August 2023 Moms

Weekly Check-in 4/10

EDD/Weeks + days:

Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: 

Baby is the size of a(n):

Upcoming appointments:

How are you feeling? 



GTKY: What book(s) are you reading? 

Re: Weekly Check-in 4/10

  • EDD/Weeks + days: 20w2d, EDD 8/26

    Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Girl

    Baby is the size of a(n): Banana

    Upcoming appointments: Anatomy u/s on Thursday

    How are you feeling? Same old stuff - tired, low BP, sciatica

    Raves/Rants: my daughter (2 next month) has a URI, so she was pretty miserable over the weekend and very clingy (unusual for her). It's exhausting to have a sick kiddo - not sure how everyone does it when multiple kids are sick simultaneously. 

    Questions: None

    GTKY: What book(s) are you reading? I actually started reading Cribsheet by Emily Oster because my insurance company sent it to me in my pregnancy care package. 
  • EDD/Weeks + days: Aug 26/ 20 weeks 

    Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Blue 

    Baby is the size of a(n): cantaloupe 

    Upcoming appointments: midwife this Thursday. I hope I don’t see the nurse midwife. She is the only one I dislike. She couldn’t find the heartbeat the last time I was there and when she did finally find it she said it was ridiculously low. I was very upset when I left and I checked it myself when I got home and it was 140 like usual. 🙄

    How are you feeling? I feel like crap. I have been sick again this week. I think we may have covid.  I have had extreme fatigue, diarrhea, dizziness, congestion, and headaches. My husband was exposed from a patient and he was only wearing a regular mask and not an N95. A regular mask isn’t protective so…. The fatigue has been really bad. I have felt almost nonfunctional. 

    Raves/Rants: The baby has definitely grown some because movement is much more frequent and much stronger. I’m feeling lots of outside movement too. It’s been amazing. I have been laying around more so that likely why I have been more aware of it. 


    GTKY: What book(s) are you reading?  Mama Bear Apologetics, Charlotte Mason’s first volume in her series about education, and I have been listening to Midnight Sun here and there. 
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  • @priyadoc It’s extremely exhausting to have multiple sick kids. They all want to be next to you and when I’m sick too it almost feels like I’m suffocating. We have a sectional and we all pile up in one of the big corners and they take turns laying next me. When I had the flu it was the worst. I was coughing so bad and the kids just wouldn’t give me space. At one point I went to my room to cry and I called my husband while he was at work to tell him I felt like I was dying. Very dramatic of me. 🤣
  • EDD/Weeks + days:8/28 20w

    Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: finding out… very soon 😬

    Baby is the size of a(n): banana 

    Upcoming appointments: sitting the in waiting room for my MFM consult and anatomy scan now slightly panicking I don’t really have a reason to be but whatever they say determines the rest of this pregnancy midwife on Friday hopefully depending on how this goes 

    How are you feeling? Overall good little to no symptoms currently very nervous for above mentioned reasons

    Raves/Rants: Raves I love that me and DH were able to use todays appointment as an excuse to get out just the two of us and have a little date day

    Questions: not right now 

    GTKY: What book(s) are you reading? Homestead living by Melissa k Norris I love watching her videos and reading her advice even though our climates couldn’t be more different maybe it’s because she’s in Washington where I was born I still feel that connection even though I can’t apply a lot of her techniques due to the climate difference 

    @priyadoc so sorry your daughter is sick right now that is definitely hard clingy is definitely one of my daughters top symptoms when she’s sick as well and it definitely wears me down hopefully she gets better quick
  • EDD/Weeks + days: 8/5, 23w2d

    Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: blue

    Baby is the size of a(n): app says grapefruit… must be a huge one 

    Upcoming appointments: next month

    How are you feeling? Just so done being tired. I have almost no downtime from kids because I work with them. I’m up with DS each morning and pretty much exhausted by the time I put him to bed. 

    Raves/Rants: I guess how I’m feeling is my rant. All of our family lives 2 hours or more away from us. We’re going to have to get serious about finding a back up sitter when we have baby 2. 


