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Weekly Check In 1/22

HGRichHGRich member
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EDD / Weeks + Days:


FTM/STM/TTM+:


Baby is the size of a (an):


Team blue/pink/green: 


Upcoming Appointments: 


How are you feeling?: 


Rants/Raves: 


Questions: 

GTKY: what did you want, as a child, to be when you grew up, and how similar is it to what you do now? 

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Re: Weekly Check In 1/22

  • denise_amddenise_amd member
    @bserena Congratulations and good luck with nursing school! It's awesome that you're able to juggle that along with being pregnant
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  • virtaurvirtaur member
    edited January 22
    EDD / Weeks + Days: 5/2 26 weeks this week! 

    FTM/STM/TTM+: STM

    Baby is the size of a (an): kale

    Team blue/pink/green: pink💗

    Upcoming Appointments: my last appt got cancelled because of weather. I might just ask if I can move up my next appt sooner instead of rescheduling. They don’t do much at some of the appts anyway. 

    How are you feeling?: pretty good! Physically I get tired easily and the BH act up if I’m doing too much. But nothing really to complain about. Somehow avoiding the heartburn. Last time I was eating chipotle hot salsa 5x a week (I worked there lol) so I’d have to have my tums with me. This time not so much so I’m grateful for that. But might change as she gets bigger. Mentally I’m doing better as well.

    Rants/Raves: H took me up to Portland today to an oddities shop to use my GC I got for my birthday. Got a few new butterfly/moth displays and I’m stoked. Adding to my collection! 
    My MIL said that she won’t be doing a shower this time but will be making a diaper cake. So that will help for sure because she makes them huge and does a lot of diapers and little things that are needed. She threw my last shower and spent a lot of money on my son so I’m not bummed. No one on my side has offered anything but I’m not bummed about it.
    another rave is that H ordered the double stroller since it was on a little sale. Yay!
    Rant is that I still haven’t fixed our sleep schedule yet. It’s been hard for me to fall asleep early enough to wake up at a decent time. Gotta keep working on it.

    Questions: who’s having a shower/sprinkle? 

    GTKY: what did you want, as a child, to be when you grew up, and how similar is it to what you do now? I wanted to be a lot of things. Doctor, teacher, marine biologist, paleontologist, chef on tv, mom. Only thing I’ve accomplished so far is mom 🤣 I went to school for biology but never had a career in it. 
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  • HGRichHGRich member
    @bserena I have always preferred NPs I have worked with than MDs. Every time. My pcp for a few years was an NP and she was just fantastic. I’m so sad she moved. Good luck with nursing school while pregnant! That takes guts. 
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  • HGRichHGRich member
    @virtaur I had a small sprinkle with my second baby, and was given a ton of hand me down baby clothes. It was great. Unlikely to have anything this time but MIL has promised a diaper stash. And I had some friends ask what my biggest need would be and I said honestly a cleaner to come by my house in like June and get my house back in order. lol. I don’t know if they’ll be able to do that though. 
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  • virtaurvirtaur member
    Ugh, I’ve been cleaning for the past almost 2 hours and the BH cramping has started. My uterus does not like physical activity when approaching 3rd tri lol I am soooo thankful I’m not working in the restaurant anymore. With my son it was Covid in downtown so we were so dead I could sit in the office whenever I needed to rest. So I’m glad I’m home now because as a manager I wouldn’t get much downtime. But I am annoyed that I had a sudden burst of motivation to clean everything and had to stop to sit. 

    @louloumama that’s awesome about the clothes! & my son has my H’s last name and I do too. Would your partner be interested in compromising? Like hyphenating or using one as a middle? There’s absolutely nothing wrong with the baby having your last name though! 

    @HGRich hope you feel better soon! & that’s a great career goal to have! I want to go back to school as well at some point. & that’s a good idea about having a cleaner come by!!
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  • virtaurvirtaur member
    @lilclimberincoming the changes were definitely something to get used to when I was a FTM. My boobs grew so fast that I had horrible dark stretch marks that thankfully faded eventually. I don’t really have sex much but I do feel awkward once I have a bump lol totally normal.
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  • stress_enginestress_engine member
    @louloumama, I took both last names when I got married with a space instead of a hyphen. It's not the norm, so it causes a little inconvenience sometimes, but it's how I wanted it and I think it's special. My husband did not change his last name and did not pressure me to change mine at all. I've always agreed that our children should have his last name. He's been open to using both, but I don't think I want to put the burden of two last names on my children. Using the father's last name is kind of a sexist tradition, but mom and baby are always and forever physically and legally connected by pregnancy/birth. The dad's "claim" or connection to parentage is traditionally recognized by society through the last name.

