Miscariages, 6.5 weeks appointment

knottie3432b5b0af3a5e37

Hi!
I have a history of few losses (10 weeks, 5 weeks, chemical pregnancy). I am currently pregnant, 5 weeks. I have a scheduled appointment at 6.5 weeks. I am quite anxious about this pregnancy, every time I go pee I expect to see blood on the toilet paper. I am worried that if I don't miscarry until the appointment, I will receive bad news that day. Of course, I told my husband that I am pregnant, but I can tell that both of us are anxious and try to not be excited, too emotionally involved, just in case the things won't go well. The question is: would you take your husband to the appointment? I mean, I am sure he would be so happy if everything would seem well, hearing the heartbeat etc. But I am worried, that the doctor visit and good news would give him that excitement and if something will go wrong down the road, it would be so much harder for him to take on the loss again. What do you think? Should I get him involved in the first trimester visits or not? Thank you so much for you insight!

harpseal135

You won't hear the heart beat at 6 weeks.  If your doctor office does ultrasounds in office, you MIGHT get a transvaginal where you can see the heart flicker.  My husband saved all his time for after the baby was born and the 20 week anatomy scan.  Each to their own. No right or wrong answer. 

knottie0f0a3fa6ea0fe637

I’m sorry you’re going through that. Hopefully everything comes out okay. Personally, I never took my husband to the super-early appointments. I also have a history of 3 losses and one blighted ovum, but I have APS so I knew it was going to be rocky for me. It’s completely up to you if you want him there with you, but I preferred to go by myself in the earlier stages.

knottie882e61e8bbce4273

I had one miscarriage, am currently 10 weeks, and check for blood every time I use the restroom. I can relate. A friend of mine checked like that and never had fertility issues. So, it is also part of mom anxiety. I think the two of you need to go through each step together so include him.