    GTKY: What book(s) are you reading? Haven’t really started them yet, but I picked up Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth and Last Child in the Woods. I’ve only skimmed them so far
  • @tumbleweed-1 I can only imagine that you’re tired working with kids all the time. 
  • edited April 11
    EDD/Weeks + days: 8/18.    21.3

    Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: successfully stayed team green through the anatomy scan! Almost caved haha

    Baby is the size of a(n): Endive

    Upcoming appointments: first week of May - glucose screen that week too. I’m worried about failing it since I technically failed before pregnancy due to my PCOS. 

    How are you feeling? Finally a little better. Only nauseous once or twice a day and finally getting some energy back. Started on famotidine for heartburn which has helped a lot too, it was keeping me up at night.

    Raves/Rants: Rant/Rave, I’m honestly not sure. I think I’ve decided to drop working in the ICU. I absolutely love it. But it’s a 75 minute drive and was not fun this winter. I only work once a week but I don’t want to get stuck there when I have a baby, and I had to stay in that city a few times this winter. My other nursing job is 5 minutes away from me and it just makes more sense. Ugh… I’m struggling so much with this decision as ICU is truly my passion and that ICU is the closest one to my house. Anybody else have to choose something like this? Hard to choose between my dream job and my baby. Everyone says it’ll all make sense when the baby is here, but I want to make this decision before staring at my child and being even more hormonal than I am now. 

    Questions: See above I guess haha.

    GTKY: What book(s) are you reading? Nothing currently, just doing a lot of research into labor coping. I know all about it from the nurse side but it feels a lot different going into it from the patient side. Anybody have any books or resources they loved?

  • edited April 11
    EDD/Weeks + days: 21 weeks this week; 8/23 due date

    Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Blue 💙

    Baby is the size of a(n): well it seems baby is a bit larger than whatever 21 weeks is, so I have no idea

    Upcoming appointments: just had follow up OB today. Next visit is in May

    How are you feeling? Not bad. Feeling large lately, which was just reinforced today when I was told I’m measuring 23 weeks 🤦🏻‍♀️ She couldn’t have just said everything is normal…

    Raves/Rants: Just a rant about taxes. My accountant is behind on my business taxes. So stress of the week is taxes are due Friday, we don’t know what I owe or what I owe for this quarter. It’s ok…it’s all ok. 

    Questions: nope just trying to live my best life with this being my last pregnancy. 

    GTKY: What book(s) are you reading? I wish I had time to read. I have a home study training book to read for continuing education for one of my certifications and I’m finding it hard to find time for that. I need to finish it this week! 

    Dx: Non-IR PCOS
    Baby Girl K #1 Born 3/8/14
    Baby Girl K #2 EDD 3/3/19
  • EDD/Weeks + days: 21+5, 8/16

    Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: blue💙

    Baby is the size of a(n): endive or gogurt 

    Upcoming appointments: none this week

    How are you feeling? I’ve been feeling more like myself…a huge version of myself lol but myself. I get wiped by 3pm pretty much everyday, I have to eat constantly too or I get lightheaded and weird feeling.I do have some pubic bone pain so I gotta get into the chiropractor for that.

    Raves/Rants: rave, I feel pretty good for the first time this pregnancy!


    GTKY: What book(s) are you reading? In vital harmony, don’t know who the author is off the top of my head. It’s a charlotte mason overview type book. 
  • @cherrystorming I like The Bradley Method. It’s a good book that takes you through the labor stages and what to expect. I found the techniques to be extremely helpful too. 

    @novelblessings I measured 2 weeks ahead with one of my pregnancies and I felt huge too. They also harassed me about GD. 🙄 

    @justyouraveragemama I have that book on my shelf. I haven’t gotten to it yet but I plan to. I really love the Charlotte Mason lifestyle/philosophy. Our school time is more lively with all the good books. Plus, a lot of the books on our school list are books I never had the opportunity to read in high school so I will be reading alongside them and learning when we get to those. We use Ambleside and I love it. Such a great feast for them to read through the years. 
  • estadtestadt member
    EDD/Weeks + days: August 28th 20 weeks 2 days 

    Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: blue but still pretending I don’t know 

    Baby is the size of a(n): banana??

