January Randoms

hedgepig

Happy New Year! Did you celebrate? 🥳🎊🎉🎆

alexxajams

happy new years 🎉♥️ nope lol
we watched the abc channel for the ball drop and had sparkling cider

also need help deciding the spelling for a potential middle name —> Alexi or Alexei 
Both would be pronounced with a Spanish accent lol 

ceclarlinetlo

I prefer the spelling Alexei 

ceclarlinetlo

We are taking our cat (not the one in my picture) in to the vet this afternoon to discuss quantity vs quality of life. I think I already know the answer and we probably should have done this a few weeks ago, but it’s just so hard to make that decision. 

hedgepig

@ceclarlinetlo Hugs friend - that's such a hard decision 💓 I hope the vet is helpful and reassuring.

night_nurse

@ceclarlinetlo sorry you guys are facing that decision. Endings are so hard. Thinking of you

night_nurse

I celebrated by being kept up by seemingly thousands of fireworks going off all night and then worked a 12hr shift. But at least I got paid time and a half right? 😴

night_nurse

But really id love to start some New Years traditions with my kids as we have never done anything to celebrate. Anyone have anything unique they do?

halfanewt

@ceclarlinetlo hugs. Thinking of you today. Such a tough call. 

@night_nurse we do raclette and kid bubbly for dinner on NYE. It’s fun and they can build their own. Make and decorate a Yule log cake on New Year’s Day. We also do a family run/bike/something active to start the day on the 1st. 

alexxajams

@ceclarlinetlo definitely one of the hardest things to do.. keeping you in mind 💓💓

kmw611

@alexxajams I think I like Alexei 

@ceclarlinetlo I’m sorry❤️ definitely the hardest part of pet ownership. 

@night_nurse we don’t have any established traditions yet but I’d love to start something now that the kids are showing interest in the new year holiday. Growing up my family all got together (aunts/uncles/cousins) at my house to celebrate and await the ball dropping. My husbands immediate family did board games all night so maybe a blend of the two next year. 

I’m feeling very restless and dissatisfied with  the state of my house lately. (Nesting?) I think I’m going to go room by room and do a purge before baby girl gets here. We’ll see how far I actually make it once that starts😂

SpartanCat

@ceclarlinetlo I'm so sorry, that's a hard decision

I made it to midnight barely lol we haven't really established any traditions. We like to play games and my husband watches football that's about it

SpartanCat

29 days!!!!!

cioccolata16

@ceclarlinetlo sorry to hear about kitty. That decision is so difficult. Went through something similar a bit over a year ago (though for an unexpected illness in our young cat), and it took a while for me to get over the grief.

night_nurse

@halfanewt love all of those! And had to google raclette- had no idea that’s what it was called.

@kmw611 love family and board games. I remember playing board games with my cousins during Y2K. Im also feeling super purgy and ready to get rod of everything. Nothing is safe

ceclarlinetlo

Anyone need a good laugh? Because if I don’t laugh I’ll cry. I picked my oldest son’s birthday cake up from Publix bakery today (if you aren’t familiar with Publix it’s a grocery store chain and everyone RAVES about their bakery). This is literally a Pinterest fail. Top is what I ordered and bottom is what I got. 

SpartanCat

@ceclarlinetlo yikes that is... Not the same 😬

hedgepig

@ceclarlinetlo That is awful! (For clarification - you blacked out the name on your cake, right? At first I thought that the cake decorator scribbled out something and I was aghast)

ceclarlinetlo

@hedgepig hahaha yeah I did do the scribble over his name 

alexxajams

@ceclarlinetlo Omg……. I cannot believe Publix did you dirty like that 💀💀💀😂 
the location we used for our daughter was great. I’m so sorry that happened

kmw611

@ceclarlinetlo wow that’s not even close. I also had to look a couple times before I realized the scribble was you not Publix😂

night_nurse

@ceclarlinetlo no not publix!! Did you say something. They are very customer friendly and will hopefully at least refund you if there is not time to make another

alexxajams

Just came to say that I really wanted the new year to be stress free and not on some bs. My ob has disappointed me and kind of made me mad.. and now I can’t even transfer drs within the practice and to even think about switching Obs is a huge pain. I have to literally become an Ob expert and do research myself before this baby comes. 

farm_mama

@alexxajams That sounds super stressful. Is there something in particular some of us might be able to offer some perspective on?

dinomeetsjedi

@ceclarlinetlo I hope the cake was at least delicious to make up for its appearance. It did give me a good laugh though!

