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November 2023 Moms
knottiee3a565ac10d4d5f7
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Well, in a few weeks, just shy of my 51st birthday, my 49yr old wife and I will become parents for the first time.
As Nov 8th (and possibly late October) rapidly approaches, we are both getting more excited. But also more nervous.
My wife is doing great. Blood pressure normal, iron levels back on track and no gestational diabetes. Baby Inca is measuring right on point, and has finally turned from the frank breach position to head down. Everything is as it should be. But we are both so anxious.
I worry about many many things. Baby choking. Baby smothering. Overheating. Getting sick. I worry about our finances. (We were relatively comfortable as a couple, but of course baby changes everything). I worry that I'll have to work until I'm 75. And what kind of work will that be? I'm already experiencing ageism in IT at 50!
We also worry about location.as soon as baby is old enough, mamma has recovered, and hopefully interest rates come down a little, we plan on selling our apt in NYC and moving out of state to hopefully a 5+ acre home, preferably in Tennesse. Not to get political, but NYC is going down the toilet with liberal woke nonsense and we do not want to raise a kid here. I've been doing renovations to the apartment (refinished hardwood floors, repainted, new quartz countertop and tiling in the kitchen, new light fixtures, blinds and curtains.) It is partly nesting and partly upgrading to get a better sale price.
This community has been awesome. We have found a lot of help and support. But so far, we have not met any new parents at 50. We feel pretty alone. I'm from Ireland and my wife is from Peru...both immigrants, and both struggling to make our way in the US.
Anyhow, that's our rant for today. We are very excited. Very grateful. But increasingly anxious.
October Randoms
knottiee3a565ac10d4d5f7
member
Well, in a few weeks, just shy of my 51st birthday, my 49yr old wife and I will become parents for the first time.As Nov 8th (and possibly late October) rapidly approaches, we are both getting more excited. But also more nervous.
My wife is doing great. Blood pressure normal, iron levels back on track and no gestational diabetes. Baby Inca is measuring right on point, and has finally turned from the frank breach position to head down. Everything is as it should be. But we are both so anxious.
I worry about many many things. Baby choking. Baby smothering. Overheating. Getting sick. I worry about our finances. (We were relatively comfortable as a couple, but of course baby changes everything). I worry that I'll have to work until I'm 75. And what kind of work will that be? I'm already experiencing ageism in IT at 50!
We also worry about location.as soon as baby is old enough, mamma has recovered, and hopefully interest rates come down a little, we plan on selling our apt in NYC and moving out of state to hopefully a 5+ acre home, preferably in Tennesse. Not to get political, but NYC is going down the toilet with liberal woke nonsense and we do not want to raise a kid here. I've been doing renovations to the apartment (refinished hardwood floors, repainted, new quartz countertop and tiling in the kitchen, new light fixtures, blinds and curtains.) It is partly nesting and partly upgrading to get a better sale price.
This community has been awesome. We have found a lot of help and support. But so far, we have not met any new parents at 50. We feel pretty alone. I'm from Ireland and my wife is from Peru...both immigrants, and both struggling to make our way in the US.
Anyhow, that's our rant for today. We are very excited. Very grateful. But increasingly anxious.
Re: October Randoms
I'm really hoping this boy is born this month lol. I’m short and my belly is HUGE! I’ve been nesting super hard. I’ve got all his stuff organized and put away. I detailed my vehicle and now I’m kind of a psycho in making sure everyone keeps it that way 😂. I’ve shampooed all our carpets lol. Today I’m prepping everything at my job for me to be away. Then this coming week I need to make a folder that clearly explains the care my special needs daughter needs (medications, special diet, etc). Writing my thank you notes and getting those sent this week. Then packing bags for everyone. My hospital bag, go bags for my girls in case they have to hang at the hospital for a few hours, etc. The urgency is so real 😂
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
@varimama - I'm sorry you're feeling overwhelmed and disappointed in yourself. I'll admit, I'm right there with you though. Being on my feet for too long is hard - I could barely make it through a 30 minute trip to the store with DD2 this weekend and I walked like a little old lady the whole time. I cried last night when I asked DH to make dinner after he got home from work because I've been feeling 100% useless. Growing humans is hard.
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Also, completely random but I'm at the elementary school bc both little ones are being recognized today. I had to use the bathroom and, seriously, squatting down to use those kids toilets when you're pregnant is no joke! Lol
Has anyone else experienced multiple turns like this?
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
5lbs 10oz
Mom and baby doing well
I'm also super proud of myself. I finally ordered the crib, dresser, and car seat (apparently infant car seats expire in 7 years instead of 10??), and everything will be delivered this week. So I can now safely drive baby #4 home, put their clothes away, and they have somewhere to sleep lol.
Congratulations @medicmomma6115! What a cute proposal!
Random: add me to the birth announcement list-Baby boy Ari Anselin was born this morning at 35+3 via C-section! My bp was elevated at my 35 week appt on Friday, and given my history my dr and mfm had decided that if/when that happened, they were going to give me steroid shots and deliver 2 days later. So they sent me to l&d from the appointment, where I spent last 2 days on continuous monitoring. Baby is doing well, but needing a little help to catch up on blood sugar, so he’s in the nicu for hopefully not very long, but just taking it day by day. It was a highly emotional but oh so wonderful day!
@ashsowers2020 I am with you on the sleep deprivation. So tough!!
but I am back to the usual 3 hour mini sleeps. So yes, long story short - I am in fact sleep deprived lol
I’ve been nesting hard the last couple weeks. Getting all my loose ends tied up. I’m pretty much done except for this unexpected insurance issue I need to deal with that just popped up for my child who is medically complex. I’m so annoyed. But I suppose it’s been a few years since I’ve had to go toe to toe with her insurance so we were due 🫠😅.
also, this baby is measuring quite large to the point where my midwife is concerned. So I’ve got an anatomy scan this morning to keep tabs on that. I’m excited to see his sweet little face if he lets us. He’s apparently got visible chonk rolls on the ultrasound which is so funny to me because my girls had like no body fat on them when they were born 😂. But like his sisters, he’s already got some substantial hair so that’s fun.
also, in reference to seeing your squishy baby this morning… my babe is measuring smaller than my last (thankfully haha) but he’s so low that at my growth scan yesterday his face was so squished I couldn’t see it much. I hope you have better luck, I was hoping for a nice good look at his sweet face one last time but I guess now I just have to wait for his arrival 😂
squishy face for attention:
I remember so vividly with my oldest that those short stretches of sleep were so good 😂. My youngest’s first year was mostly traumatic so I don’t really recall sleeping then. But I remember that good sleep with my oldest lol