    Upcoming appointments: anatomy scan today! 

    How are you feeling? Tired, the 3pm wall hits hard these days. But also good it’s been so nice out we have gotten outside for family walks on a trail by the water every night which has felt great

    Raves/Rants: we have a horrible issue of staying up watching our shows after our daughter goes to bed and next thing we know it’s 12 and 5 am comes way to quick 

    Questions: not at the moment 

    GTKY: What book(s) are you reading? None currently I need to refund my love of reading 
  • EDD/Weeks + days: 19w6d, 8/30

    Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: blue 💙

    Baby is the size of a(n): bowl of cereal

    Upcoming appointments: the 24th, one of my regular 2 week check ups.

    How are you feeling? Feeling great! Very tired still but really can’t complain too much. Belly feels very heavy and the RLP is intense sometimes. But baby boy is moving and grooving and I can’t get enough of it!

    Raves/Rants: We had the tree company out yesterday to give a quote on removing our massive tree next to the house. I wish it wasn’t so much money but we’re moving fears with it since it’s right next to both bedrooms the kids will be in and I already have terrible anxiety about it falling every time it’s windy. Otherwise we need to get started on clearing out the bedroom DD will be moving into so we can paint it and rip up the carpet. So much on my to do list!

    Questions: nah

    GTKY: What book(s) are you reading? Finishing up the most recent Outlander book (Go Tell the Bees That I Am Gone) and then I have the Court of Thorns series waiting for me to dive into on my kindle.

  • @estadt I stay up late too and always regret it in the morning. We just got another 6 inches of snow but I can’t wait to take walks and not need all the gear. 

    @gingermama29 You will have to let me know how you like the Court of Thorns. I have looked at that series a few times and just haven’t pulled the trigger. 
  • @emeraldcity603 I am finally digging into all the different homeschool styles because I feel like I can teach DS better if I find the method that works best for us vs doing just whatever curriculum we find (currently doing gather round because he doesn’t transition through different subjects well when they’re separate). I feel like he’d benefit from supplementing and I think charlotte mason is perfect for that! I do like the book so far but I am only on like chapter 3 lol 

    from what I read I think charlotte mason matches us really well!
  • @justyouraveragemama There is a quiz online (you can google and it should pop right up) that you can take and it will tell you which homeschool style fits you best. My kids are thriving. I don’t like using textbooks or workbooks so this has been a great fit for us. 
  • @ccmrc143 you know the amazingness of Wegmans?!?! Where are you from? 
  • @ccmrc143 Have you considered compression socks for the swelling? 
  • msjaaymsjaay member
    EDD/Weeks + days: 24w, 6 months snuck up!

    Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Team green

    Baby is the size of a(n): A puffin

    Upcoming appointments: 5/4, my 3rd anatomy scan lol. Glucose test the following week on 5/9.

    How are you feeling? Pretty good! Mainly just winded, but still able to be active and sleeping pretty well for right now.

    Raves/Rants: @ccmrc143 I'll join you on your rave! We do a lot of holidays with my family and the ILs (they live like 5 min away from each other) and it's so nice not to have to juggle time and holidays. My family always hosts and I don't really think the ILs enjoyed hosting, so it all works out. I also really just enjoyed doing Easter w/ my daughter. She's such a fun age right now. I love hanging out with her and simultaneously get a little sad knowing I'm going to have to split my time before too long. I know I'll figure it out and everyone does, but I'm just in my feels a little bit right now about it.


    GTKY: What book(s) are you reading? Just started Honor.

