@maggiemadeit yup HR changes quite a bit! I haven't monitored mine really this pregnancy but my last pre pregnancy my norm was 50-52 and it was low to mid 80s by 2nd trimester. Not sure if flutters are normal but I had them last pregnancy on occasion and this pregnancy a couple times so far.
@farmfamily21@kbtt2022 Thanks for sharing your experiences. In my previous pregnancies I only wore a watch with a HR monitor while I was running so I didn’t have a good sense of my resting HR. I’ll still mention it to the doc on Thursday, but I appreciate hearing that it’s probably in the normal range. Pregnancy is such a trip!
Who else has gotten their energy back? I feel so much better! Sunday I went on a challenging hike, then rock climbed outside on Monday. Tuesday I did another steep hike then went to the climbing gym. I can think better at work. 2nd tri is shaping up to be much better than the first.
We just found out the gender yesterday, it’s a boy. I so badly wanted a girl. I think because I have a great relationship with my mom and an umm complex relationship with my dad. Anyone else experience gender disappointment?
@bumpinspain just sending you some love on this - I haven't dealt with it myself but just wanted to say it's totally normal and let yourself feel and process the disappointment! (and congrats on your boy despite the disappointment - several of my good friends are boy moms and LOVE it)
we dont know for this pregnancy yet. Although, I’m already finding myself fearing it will be another girl. We have two daughters we adore and honestly I would be happy with another. Our family members however (aunts and grandparents) “jokingly” refer to our lack of sons and it’s hurtful. I would love to experience having a son, but truly am so thankful I’ll get to have another baby. I don’t know how I will feel when we find out but yes, it’s totally normal to feel disappointed or recognize your expectations are changing. We decided we won’t tell anyone this time, either way, until the birth.
For those of you who are having/have had boys how did you decide if to circumcise or not? We don’t have any religious preferences and there are just so many opinions out there. Is this something you talked to your doctor about?
@sbaby2023 We chose not to circumcise our son. We didn’t have any religious beliefs informing the decision, but my husband isn’t and we didn’t feel it was necessary. Basically we didn’t have a strong argument for doing it or not doing it, and our pediatrician felt it was a personal choice not a medical one, so we didn’t do it.
@sbaby2023 my husband was not circumcised as a baby and had to get it done at age 23 because of complications so he was adamant that our son get it done while he was a baby so he didn’t have to go through what he did
@bumpinspain I agree with @curlyandpreggo although I personally haven’t had the gender disappointment I agree I feel like it’s more common than we like to talk about and it’s important to talk about these moments that aren’t seemingly perfect, and just because you didn’t get what you wanted doesn’t mean you won’t love him all the same and might be in for a beautiful surprise, I think life has a way of healing these “complex” parts of our life with unexpected blessings, hang in there mama 🤍
I’m from the us, where circumcision is the norm. However I live in Spain but we plan to return to the us next year. I haven’t had the discussion with my husband yet (who is not circumcised- he is not American) that I’d like to get the baby circumcised. I remember in high school and college people making fun of uncircumcised men (wrongfully I know) and I don’t want to set my baby up for that. I just don’t know where to get it done here, the hospital doesn’t do it as it’s not common here.
@maggiemadeit I feel the same way, I really have no reason to do it or not do it.
@bumpinspain My husband had the same thought. He had it done and wanted to get it done because it is the norm and didn’t want our child to be made fun of. But when I started looking it up, it seems that it’s becoming less common in the US. In the state I live in, North Carolina, it says it’s 50/50. So now I am at a loss again on the decision.
@littlemarshmallow That is interesting. I didn’t realize that there were reasons it would have to be done as an adult. Maybe I will bring it up to my Dr at our next appointment and see what they recommend, if anything.
@sbaby2023 I started researching it when I was pregnant with my oldest, got overwhelmed, and left the decision up to my husband, who wanted to circumcise. I figured he had more experience with male parts than me, so he could make a more informed decision.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
@sbaby2023 No sons here, but a friend once told me when she was deciding for her son she was given the advice that sons should match their fathers (I suppose unless there are specific reasons for wanting to go a different way). If nothing else, that could be a tie breaker reason!
@sbaby2023 I live in North Carolina as well, that's awesome!
Also, I used to work in the medical field and also in a day care and I always heard that being circumcised helped with cleanliness/ making it easier to clean and keep clean down there. So we are choosing to circumcise, but I also get why someone might choose not to as well.
