Nervous about breastfeeding - not what you think!

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Disclaimer: this is how I PERSONALLY feel about MY OWN body. This post is not meant to be a generalization or representation of all women.

(I am currently 14 weeks pregnant with my first baby)

As far as physical features go, I have always been very proud of my breasts. I feel the most sexy in a shirt that hugs my curves and specifically accentuates my breasts. When having $ex, or getting $exually aroused, my biggest turn on is having my breasts/nipples massaged or stimulated/played with. I have always viewed MY OWN breasts sexually.

How am I supposed to breast feed if I see my breasts as sexual and get aroused by them? I want to breast feed, or at least try to 🤞, because formula is expensive. But I can't help but feel weird about it! Also, let's say I successfully navigate the initial transition, what's going to happen when my husband and I want to have $ex, and now they're sexual again? Has anyone experienced this or struggled with this? How am I supposed to see them as a source of food, and an agent of arousal, but only at the appropriate times?! Ugh.

swizzlemalarkey

I was the same way. But breastfeeding is painful in the beginning. (At least it was for me). So there was absolutely no way It was similar to how things are with a partner. Even after it stopped hurting, it’s just different. The only way you’ll know how it makes you feel is to try. If it’s too uncomfortable for you you can always stop. I will say in my own personal experience I don’t really enjoy my husband touching them while I’m still in this moment of breastfeeding. It’s almost like I don’t want to confuse the two. I’m not sure how I’ll feel after we’re weaned, but my son is 2.5 so idk how long we’ll go for. My husband and I are also very rarely intimate, so I hope you have better luck in your journey! 

harpseal135

They are completely 2 different things.  Breast feeding in nowhere near arousing.  It can actually hurt.  Trust me it's not arousing at all! 

stashattack

Idk I found it easy to separate the two. Hell I even loved how my engorged tits looked (even though it felt like hell) to the point I'm snapping a pic next time for a plastic surgeon. Seriously. Lol. I felt incredibly sexy as a lactating human outside of the actual feeding part. 

But while feeding my child, it wasn't sexy. It was exhausting. It was a job in itself. I was providing nourishment. There's a difference for sure. 

Idk it's about compartmentalizing. Just like I have mom mode now and wife mode. It's one body but different mentalities. 

shley2014

I totally understand your concern! I wondered the same as my breasts are my trigger sexually so I was nervous for how I (or my spouse) would feel about them.

Breastfeeding was hard the first few weeks but once I got a good latch down it became easier and was not painful. It was so trippy seeing milk coming out of them at first, haha 😳 Eventually I actually enjoyed the feeling of my baby nursing! I'm guessing just all that oxytocin courses though you and I felt so bonded to this little person that I'm literally nurturing with my body. It's what my boobs are there for! Lol.

My husband still thought I was attractive through everything. The birth experience was so bonding for us, we just wanted to be close and intimate just bc our love for each other had grown in all this. It looked a little different though. My sensation on my nipples had gone down a lot since I had a baby literally sucking on them for hours a day. So hubby still enjoyed them, but I couldn't feel as much. I tried to use the opportunity to get in touch with other parts of my body that can be arousing. I feel like down yonder became more arousing than it was before for me.

It's a journey. Sometimes things weren't working or libido was lower, but it's about the connection with your partner 💜 But now it's like, I'm a goddess! We're literally the sustainers of life! And maybe I even took on that persona once I processed it. Like, it's all pretty hot when you think about it. Our bodies' design and beauty is largely because of the parts that are useful for babies. I feel like it's just part of the sexy continuum. Just my opinion on it 😊💜

ashwee0424

It's so different and I personally couldn't even get aroused by my boobs while I breastfed because the nipples just felt different (and usually I get super aroused by nipple play). While I breastfed my boobs were off limits lol