    @cherrystorming I'm worried about my glucose test for those very same reasons. I was borderline with my first and even my OB saw that I was in the afternoon this time and was like, okay, let's make sure you're eating just protein that day and try not to eat anything to spike it. My genetic counselor told me to stay on my metformin because it can possibly help with it. We'll see.
  • @gingermama29 omg so my family is from upstate NY so whenever we went to visit growing up, a wegmans trip was a huge deal! I loved the bulk candy. And then they started getting them in the mid-Atlantic. I’m in Virginia and am 10 minutes from one! It’s amazing. Are you in the NY area?? I feel like that’s where the wegmans diehard fans live 
    @emeraldcity603 oh that’s a great call! I have compression socks for blood clot prevention but of course they can also aid in swelling :) 
  • @ccmrc143 hahaha yup I am! I live in WNY not far from Buffalo and Rochester so Wegmans is a way of life around here! Where in upstate is your family from?
  • @emeraldcity603 ugh! I only feel huge now because she said something. I hope they don’t get on me about GD. I never had issues before. 

    My other two always “measured on time” with variations towards the end and I know it’s just a stupid measurement. She said it was just my long torso but I’m like, nope I’m just huge…just say it. I really haven’t packed on pounds either. This baby just sits differently but it’s already annoying as he’s already low. If I sit he gets mad, if I lean over he gets mad, if I cross my less he gets mad. I’m like dude get out of my lower abdomen then, it’s not time yet! 😂
    Dx: Non-IR PCOS
    Baby Girl K #1 Born 3/8/14
    Baby Girl K #2 EDD 3/3/19
  • @gingermama29 oh wow that’s close!! My family is from Corning. I have an uncle in Buffalo too and lots of folks up in that general area! I have another close friend from the Albany area and she was telling me about this other grocery store that is near them and it’s terrible but for political reasons they don’t get to have wegmans?? Something like that? The drama 😂
    I grew up outside DC and out county has a law against big box stores. My mom would literally write to the governor and explain that Wegmans is not the same as wal mart and they should make an exception! 
  • @novelblessings Hopefully they won’t bug you about GD. At every appointment they would ask, “did you fail your glucose test?” And I would say, nope! Passed with flying colors. Then their follow up question would be, did you have GD with any other pregnancy? 🙄 I didn’t. And it was the same conversation at every single appointment. 
  • @emeraldcity603 ugh that’s so annoying!! I totally get why it’s a big deal to know and manage but sheesh. Makes me thankful I just have one doctor that I’ll see for every visit and labor who will know me (at least he better ;)

    @ccmrc143 imagining that letter writing campaign for Wegmans made me laugh 😂 I’ve never heard of this but sounds like I need to add it to the list of things to do some day.
  • ki1244ki1244 member
    This Wegmans conversation is killing me. 😂 We have one here but it's a solid 25 minutes away and soooooo much more expensive than my beloved Aldi. Trader Joe's, I make exceptions for -- I loooooove TJs too -- but haven't fully embraced the Wegmans love (yet?).

    EDD/Weeks + days: 8/10, so 22+6 I think?

    Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: pink

    Baby is the size of a(n): GIANT BABY. I've seen anything from a chinchilla to a honeydew.

    Upcoming appointments: next Thursday, regular 24 week + follow-up anatomy scan 

    How are you feeling? My belly button HURTS. It's turning inside out and I hate hate hate that feeling. Otherwise still normal. Just kind of winded if I'm having to run or climb a lot of steps or whatever.

