Is it postpartum depression?

bizkitsnkorn

Hi all. Just curious. My last kid was born almost five years ago. I'm not sure how I felt after but this time around I just feel.. sad. I miss being pregnant, I'm stuck in the house since my c section and am still recovering. My fiance is at work during the day and home at night but I have been crying over things a lot easier. When I was pregnant I was hyper vigilant and the hormones made me guarded and grumpy. Now I just don't wanna do anything besides watch the good doctor on hulu. I still make sure both are fed, bathed, taken care of and spend time doing stuff my son. But I'm finding it hard to make time for me, to shower and brush my teeth and just feeling down. I know it can be hormones. I had my baby 8 days ago and I'm stuck cooking and taking care of the kids and often find I moved around Too much and hurt myself a little. Even bathing the little one I had bleeding after from the bending over. I don't necessarily feel alone, as my fiance is involved when he's home but I wish I had friends or family involved. I don't talk to my family and my one friend I don't see.

adeal15

Hey there I am sorry that you are feeling down. 

It definitely could be baby blues which is normal. I had post partum depression with my first two, and I just had a baby 7 weeks ago via emergency c section. I am in the same boat, I do not have friends or family to help. My husband works all day. It is hard taking care of the little ones, and your self as well. 

I can say, that hopefully its the baby blues and you will get better soon, but if it doesnt and last for weeks it may be PPD. 

My best advice to you that I can give given Ive had horrible PPD in the past compared to this time around, SLEEP. Every moment you can, i know its hard but every moment of sleep really makes a difference, I also talk to a therapist via facetime each week and that really helps me get out of my own head and vent. I had moments when I felt like I was mourning my pregnant life being over especially after those post partum appointments for some reason it always hurts like a break up when i leave my appointment lol. It gets easier. 

Just sleep as much as you can, rest as much as you can, I binge watched the real housewives my whole post partum period. Dont be so hard on yourself mama, the dishes and chores can wait, your little one will be ok with PB&J, Lunchables, and things of the sorts for just a little bit. 

It gets better! 💖

adeal15

Also, maybe consider sneaking a shower in when the kids are asleep for nap. I try to get them asleep at some point at the same time. If not see if you can take a shower with the older one to kill two birds with one stone. The hardest part is getting up and getting in the shower once you are in you will feel alot better

bizkitsnkorn

It's so hard. I wanna talk to my therapist but I have court going on, and they're trying to go after me for my past three years ago instead of looking at me in the present. I'm made a complete change in my life so I'm worried if I address it, they will put me on meds and all meds I have adverse reactions to psych meds and they make me worse..

It feels like a break up now. Idk why. I can finally sleep and my insomnia is better and instead of 40 mins 2x a day I sleep for three hours then wake up to breastfeed the baby. I do pump but it's only enough for my fiance to feed the baby one or two times a day right now, so they can have bonding time and I can eat something or pee alone.

I'm so concerned about my 5yo feeling left out I'm still promoting healthy breakfast choices and homemade meals for dinner when I can. And I try to do an activity each day with him as I've been schooling him on a subject a day to prep him for kindergarten but this has been since he could talk.

I probably am being hard on myself but I feel like this is hard. The baby part is easy for me, I know what to do this time around. But being stuck home and alone and not doing anything or I guess not feeling important now that the baby is here just feels... Sucky.

adeal15

I understand. It is very important that you seek help if you need it though. Maybe consider seeing a different therapist for the mean time that specializes in post partum just to help you get through this time. It’s not your fault you’re feeling this way many women feel exactly how you do at some point. I cant emphasize enough on getting sleep it makes a huge difference. Maybe try going on a walk with the baby? That helped me. I got out and did littke things which also helped spend time with my other children. Don’t suffer in silence, talk to your husband or someone anyone. Do not feel bad about how you feel it is ok to be a lame selfish you just birthed a whole human. 

I recommend looking up Life Stance, they service multiple states and its virtual. I talk to my therapist as often as I need and she’s never even brought up meds at all which I too am against. It will help to just have someone to vent to. 

adeal15

A little selfish ***

knottie17f0bf275d3f372c

Don't afraid to ask for help or talk to  your partner , family or friend if you need anything like food, support , concerns . It's important to rest as much as you can and take it easy each day to heal your body.  Just let you know that you are doing an amazing job as a mom and I know your hard time is not last long. The award is your baby is healthy and they love you . 

janiejameslove

Hello there! Sorry to hear or read about your situation because being a mother is really hard because we are at home with our kids. Here are the list of symptoms if you it:

• Feeling of sadness and anxiety
• Sleeping a lot or too less
• Eating too less or too much
• Unexplained aches, pain or illness
• Anxiety, irritation or anger for no reason
• Sudden mood changes
• Poor concentration
• Difficulty in remembering things
• Feelings of worthlessness, guilt and hopelessness
• Recurrent thoughts of death and suicide
• Lack of pleasure in things that were earlier enjoyable
• Feeling disconnected with the baby

mira67778

Hello, I should be happy. And I want to cry. My memory has deteriorated. I recently forgot that I was baking pereg. It was completely burnt