@sbaby2023 we are planning to move to Virginia where it’s over 70%. But I’m from Boston and my husband is from Ireland so who knows where baby will end up as an adult
I fear I have what might be a silly question, but the logistics are confusing to me. I need to purchase a new car with enough room for the 5 of us. My kids will be 8 and 5 when baby comes, both in booster seats. I know I need a third row of seats, but I am trying to figure out the logistics. A lot of the SUV models I see have two independent seats as the middle row and a bench in the back. Do you put the baby in the middle row and big kids in the back? Or the opposite? How do the kids in the back get out? Anyone have a recommendation on an SUV that seats 5+?
@maggiemadeit I don't have experience with this yet, but have been doing a lot of research on it as we are also thinking about getting a three row SUV (so our 65 lb dog can go places with us and two kids). Baby should go in the middle row, so other kids would go in the back (or one in middle and one in the back). In terms of kids getting out of the back - the seats would lean forward regardless of whether you have bench or captain, but not sure how easy it would be to teach them to do that (or if you had one booster in the middle how easy they would be to move forward). If you get captains chairs (the two independent seats) then they may be able to walk through the middle depending on how it's set up. Because we will have two full on car seats, it's important for us to have a walk through captains chairs (aka they can't have a center console in the middle row), which is just something you'll have to look for. I hope this is helpful!
@maggiemadeit, Following along since this is a logistics issue for us with two 80+lb dogs and now having to safely fit a carseat in as well. I'm not putting pressure on getting a new vehicle before baby arrives, but eventually we will come up against the problem more. For now, I think there will be the "baby" car and the "dog" car and we'll figure it out as we go!
@maggiemadeit we are a fam of 5 and when I was pregnant w #3 we got a suburban. We have a ton of space for strollers in the trunk and we have the captains chairs in the middle row. It looks like this: our 8 year old sits in the third row on his own, our 6 year old sits in one of the captain chairs, and our 3 year old in the other one. They are fully able to buckle themselves and get in and out for school drop off etc. When baby #4 comes in the summer our 8 and 6 will go in the back row and the 3 and newborn will be in car seats in the middle. It’s easy that way to buckle them in and out. For reference we have a 2020 suburban and we absolutely love it, it’s exactly what we needed. We also have an 80 lb german shepherd so when we go places she has plenty of room in the trunk. The Tahoe doesn’t have the space we would need in the trunk. Hope this helps!
@maggiemadeit I had a truck and with a 3rd on the way just had to get a new vehicle. We went with an expedition and I love it. I have 2 18 month old now so all will be in car seats. Not sure who goes in back yet 🤔. However there is space to go around the 2 captain middle seats. Also room for our 70 lb lab who goes everywhere we go.
Thanks for all the help and suggestions! Car shopping is the worst and this gives me a lot to think about to hopefully narrow it down before I get to the purchasing part.
How many of you have had 3D ultrasounds? We haven't asked our OB about it yet but our clinic has a sign in the ultrasound rooms that says "3D ultrasound is not guaranteed." Both our 12 week and anatomy scan were 2D. We have to go back in a couple weeks to finish the anatomy scan because baby wouldn't cooperate. But, we are considering going to a local private ultrasound place that does 3D/4D. We can get a 30 minute session with photos, video, and some added gifts for only $180. Those of you who have seen your baby in 3D, is it worth it?
@maggiemadeit We also needed to change our vehicle situation to fit all of us comfortably. We knew we didn't want a full size Suburban or Expedition yet. After checking out Ford Explorers, Nissan Pathfinders, and Ford Broncos (just for fun), we went with the Toyota Highlander. I hit a deer and totalled it last fall and we still bought the same model to replace it, because I've never liked a family vehicle more than this one. It seats 7 and has the captains chairs in the middle row. Right now both boys are in the middle row. After this baby gets here, I assume the 9 year old will sit in the front most days (school drop off/pick up) because my husband won't be with, but for family trips he'll sit in the 3rd row with the dog. I like that the 3rd row has two sections of seats so you can customize your storage vs seating. It's worked great for birthday parties and trips to the waterpark when we have extra kids in tow.
Hi guys— I posted this outside and thought I’d post here too… I’m freaking out. my hair is suddenly just shedding like crazy for about a month. I’m 20 weeks. I’ve never had this happen in any other pregnancy… I’m SO anxious about this it’s falling out like constantly and in decent clumps in the bath. Does anyone have any experience in this???