    Raves/Rants: Long rant alert -- I think I need to find a new doctor for my daughter (and me). We had been going to a family practitioner who I LOVE. Like I actually looked forward to seeing her at appointments -- she's so kind, and made me feel like such a good mom. But her office is useless. They only just (like last week) stopped requiring masks at visits, which always made me leery, especially when they would insist on me masking my 3-year-old at a follow-up for a hospitalization due to asthma. When we have appointments, we check in and wait a good 15 minutes minimum, and then see a nurse for a few minutes, then wait another 30 minutes again. Suuuuper fun with a preschooler. My last straw was this week -- my daughter has been having night terrors, consistently every night, for six weeks now. Its been slowly driving us nuts but now she's started having them when she wakes from naps, whenever she does take one. From everything I've read, it's nothing to be concerned about every so often, but when it's that frequent, it's time to let a doctor know. So I put in a message over the weekend to her office, and here we are Wednesday and finally THIS AFTERNOON I get a response of "Sorry to hear that, please set up an appointment." Aaaaaaaargh maybe this is typical but it's very unlike our old pediatrician's office (nurse would call back same day, always, ask follow up questions, and usually be able to give solid advice over the phone rather than requiring a visit) and drives me nuts that a simple question, every single time I ask one (not just this one) apparently requires a $25 copay and 90 minute investment in the office. Really I just need to find a direct primary care provider because that suits my style SO MUCH BETTER but there is nary a pediatric DPC provider in my city of one million people.

    Questions: nothing this week 

    GTKY: What book(s) are you reading? Bahahahahaha books. I wish. I've been referencing Expecting Better and Cribsheet a lot but haven't had a chance to actually sit down and read those (or anything else lately, really) cover to cover. I want to get Help Me, God, I'm a Parent and/or Dear Mother by Bunmi Laditan but haven't gotten to either of those yet.
  • @ki1244 My pediatrician office finally made masks optional but the office manager didn’t bother to post a sign and I was struggling with my 3 yo to get him to keep the mask on and she finally said, “oh they are optional.” I immediately took all of our masks off and tossed them in the trash. I haven’t even been wearing them when we have had appointments at the hospital. Finally! I will say, our office wait time in the lobby is zero. We go straight back to a room and wait roughly 10-15 minutes. It’s been nice. I had an office in TX that was hard to get ahold of and when I did the nurses weren’t helpful. I actually had a nurse tell me I needed to supplement my newborn because she was jaundice. 🙄 All my babies have been jaundice and I have never supplemented. I just nurse them constantly to get them to poop it all out. Anyways, I ended up finding a great office in that area and never looked back. I hope you can find something that works for y’all. Long wait times and slow responses shouldn’t be the norm. 
  • @ki1244 I totally get it! Wegmans isn’t cheap and Aldi is AMAZING. We’re about 15-20min from one and if it were closer I’m sure we’d go there way more. TJ’s is a tough one for me. Again it’s a little further out than I want to go, and it’s right near Whole Foods so I’d probably just end up at WF instead.  I know TJ’s fans and idk, something about a store with all unfamiliar brands, with kind of a weird/chaotic layout makes me hesitant to make it my permanent store. I guess I’m not a big snack explorer/purchaser and I totally see why TJ’s is the top destination for people who are. Obviously grocery stores are a big deal to me :) 

    as for masks at the doctor, I’m totally dreading my son’s first appointment once he turns two in May. I think that 2 is the age they require them. My son won’t even wear gloves or a hat when it’s below freezing…I just don’t think it’s going to work for him. Fingers crossed they lift the mandate at our pediatrician sometime soon so I don’t have to worry about this. 
  • EDD/Weeks + days: 23+3

    Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: blue 

    Baby is the size of a(n): grapefruit/Barbie doll? 

    Upcoming appointments: OB today 

    How are you feeling? Actually not bad (knock on wood)! I’m hoping my blood pressure has settled out, I guess we will see today. It’s been low so I’ve been consuming a irresponsible amount of salt and vinegar chips because it’s been helping keep the headaches and blurred vision away. 

    Raves/Rants: I have the best husband. Whenever I feel like I just can’t do this, he always steps up. No prompting, never complains. I’ve been an emotional mess for months it seems and his response is to shower me with as much love as possible, it’s made the world of difference.  And he’s so so excited to be a dad. I’m worried if I’ll be a good mom, but I know he’ll be the best dad. Poor guy learned this week how much blood women lose in childbirth, he panicked and I tried to reassure him it was normal. 


