How and when to announce?

shannonae

Please feel free to add your plans when/how you will announce here! If you are bored, feel free to read about my predicament 😬

I had some ideas how we wanted to announce the news to our families, but after talking to my in-laws today, I don't know what to do anymore. I think it will have to be more casual than I thought it would be. I was hoping to announce over mother's day weekend, because that will be the first weekend of my 2nd trimester which is what I have been holding out for, as well as getting nipt results back, just for a peace of mind. It will also be an unsuspecting reason to get the whole family together. It is hard to work around that weekend because on Saturday we have 2 1st birthday parties (both on my side of the family) during the day. I was hoping in the evening we could get together with his side and have my daughter wear a "big sister" shirt to show everyone. It turns out his parents will be out of town with his sister's in-laws for a birthday party. Then they talked about getting everyone together the next day. This causes a couple of problems. I was hoping to see my family on mother's day to tell them. I did not want to tell my side the day before because I didn't want to take away from celebrating the birthday parties that day. On mother's day, they said they plan to get together at my BIL's house. He and his wife have been married for 1½ years and we all keep wondering if they will announce they are expecting soon. My husband and I feel this is a real possibility and there is just no way for us to know. If this is something they are planning, we definitely do not want to steal their thunder &special moment by announcing our 2nd and we dont even know if we will be able to go to the gathering anyways because my husband is on call for work and it is too far away from home. On top of all of this, I feel like I am showing a lot so I'm thinking a lot of people already have their suspicions and my in-laws just told us today they are taking a trip to Italy &they will be leaving the day after my due date unbeknownst to them 😱🤦🏼‍♀️ I'm thinking of pushing back another week to tell his side, but I worry that will seem suspicious and don't even know if everyone's schedule will line up. I think we won't be able to tell everyone at once and just tell each couple in our family. All this to say, these are just first world problems and I just needed to type this out in hopes that I will come up with a new plan.

etnyah

We’re just going to tell people one by one I think. It’ll be a shock to everyone since we’ve been so vocal about not having more kids, I don’t really feel like doing a big announcement (which we’ve never really done anyway). My family lives far away so I can’t even tell them in person. I won’t see them until this summer for my sister’s wedding and 1. I definitely want them to know before then and 2. Stealing my sister’s spotlight would be a shitty move! 

So far I’ve told a few friends and MIL. My husband was away for a week so she stayed with me to help take care of the kids so I could work, I felt like I had to tell her since I’ve been running to the bathroom to vomit so much. 

I do kind of want to do something cute on social media though, maybe take a picture of the kids in “big brother/big sister” shirts? Nothing too original or out there, ha.