@alexxajams It's scary to not feel like you can trust your ob. I agree with @farm_mama, it seems like we have a group with a lot of diverse birth experiences, maybe the group can help give you some perspective in a few areas so its not so overwhelming to research everything.

dinomeetsjedi

90 days from today is April 7, we will all most likely have our babies here in 90 days or less!

alexxajams

@farm_mama
@dinomeetsjedi  She really asked me when I was due again. I get that there might be a shortage of drs in Texas, but she was like you’re my only patient today so I would expect that you read a chart before coming in to see me. Then I asked her what my chances of early labor are since this is my second and because of my uterus specifically.. she said why would you have early labor and I just looked at her dumbfounded. I feel like if a patient tells you their history, you should probably do some homework about it. I asked her some other questions, but she was so nonchalant about it. I called the office later that day to see if I could even switch within the practice, but they don’t allow it after 26-27 weeks and I missed it by one🤦🏽‍♀️

dinomeetsjedi

@alexxajams oh no! That would also make me feel like I can't trust my doctor if they can't bother to look up basic information before the appointment. And that's hard you can't ask for a lot of advice since it is very specific to you and your medical history. Is it possible for you to switch to an entirely new practice?

alexxajams

@dinomeetsjedi i have Medicaid so it would be a whole process to even switch and then wait for it to be active then find another dr to take me at like 34 weeks by the time the new one is active 

night_nurse

@alexxajams im sorry your experience is causing you to distrust your doctor. It shouldn’t be that way. The insurance constraints you have must make it more frustrating. I wonder if you really pushed it if they’d bend the rule. Surely that’s a rule they made up and not one that affects reimbursement or anything that matters.

FWIW, I have little trust in the traditional medical system as it is from both personal experience and from working within it the last 9 years, so I took it upon myself to learn everything I could prior to my last delivery. I also have a HMO insurance and saw a different provider literally every time. I said little at the appointments, asked few questions of the doctors, and generally just let them tell me if things looked good or if there was something to work on. Educating myself and learning what my protected rights are as a birthing woman was the best thing I could have ever done. It allowed me to feel confident and capable in making decisions for both me and my baby. And gave me further confidence to advocate for myself against policy and rules that didn’t make sense for me.

Good luck on your journey, best case scenario would to be with a provider that you truly feel cared for with, but if it’s not possible, there are ways to replace that sense of security through personal education. 

alexxajams

 night_nurse that’s literally what I’m doing. I don’t want to try and jump ship then be completely without a dr. So I’m just educating myself the best I can ♥️ it’s crazy, because if I was still FL this literally would not be an issue. 

ceclarlinetlo

@alexxajams have you tried to ask your doctor why she never seems to read your chart? 

alexxajams

@ceclarlinetlo honestly no, and it didn’t occur to me.. you would think I’d be more vocal about something like that, but for some reason I’m not. Not sure if it’s a “I don’t want to question how you do your job” type of situation or I don’t want to come across as difficult even though, rightfully I should. I have an appt this week and a series of questions that I will be asking again. 

ceclarlinetlo

@alexxajams I think a lot of us would struggle with those same hesitations. It’s awkward for sure. 

farm_mama

@alexxajams I tend to be more outspoken than some in general, but I would absolutely voice yp7r concerns. This is your body and your baby! It's okay to express that you aren't happy or comfortable with the care you are getting. I would be surprised if they take a hard line about not switching providers if it's not a good fit. What is there policy about different docs delivering depending on when you go into labor?

alexxajams

@farm_mama I haven’t read up on policies yet, but from what I gathered, I can’t switch in the office at all. I think that only changes if my dr isn’t on call when I happen to go into labor. And if i leave to an entirely different provider, I have to receive permission to leave.. which absolutely blows my mind. I can understand it for legal reasons maybe, but still. 

halfanewt

People at work keep asking if this baby was planned. Apparently when you decide to have more than 2 that’s what people wonder? 

A - what a personal question! B - I mean, what? 

cmill828

@halfanewt ew, what an inappropriate thing to ask! I would have some type of smart alec comment to make in response like "no, I think I was abducted, probed and impregnated by the aliens. Don't tell my husband."

dinomeetsjedi

@halfanewt I had one person ask me that too and this is only my second and they will be 2 years apart, so maybe because they are closer together? But I felt the same as you, why do you want to know about my sex life? So strange.

alexxajams

 halfanewt Ew… that’s so rude. I’m petty. I’d be like were you planned ? Did I ask your opinion? 

night_nurse

@halfanewt ewwwwww why are people like this. I had an elderly patient tell me “oh honey, we’ve got to get you out of the house!” After i told him it was our 3rd 🫢