What helps you keep the secret?

kba506

I recently found out that I’m pregnant with baby #1, due date November 24. My husband and I are excited, happy, scared and nervous! We’re planning out when to tell our family and we’re thinking Mothers Day (I’ll be 12 weeks). We’re pretty set on waiting that long just to make sure everything with baby is steady and healthy. My family and I are so close and it feels like an eternity to wait before I tell them. What helps you keep the secret before you tell parents??

lizzzy217

I'm 11wks and I still haven't told anyone. It hasn't been hard for me to keep it a secret, I think it's just a me thing though. Even before I was pregnant I was always determined to wait until at least 2nd trimester, just so chance of miscarriage is much lower, and that way we'll also have some results from the early screenings so we'll at least feel like everything's going well and healthy.

I know some like to tell people they're closest to, so if something does go wrong they have their support. But for me I don't need support from anyone other than my husband. Maybe that's something for you to consider though.

knottie6ec9c874e5207bb3

I'm barely at 5 weeks and it's been difficult for me to keep it a secret from my and my husband's families. I did tell my mom shortly after i found out and that gave me someone to talk to who has been thought this before.

mitchip

My symptoms gave me away at work. 
We live in a small town where talk travels fast so we told our parents before they started hearing the rumors. 
We're not confirming anything to anyone else tho until well into our second trimester. 

daniellendp04

That's my question: I don't know how to hide it from everyone when I'm sick all the time. Plus I'm starting to show already at 7 wks.. (having twins)

mitchip

I honestly don't think there is a way to hide it when you have a lot of symptoms. People are going to talk. 
I did have one coworker straight out ask me if I was pregnant and I was not in the mood so I snapped a little and asked why he would ask me that. I told him if I had news like that to share, I would share it when I was ready to share it. No one has said anything to me since. 

Sorry I'm not much help but I feel ya. 

knottie548176b6cb724e3f

congrats on the pregnancy! tbh, keeping it a secret was tough for me too, but I just focused on all the little things I could do to prepare and distract myself, like picking out baby names or planning the nursery. 

                                                                                      

Just looked it up on the 'Heal Baby Care App' and here's what it says:      

                                                                                      

"Congratulations on your pregnancy! It's completely normal to feel a mix of excitement and nervousness. To help keep the secret, you might focus on planning your announcement and thinking about how you'll share the news, which can be a fun distraction. Engaging in activities that keep your mind occupied, like preparing for the baby or spending quality time with your husband, can also help. 

How are you feeling physically and emotionally as you approach the 12-week mark?"