Weekly Check In 1/8

HGRich

EDD / Weeks + Days:

FTM/STM/TTM+:

Baby is the size of a (an):

Team blue/pink/green: 

Upcoming Appointments: 

How are you feeling?: 

Rants/Raves: 

Questions: 

GTKY: What’s your latest read/ tv show/ podcast you’d recommend? 

virtaur

EDD / Weeks + Days: 5/2 24 weeks this week!

FTM/STM/TTM+: STM

Baby is the size of a (an): cantaloupe!

Team blue/pink/green: pink💗

Upcoming Appointments: 1/17

How are you feeling?: physically pretty good. I find that too much dairy tends to upset my stomach (happened last time too) which is a bummer for my iced lattes lol

Rants/Raves: I organized my son’s toys in his room. He had so many downstairs it was getting crazy so I took everything up and found homes for them. He of course pulls everything out all the time but at least they’re in one space now. 

A rant is that although I’m grateful the in laws are letting us stay here, they have been getting on my nerves lately. Saying hurtful things or trying to lecture me on parenting. I feel like a child still. This is probably why I struggle so much with feeling my age. 

Questions: nah

GTKY: What’s your latest read/ tv show/ podcast you’d recommend? I don’t read and I watch random shows lol so nothing really 😂

HGRich

21+4 EDD 5/9

TTM

Baby is the size of a coconut. 

Team blue: 

Upcoming appointments: 1/10. Last one before my second glucose. 

Feeling: not bad. Reflux still awful. Emotionally kind of a mess. Crying about every little thing. 

Rant: how on earth am I going to name this child? 😩
Rave: I have a fun idea for a pregnancy announcement. I’m also afraid it’ll be cheesy as hell. Lmao. 

GTKY: ok I watch like zero tv but I read 100 books last year and some of my faves were:
Divine Rivals by Rebecca Ross
Ring Shout by P. Djeli Clark
Unfortunately Yours by Tessa Bailey 
One Dark Window by Rachel Gillig
How Long Til Black Future Month? By N. K. Jemisen. 

House of Roots and Ruin by Erin A. Craig 

Currently reading the sequel to Divine Rivals and stoooked.

HGRich

@virtaur time for oat milk lattes? 

Sounds like your in laws are a bit toxic. Maybe enabling your H to not step up and be an equal partner with your LO? Time for some extremely firm boundaries and a plan to move out soon! 

virtaur

@HGRich I tried oat milk and I didn’t really like it but maybe I will again! 

& they definitely are. But it’s hard because they do a lot for us and they don’t have to. So it puts me in a hard place of having to deal with it because I don’t have a choice right now. And they want my son parented a certain way (punishment based etc) because we’re in their house so they expect their rules to be followed. And that clashes with my parenting which is more on the gentle side. But we won’t be able to move out for a while, our financial situation is pretty bad right now  
I do not like the passive aggressiveness of how they make comments. Since I stay home I’m pretty much expected to do most of the housework which means all of the dishes even if they’re not mine. The problem is I do things on my own time when I have the energy yet my MIL doesn’t quite understand that so it frustrates her bc her kids don’t have depression so they aren’t like that. No one gets the mental health issues I have so they think I’m being lazy when I could be having a bad depressive episode. This is the main reason I rushed H to move out last time. Which lead us into this worse situation because we couldn’t really afford COL + daycare after H’s hours got cut. It’s a mess and hard to deal with emotionally but I know one day it will get better. 

kamikazezoomy

EDD / Weeks + Days: May 11, 22 weeks

FTM/STM/TTM+: FTM

Baby is the size of a (an): Classic Game Boy (lol!)

Team blue/pink/green: Pink

Upcoming Appointments: February 1 glucose screening and followup ultrasound to get the rest of the measurements she was hiding last time

How are you feeling?: Physically pretty well. A little general anxiety, but that's normal for me, and it comes and goes. 

Rants/Raves: rant: My insurance is supposed to cover, at least in part or in whole, a breast pump but they make it SO HARD to get any information. Nothing on the website, live chatting had a wait list of 200 people in line before me, and eventually I got an email response with a list of like 5 medical suppliers that they work with and the instruction to call those companies to ask and place an order. Hello, I'm not in the medical industry, I've never heard of these companies, and who orders anything other than pizza over the phone anymore? Is this 1972? I'm just going to try to order through Babylist and hope that works the right way.

Raves: The dresser and changing table attachment we ordered for the baby arrived late last week and we go it assembled and put in place and it makes me so happy to see it! Also, it's a relief to have a place to store some of the baby things that are finally beginning to accumulate

And, baby has been moving much more lately, which is so much fun to feel.

Questions: Does anyone have a maternity pillow? Is there a secret maneuver I should know about getting out of bed, because I love mine, but I feel like I'm doing acrobatics every time I get up to pee 

GTKY: What’s your latest read/ tv show/ podcast you’d recommend? H and I have really enjoyed the Julia series I think on Max? I don't know how historically accurate most of it is, but it's got a great cast.

kamikazezoomy

I hope your situation with the in laws settles down I don't have much advice there, but I do know that different brands of oat milk vary wildly, and I hope you find one you like. I really like the Aldi brand, which is happily cheaper for a larger container than a lot of the other brands I've found in other store.

HGRich

@virtaur I’m sorry it doesn’t look like you can move anytime soon. But it’s absolutely insane that they think your son can be parented how they like. Insane. Please don’t let them tell you how to raise YOUR child. 

And yeah, I like oat milk of all the alternatives but of course there’s almond, pea, soy, etc. Maybe lactose free milk? 

HGRich

@kamikazezoomy ugh I anticipate similar problems with my insurance. I need to look into that. I have used my pregnancy pillow for all three pregnancies. I have had to use it this time since about 14 weeks just to keep me on my sides or I’ll wake up on my belly or back. Ha. But it’s like a half one rather than a full body so I don’t have too much trouble getting up. I just make sure to face the open side of it toward the edge of the bed/the bathroom. If you have a full body pillow I can’t advise you. 🤣

virtaur

@kamikazezoomy thank you! I hope so too. They’re not always bad but some days I’m like I cannot wait to get outta here haha 
I wish I had Aldi by me!! I’ll have to look around. It seems like regular milk is fine but I like to make my coffee with half n half so it’s a bit creamier! 

& for breast pumps I used aeroflow last time & it was super easy!

virtaur

@HGRich thank you!! I definitely have to tell H to say something if they keep trying. But he agrees that I’m not as strict with our son as he wants me to be. But he’s 3…there’s only so much he’s going to be able to control at this age so I’m always trying to figure out what works the best. 

pennyandzooey

Hi, guys! I haven’t been in here for a couple of months as my life got crazy, but things have finally settled down. 

EDD / Weeks + Days: May 4, 23w3d

FTM/STM/TTM+: stm

Baby is the size of a (an): grapefruit

Team blue/pink/green: having a boy

Upcoming Appointments: seeing MFM on Friday

How are you feeling?: feel very normal

Rants/Raves: I recently told coworkers that I’m pregnant because I was tired of only wearing oversized sweaters. Now all they ever talk to me about is the pregnancy which I find kind of annoying haha. 

Questions: 

GTKY: What’s your latest read/ tv show/ podcast you’d recommend? I finished The Wager over Christmas, and that was pretty engaging. Also am loving the latest season of Fargo.