Help! Toddler Temper Tantrum or?

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I just had a baby (male) on April 29th, and my toddler, David (male, 13 mos.) at home had been doing okay. This is our second night with our newborn at home, and I’d decided I didn’t want David to have milk at night to sleep. He’d been using it to sleep and it’d helped, but the pediatrician advised against it (because teeth rot, ear infection, etc.). My husband put him down with water. He’d had it nights before with no problem when he had a stomach bug, so I thought, no biggie.
Well…David had the biggest temper tantrum I’d ever seen! And I’m a mom of 5, (all mostly teens and preschool age) now, so I’ve seen it all. He full on yells at the top of his lungs in a tone that would hurt anyone’s throat. He was consistent in using that very high pitched scream. I needed to get SOME sleep, so my husband took him a lukewarm bath, sang to him, rocked him for 2 or so hours, and the screaming did not cease. I held him and cried my eyes out because hormones, and I thought maybe I’d already broken the poor child. I never thought it was the milk, but as soon as we gave him his sippy cup with milk, it was over. My husband and I were dumbfounded since he’d been hurting his own self for milk. He’s done this same self torture before, but it’s always subsided when we figure out what he needs, but this was excessive. When I mean excessive, I mean, he was having a fit of rage so intense I thought he needed the church to intervene. Is this worth mentioning at the pediatrician’s office? Is he going to grow up to be aggressive? Anger issues? This is really messing me up right now, and I feel as though if I don’t do it all correct, I’ll mess up his whole life. :s

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Sweetheart, I’m on here as a grandmother of my first 13 month grandson. I was shocked at how much I had forgotten and how much I had remembered. I wish I could hug you, because if you have five children, including a toddler and a newborn only a couple days old, you are doing something wonderfully right. Trust yourself, I hear your humor, but most of all I hear your love. You’re not ruining anything. I think of the hormones weren’t raging. You would be able to see what a wonderful job you’re doing.