    GTKY: What book(s) are you reading? I have three books on the go and cannot get into any of them. Daughter of the reich, It happened last summer, and Anne of green gables. All good books, well less so It happened last summer, the main character is infuriating, but none can hold my attention. I’m trying to get into the habit of drinking my morning coffee in bed while I read as a morning routine (days I don’t work), in bed because if I try and do this in the living room I inevitably end up tidying and never finishing my coffee. 
  • ki1244ki1244 member
    @lizdiane456 girl, @emeraldcity603 beat me to saying it -- bad moms never wonder if they'll be bad, much less worry about it. And one of the best things you can do as a mom, especially to a boy, is to show him how much you love your husband and tell your little guy about all the things his dad does for your family. His job is to model being a good husband/dad, but as a wife/mom it's SO important to model appreciation for that too. So double whammy -- you actively think about being a good mom, AND you recognize and praise your husband publicly? You're doing awesome and this kid isn't even born yet.

    @ccmrc143 you guys still have a mandate there too? I swore this office (well, system, they're part of an academic network here) was the last to require it. I think the CDC recommended 2 and up, but I also think the CDC has never seen a toddler. I could go on a whole rant here but I'll save you that and instead say that the turbinado dark chocolate almonds from TJ are life. But I love love love grocery shopping so even though I'm fairly Aldi-loyal, I do get sort of picky about my stores. When we go visit DH's family in Virginia/NC, I hate when we stop at Food Lion, but the Harris Teeter or Publix by their beach house is a damn DESTINATION for me.

    @emeraldcity603 I actually just sent a message tonight to see if my daughter's allergist has any ped recommendations. We love love love him (he used to be a practicing pediatrician before going back to specialize as a pediatric allergist) as well as his whole office, and his opinion is practically a mandate for us. And I'm done with our current doc for sure now. Since the response to set up an appointment didn't come in until yesterday afternoon, I tried last night to set up a telehealth appointment online, which apparently isn't possible to do in their portal like an in-office visit would be, so I called in this morning and her first available time FOR A 20-MINUTE TELEHEALTH CALL isn't until Monday afternoon. So a full week after I asked what I think is a simple question (here's what's going on, here's what we've tried, here's what I suspect, do you recommend a referral to a sleep specialist or is there anything else I should try first) I get to hop on my laptop and read the exact message I sent in. This is also the practice who wouldn't prescribe a controller med for my daughter to BREATHE LIKE A NORMAL HUMAN after the ER doc we saw (for her 4th ER visit in six weeks) tried to do it but insurance blocked it and said it would need to come from a primary care physician -- instead they would only refer us to an allergist, who magically had an appointment open THE NEXT DAY and gave us a prescription for the exact same thing. (That worked in our favor, at least, since he gave us a "sample" to carry us through an entire year.) That was my red flag. A week for this, especially if it'll likely wind up with a referral to someone else who we will likely have to wait to see? I'm done. WHY IS MEDICINE SUCH A JOKE ANYMORE?!?! Do I have 1960s expectations here? 
  • @ki1244 Sounds like the l insurance company is causing problems too. A good pediatrician office is so important. It would stress me out to have such slow response times and minimal appointment availability. I like same day visits for when my kids are sick. The office we use has three different locations so they try to work us in to one of them when we need it. I’m glad you were able to see a specialist so fast. We had to wait several months for an appointment for the allergist and GI doctor. Our daughter will likely need to be scoped because the path we are taking isn’t working and I wanted less invasive first. She is in pain all the time and isn’t really gaining weight. they prescribed her medication to increase her appetite to help her gain. I hope y’all get it figured out so you can get the care you need. 
  • vgravesjudovgravesjudo Just Joined
    edited November 15
    @tumbleweed-1 I work with kids as well. I can only imagine how tired you are! It is hard when your family is all far away as well. But maybe this will be helpful, as far as a baby sitter in the future goes, IDK where you live in the country but it might be worth while looking at a drop-in daycare service for when you are in a pinch. For example,

    There are different ones like this all over the country that might help.
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