a local league once a week and honestly that has helped because it marks the time. It’s also pretty much the only active thing I’ve been doing so it makes me feel good about what I can still do for a couple of hours. I don’t think I’ll be able to do it for much longer though - my abs aren’t working like they should 😂

strongishmom

@fk18 I’m doing the chromosomal and genetic testing in a package with the NIPT, so we’ll be checking for those things. They don’t run in the family but we wanted to be sure anyway. 

ndthornburg

This bump community thing really is great for helping you not feel crazy!! Thank you, @bcml and @jojosesame . I’m probably taking this mental health drop as more of a shock because yeah I worked in the ICU for 4 years and have always had a level head. I also don’t know what I was expecting with this first pregnancy. I guess I thought I’d just carry on as my usual self, but with a bowling ball under my shirt and that pregnancy glow. Instead a tiny fetus (who I am so very thankful and excited for) is taking me for a ride! I am so hopeful for the second trimester and getting back to some normalcy. 

Again, thanks you guys ❤️