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Homebirth and angry OBs
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I just got off the phone with the OB office I left. The doctor I saw was very unpleasant and felt she could be that way as there are limited choices where I live. If there were options I'm sure she'd be forced to be more professional and have better bedside manner. The doctor wanted me to know that when (not if) things went south during my homebirth it would be the on call doctor that would be delivering my baby.
I said only 1 time out of all my births has the actual OB delivered my baby. Infact the last time I had a baby which was with your practice and hospital, an AM induction infact with doctor onsite, the hospital staff was not able to deliver my baby, my husband did because of the incompetence and inability to listen to me. Why medical professionals ignore mothers especially mothers who have given birth multiple times about what their body is telling them is beyond me.
I told her I was saving us thousands of dollars by allowing my husband to do it at home rather than surrounded by "professionals" who forced my husband to do it at the hospital as they weren't able to listen to me and did the complete opposite of what I asked for. Then had the audacity to charge me $4,000 for it.
The fear mongering for homebirths has got to stop. I know some women have near death deliveries, but most women if they have had good experiences will continue to. I'm glad we have choices, but why an OB office feels the need to shame and fear monger yet I've never heard a midwife do the same is just pathetic. They have never shamed people for choosing a hospital birth or for needing one.
With my 1st I wanted a homebirth and my doctor told me I would DIE if I did. It's very upsetting. Work together, you want the same outcome. Stop bringing one down as if you're raising yourself up.
I do know from speaking to my midwife that she is at max capacity at the moment. My town has a not so sought after OB office and therfore she has been given a lot of business from people running from the medical facility. .
She also asked who my OB was before I left. When I told her she smirked and I said oh please tell me the dirt. She was very professional, but she did say she and her do not see eye to eye and she is a very I want off the clock when I want kind of doc, if you catch my drift. Unnecessary interventions so doctors can be off by certain times absolutely disgusting me.
Has anyone else had the same experience with OBs when they decided they'd go with homebirth instead. I've received 5 missed calls all to tell me what to do when I need emergency assistance when the homebirth goes south. 5 calls. To tell me to go to the hospital and whomever is working will be delivering.... are you kidding me? Obviously that's what would happen if it went south. Doctors talking down to people as if they don't have an IQ is just infuriating.
I said only 1 time out of all my births has the actual OB delivered my baby. Infact the last time I had a baby which was with your practice and hospital, an AM induction infact with doctor onsite, the hospital staff was not able to deliver my baby, my husband did because of the incompetence and inability to listen to me. Why medical professionals ignore mothers especially mothers who have given birth multiple times about what their body is telling them is beyond me.
I told her I was saving us thousands of dollars by allowing my husband to do it at home rather than surrounded by "professionals" who forced my husband to do it at the hospital as they weren't able to listen to me and did the complete opposite of what I asked for. Then had the audacity to charge me $4,000 for it.
The fear mongering for homebirths has got to stop. I know some women have near death deliveries, but most women if they have had good experiences will continue to. I'm glad we have choices, but why an OB office feels the need to shame and fear monger yet I've never heard a midwife do the same is just pathetic. They have never shamed people for choosing a hospital birth or for needing one.
With my 1st I wanted a homebirth and my doctor told me I would DIE if I did. It's very upsetting. Work together, you want the same outcome. Stop bringing one down as if you're raising yourself up.
I do know from speaking to my midwife that she is at max capacity at the moment. My town has a not so sought after OB office and therfore she has been given a lot of business from people running from the medical facility. .
She also asked who my OB was before I left. When I told her she smirked and I said oh please tell me the dirt. She was very professional, but she did say she and her do not see eye to eye and she is a very I want off the clock when I want kind of doc, if you catch my drift. Unnecessary interventions so doctors can be off by certain times absolutely disgusting me.
Has anyone else had the same experience with OBs when they decided they'd go with homebirth instead. I've received 5 missed calls all to tell me what to do when I need emergency assistance when the homebirth goes south. 5 calls. To tell me to go to the hospital and whomever is working will be delivering.... are you kidding me? Obviously that's what would happen if it went south. Doctors talking down to people as if they don't have an IQ is just infuriating.
Re: Homebirth and angry OBs
In our small(ish) town in coastal BC, Canada, we have 6 or 8 midwives and only one OB! So our plan from the start has been to have a home birth. I'm 39 and this is my first time pregnant (currently 16 weeks), so I'm quite new at this, but hoping all is well with me and the baby and that we don't have to go into the very inexperienced hospital for the birth. I feel like women have been birthing for (literally) ever, so we should be okay to do it at home.