@jevd42 I lost lots at my hairline a couple months after DS2 was born. I hated how it looked when it was missing and wish I had known that it would come back. By his first bday it had grown back and was about 4 inches long. It was a weird transition when it was an inch long, because it stood straight up. Looking back, it was pretty funny when it looked a little like cat ears.
@jevd42 I would ask your provider to check your thyroid and iron levels. Both of these can cause hair loss and are common to get out of whack in pregnancy. I have thyroid issues when not pregnant so they monitor mine closely. I was also anemic in my last pregnancy. Even if the hair loss is “just” because of pregnancy hormones, the good news is it generally does grow back after a few months though I know hair loss isn’t fun no matter what.
lll82121 I haven't had a 3-D ultrasound either in this pregnancy and was going to ask about it at my next appointment. I've also thought about going to a private clinic to get videos and extra photos. I liked having the 3-D photos for my first pregnancy, but that was done in another state. Let me know what you decide! I'm still on the fence.
TTC History
Me: 38 DH: 52
Started trying June 2018
BFP Jan 2019 DD born October 2019
TTC July 2021 BFP, ended in MMC August 2021
TTC October 2021
BFP January 2022
MMC March 2022
Beginning May 2022 under the supervision of an RE - Benched while undergoing testing
I posted this somewhere else, but didn’t get any responses. Does anyone else have a resting heart rate that is over 100? Mine has been about 105 since I hit my 2nd trimester and it’s kinda freaking me out! My doctors don’t seem to be too worried, but I’ve read some scary things on the internet (against my better judgement) and now I’m worrying.
@Car1985 what is your normal not pregnant resting HR? The normal range is up to 100 bpm. Pregnancy typically increases the RHR by 10-20 bpm so if your normal is on the higher side of the range 105 would be reasonable
My normal RHR was high 70’s to mid 80’s before pregnancy. When my anxiety kicks in my heart rate can get even higher. I guess I was just hoping to connect with people who have a similar HR to ease my worry that I’ll have heart failure or something else catastrophic. First time mom here if you can’t tell 🥴
@Car1985 If you scroll back I asked something similar a while ago. Mine is normally really low but went up 20+ points. I was concerned because I was getting alarms on my watch that my Hr was going above 100 while I was not being active. I asked the OBGYN and he said it was normal. That 100 is the ceiling for non pregnant people, but not for pregnant women, and he gave me a long explanation about blood volume and estrogen sensors in your CV system. I would still check in with your doctor to make sure that it’s normal and okay for your body, but I don’t think you’re at risk of heart failure or anything like that. I hope that helps or at least eases your mind until you can ask your doctor.
Thank you!!! I did check in with them as well as my cardiologist today they both didn’t seem too concerned. It’s just an uncomfortable feeling and I was hoping I wasn’t alone. Your comment makes me feel so much better!
@Car1985 my RHR went up over 30 (52 to 85) last pregnancy with the twins and they had no concerns so 105 seems totally reasonable for you. If your doctor isn't worried- you shouldn't either!
Anyone have zero morning sickness in their first trimester only to have nausea and occasional vomiting show up in their second trimester? I’ve been struggling with it and I can’t pinpoint what is causing it or if it’s just pregnancy hormones!
I just looked back at the Product Spotlight on Cribs, etc. and didn't see any discussion on mattresses (I would post this here but it was so long ago I'm afraid no one would see it). We got a hand me down last time so didn't do any mattresses. Does anyone love their crib mattress? What did you consider must haves? Thanks!
Re: The Great Big Question Thread
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
we are a fam of 5 and when I was pregnant w #3 we got a suburban. We have a ton of space for strollers in the trunk and we have the captains chairs in the middle row. It looks like this: our 8 year old sits in the third row on his own, our 6 year old sits in one of the captain chairs, and our 3 year old in the other one. They are fully able to buckle themselves and get in and out for school drop off etc. When baby #4 comes in the summer our 8 and 6 will go in the back row and the 3 and newborn will be in car seats in the middle. It’s easy that way to buckle them in and out. For reference we have a 2020 suburban and we absolutely love it, it’s exactly what we needed. We also have an 80 lb german shepherd so when we go places she has plenty of room in the trunk. The Tahoe doesn’t have the space we would need in the trunk. Hope this helps!
better judgement) and now I’m worrying.