Prefers one parent

iamgran8

First time post, but I’m wondering if other moms are dealing with something similar and if not if there is advice.
I birthed our two year old and when she is just with me she is pretty independent and loves to explore and observe and be silly. When she is around my wife, she becomes a bit more whiny and just wants to be held. When we are together, she wants nothing to do with me and has actually gotten to the point where she hits me and pushes me away, and if my wife walks away she screams, but she won’t cry when she gets hurt.
My wife and I parent different and don’t connect anymore and I’m starting to feel like my daughter is picking that relationship up and being the way she is. It’s really upsetting and I feel like I’m missing out on connecting with my daughter and I don’t know what to do!