    That being said, if we weren't married I would do whatever I want! 😂 But assuming both parties are working together to raise this child, and especially if you are in a committed relationship with mutual care and respect, it would probably be best to hear each other out and come to a compromise. 

    I've actually been playing with the idea of using two middle names for our child, with the second middle name being my maiden last name. I kind of go back and forth because it does add to complication, just moves the confusion from the last name to the middle name. There are lots of other cultures and countries that use multiple middle names and/or last names and I think it's a shame that the US is so difficult when it comes to recognizing anything deviating from the traditional norm.
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  • denise_amddenise_amd member
    @stress_engine oh that's me! I have two middle names 👋, the second middle name being my mom's maiden name. It's a cultural thing for my family, but I personally disliked it - I was never sure what my legal name was, which made filling out official forms stressful lol! Especially when the form asks for one middle initial only. My passport, marriage cert, and SS card all technically have different names on them. 🤦

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  • HGRichHGRich member
    @lilclimberincoming I think for me I’ve not had much trouble with sex being a problem mentally, as far as how I look. But my body has been through a lot of drastic changes in the last 8 years and I’ve fully embraced them all. But the physical discomfort I’ve had this time around has led to some mental frustration with it. I’ve always found it helpful to remind myself that sex got my body into this shape and it’s a literal physical symbol of its result, and that that can be celebrated between a couple. Even as you have to good naturedly fumble with changing positions around from here until two months postpartum. 
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  • HGRichHGRich member
    edited January 24
    @louloumama I love the idea of using your name, if it flows better and you’re not married. I would want to do that, actually. I like my maiden last name better. Ha. 
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  • kamikazezoomykamikazezoomy member
    EDD / Weeks + Days: May 11, 24 weeks

    FTM/STM/TTM+: First timer!

    Baby is the size of a (an): Potato head (lol)

    Team blue/pink/green: Pink

    Upcoming Appointments: Next week glucose screen and followup ultrasound for missing measurements

    How are you feeling?: Physically pretty good. Mentally comes and goes. We've gotten some sad news about some family and friends over the last week that has been hard to wrap my head around, and even when I don't dwell on it I find myself with other depressing thoughts now and then.

    Rants/Raves: I've done some really good cleaning around the house the last couple weeks and am beyond thrilled with the results. I'm excited to have less clutter, even though I know that baby will bring plenty of clutter of her own in just a few months >.<  At least I have room for it now!

    Questions: nah

    GTKY: what did you want, as a child, to be when you grew up, and how similar is it to what you do now? The first thing I remember saying I wanted to be was a veterinarian, but I abandoned that pretty quickly when someone pointed out I would have to cut open animals for surgery and I decided that didn't sound like fun (Looking back, maybe that wasn't the best thing for someone to point out to a five-year-old?) That's pretty far removed from intermittently writing a blog, which is what I fill my time with now.
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  • kamikazezoomykamikazezoomy member
    @louloumama Have you discussed the baby's last name with your partner? I think since you're not married, you can do whatever you like and it sounds like you have some logical arguments there, although your partner may still feel hurt to have their name left off. I will say that when I married I hyphenated my name which has had both pros and cons. It's more distinctive (my husband's last name is just Brown) which I figured would help avoid confusion at places like the bank and medical offices where there might be other Holly Browns, but the hyphen itself has caused some trouble because some automated systems don't allow non-alphabetical characters while others require precision.


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  • denise_amddenise_amd member
    EDD / Weeks + Days: 23 weeks!

    FTM/STM/TTM+: first time mom

    Baby is the size of a (an): grapefruit 

    Team blue/pink/green: 🩷 pink

    Upcoming Appointments: 2/7 for a checkup

    How are you feeling?: I think I'm starting to feel Braxton Hicks? My uterus feels tight and heavy sometimes. I've been working with a trainer the past month who sends me pregnancy safe workouts, and overall I feel stronger and more comfortable now (I had more back and bellyaches in first trimester). Mentally, focusing on work is still a challenge, but I'm doing my best to stay on top of my stuff.

    Rave: Now that my bump is out and about, people are so nice at checkout lines!

    Rant: It's been raining the past few days and my puppy is going stir crazy because of it (she doesn't run around outside as much in the rain).

    Questions: 

    GTKY: what did you want, as a child, to be when you grew up, and how similar is it to what you do now? 

    I wanted to be a doctor just like my dad, and then I found out I faint at the sight of blood. Then I wanted to be a scuba diver, except I can't swim and deep water scares me on an existential level. I told my teacher in 5th grade I was going to be an author, and they told me they'll look for my name on the bookshelves. I'm an artist now and I'd like to make a graphic novel, so I'm pretty close to fulfilling that haha.
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  • virtaurvirtaur member
    @denise_amd sounds like BH to me! & that’s awesome how close you are to that dream!
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